Making the porn decision.
My friend runs a ton of successful solo girl sites.
He's been begging me to get into it for a while. At first I was hesitant- but every day I'm a little more intrigued. I'd be able to live where I love, have enough time to work another job. I know I'll never run for office or anything.
I realize this is a huge decision, but recently I've only been seeing the pros and not the cons- I think this has a lot to do with the fact that my parents just found out I already am a sex worker.
I mean, I would be fucking on cam or anything, just stripping and teasing and diddling myself.
Thoughts?
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If you are comfortable with the possibility of them seeing you doing that,then go for it. When something is filmed theres always the possibility people you dont want to see it will.
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I've done it and I regret it. I'm not planning on running for office, but I'd rather not have those images out there. The money? Gone in a fleeting second. The images? Forever. It was always solo work, but that is irrelevant. Naked pictures... of everything... not worth it. Yes, it's "easy", but it is a PERMANENT decision.
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I already have nudes and stuff on the internet... just nothing super erotic.
My parents saw my nekkid pictures and freaked out, then chose to ignore it.
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There might be stuff in your future where the less nakey stuff out there the better... besides your parents. Besides, if you're going to have your own solo site... you're going to be highly advertised... Plus, they'll be recent. You'll be much more likely to be recognized. I strongly advise against it. Shoot, HardKandee was even sent some of MY old stuff by pure coinicidence because they OWN those photos and they can sell them for cheap to whomever they wish.
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This is something I've been thinking about a lot recently too. For some people this would be a terrible decision to make and could haunt you in the gfuture, for others not so much:-\
If I do go ahead with it, (more and more of me is thinking I will,) I'll probably wear a wig or something so it's not obviously me.
If your comfortable with it then do it, it's not an easy decision I know.
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My ATF did porn ten years ago. When dancers ask her about doing it she always tells them that she doesn't think it's a good idea. Not because she has any regrets about the work but simply because the internet is forever. Even if it's only web cam there are guys recording this stuff all the time. Her stuff is still on sites all over the internet and everyone from phone sex companies to Vegas escort agencies have pirated her photo shoots to use on their sites.
It could wind up anywhere now or years from now...
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My personal opinion is that if you have done your research and are 100% sure with no doubt in your mind, you should do it.
If you have a shred of doubt, air on the side of caution. Like everyone else has said, it's forever.
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I'll be honest here... wait. Simply because from an outsider perspective, a woman who has been stripping, has had multiple sugar daddies, and still only has 600 dollars to her name needs to learn better personal management skills (not meant to be negative, merely an observation!) before taking on something big like that.
Also, CA is very different, from what I gather. Still kind of unsure why you want to come out here, but if you rreally want to do porn, it's a different animal out here. You'll be a very tiny fish in a very depressing pond.
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Yes..porn in LA is hardcore...I'm often a wreck physically by the time I come home from shooting there.
I am fine(obviously) with my porn being out there. I've already been disowned by my ex-brother because of it,but we werent close at all so whatever. I'd be upset if my parents found out because it would upset them and my dad isnt well...but at the end of the day I decided that I need to make my own decisions and they can make theirs(as to their reaction...they can disown me or support me...its their choice). I'm only responsible for me. I lived a LONG time feeling like I had to live my life for other people and I finally decided that that wasnt making me happy.
In the end...its a decision only you can make.
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My friend corrected me- its not really "porn" he claims. There nothing hardcore. Just naked photos, some striptease videos, and then camming every week.
So nothing different than what I have been doing.
The reason I have $600 to my name is that I just had to help my PARENTS pay off some debt so they wouldn't lose their house... I have never had this little money before and truthfully its freaking me out. I haven't danced since June though...
And the reason that I am no longer at the horse farm is b/c the guy was a perv and had cameras everywhere and no locks on the doors of my apt.
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Why don't you just stick to stripping and SD work? From what I've heard, porn doesn't pay all that well. And even if you are making slightly more than you would stripping (which I doubt you would, since you're only doing webcam strip teases and such), is it really worth the added stress of wondering where your videos and pictures will end up?
You may only have $600 now...but you can basically double that in one night at the strip club. Seems odd to turn to something new when you can so easily just continue working in a no-risk environment like the SC.
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Its still porn..just not hardcore. The reasoning still stands...if you are ok with people ever seeing this,then do it. If you arent...then dont.
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I can't strip here... for various reasons. I will be dancing for a LOT of people I know, and I'm just not down with that. I don't care if they see me, but my performance will be thrown off completely.
The clubs here are also very different, a lot of pole work. I worked in clubs in NYC where you basically just posed and went to VIP. There is VIP at only one club in my city, and even then its super cheap. I dont like the constantly LDing hustle, I have a knee injury I never got surgery for and I physically can't do that many.
I've been considering it for a while, and I'm very comfortable with the guy that will be shooting it (he's the guy who did Cam's Cougars In Heat Vid, I've known him for 4 years.)
Its a reputable company, I've seen many of their sites before, and I've done my homework. I'd be working 3-4 days a MONTH shooting content, then camming for members once a week. I'd much prefer this instead of NiteFlirt, where there are basically the same dangers of being recorded.
ETA- I dont want to sound like I'm making excuses LOL, I've just considered a lot of the points mentioned here and am sharing the conclusions that I came to on them. :)
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I would be suspicious of this "friend" if he's trying to tell you that it's not porn. Ask him if he sells his material to anyone else.
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Bella, I think he just meant that it wasn't porn in the traditional sense, i.e. watching people fuck.
Bella, I will ask! Thanks for suggesting that.
Is there some kind of contract that could be written up to ensure that?
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What about your SD money? I thought you were rolling in it! (I know that isn't helpful, but I'm just curious. Did something fall through?)
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Charlie,
Nothing happened to it, I just have been paying all off my debt lately since I'm staying with my parents. I had two $1k cards and a loan of $500, plus what I had to help my parents with.
I also don't want to every rely on that money, b/c you NEVER know what will happen.
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^^ Good call. Independence is definitely important. And desperation kills SD's faster than RAID....
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Which guy who did my cougars movie? (PM me if you dont want to say here). The people I worked with on that were great and did gorgeous work. I'd love to work with any of them again...if you decide to do it, I'll come out and do it with you(if he wants me that is)
So many people in the industry only call hardcore "porn" even though other things are because in LA so much hardcore is shot that if you say its porn..thats what people think it will be. So I wouldnt not trust him because of that.
The contract will stipulate who owns it and whether it can be sold. Def ask him,but assume it can/will be sold to others. My cougars movie has been..I find it under a million different names. Its pretty standard in porn for you to sign away your rights to anything shot when you shoot for another company(as opposed to shooting your own content)
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Does the name "Chad" ring a bell? lol
I love the stuff on that site- I was so surprised at the quality now that everything is HD. And I watched yours- you looked gorgeous!
(I love the writeups they make for the scenes, some of the stories are so funny!)
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Ok..I think I remember Chad!Was that the director or the photog? Cool guy. I'd def work with him again...since you are friends..maybe give him a heads up that I'm self booking now and would love to set something up. I dont have contact info. If he is interested I'll PM you my contact info to give him.
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I'm talking to him right now and if I choose to do this will prob fly out to shoot my first content this month.
I'll talk to him about it for sure! they just started a site called "BJs in PJs" lol. I'm sure they need girls!