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Fucking wolf in sheep's clothing.
My guyfriend pretty much shocked me from what he sent me today. We got in a stupid argument over when we were suppose to hang out but I had to work & this is EXACTLY what he sent to me
Him -"I don't care; hang out with your fucking stripper friends/customers. The only reason why they try to take you seriously is because the fact that you're a stripper & they pay to see you strip. I make an honest living and getting paid pretty damn good for it too. It will take more than some change to heal scars!"
I'm just in shock and overall hurt :(
It was just totally uncalled for and I thought he was respectful of what I do but w/e.
Has something uncalled for like this has ever happened to you?
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Guys in particular have a habit of throwing your job as a stripper at you as a way of implying that you are somehow inferior. Don't listen to that insecure bullshit - all it does is show you how inadequate they feel that they somehow have to try to assert some sort of 'moral authority' over you when they don't get their own way.
My ex did this and all it did was show me (along with many other things) how uneasy he was with himself and how threatened he felt by my ability to be a perfectly sound well adjusted person.
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yeah. ive actually lost two friends recently that i had since i was in elementary and middle school. note i was dancing for three years and they just decided like 8 months ago that it makes me a bad person so they wont talk to me but talk a lot of random shit about me all the time.
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I kick these people out my life as soon as they say that shit. I don't have time for passive aggressive hating and abuse. Because it is abuse. I love it how this fucking idiot thought accused you of "hanging out" with others although you were working. He is obviously clueless and worse, is a stripper-hater. STAY AWAY FROM HIM. Don't forgive him. How could you go back to hanging out with him when you know that's how he really feels?
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That sucks...I'm sorry you lost someone you thought was a friend. I had that happen to me once too.
I had just started dancing, and my guy friend (I had known him for years) was really supportive (he loved clubs), so he helped me pick out my clothes and gave me some huslte tips. He was married, so I know what happened was not a jealousy thing.
I started dating this guy (didn't meet him INC) and things were going well. One night, I went out with him and two of his friends. I got drunk, and they slipped something in my drink. I ended up getting raped by all of them and one of them punched me in the face when I tried to protest and fight him off. I got really depressed after, and when I finally told my friend what was wrong, he dropped me like a bad habit. He said he couldn't sit there and watch me go down the road that "most strippers" go down. WTF? It hurt so bad, and I haven't talked to him since.
Fuck "friends"
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Originally Posted by
hazel_eyes
That sucks...I'm sorry you lost someone you thought was a friend. I had that happen to me once too.
I had just started dancing, and my guy friend (I had known him for years) was really supportive (he loved clubs), so he helped me pick out my clothes and gave me some huslte tips. He was married, so I know what happened was not a jealousy thing.
I started dating this guy (didn't meet him INC) and things were going well. One night, I went out with him and two of his friends. I got drunk, and they slipped something in my drink. I ended up getting raped by all of them and one of them punched me in the face when I tried to protest and fight him off. I got really depressed after, and when I finally told my friend what was wrong, he dropped me like a bad habit. He said he couldn't sit there and watch me go down the road that "most strippers" go down. WTF? It hurt so bad, and I haven't talked to him since.
Fuck "friends"
Wow that's pretty harsh ... these are the kinda stories that worry me away from telling anyone where I work :-\
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I agree with the other women here. Thank him for letting you get to see his true colors. You don't have time for people that are going to treat you like that in your life. You deserve people that are going to have your back no matter what. Don't let that fucker get you down. You know how awesome you are. ; )
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Originally Posted by
hazel_eyes
That sucks...I'm sorry you lost someone you thought was a friend. I had that happen to me once too.
I had just started dancing, and my guy friend (I had known him for years) was really supportive (he loved clubs), so he helped me pick out my clothes and gave me some huslte tips. He was married, so I know what happened was not a jealousy thing.
I started dating this guy (didn't meet him INC) and things were going well. One night, I went out with him and two of his friends. I got drunk, and they slipped something in my drink. I ended up getting raped by all of them and one of them punched me in the face when I tried to protest and fight him off. I got really depressed after, and when I finally told my friend what was wrong, he dropped me like a bad habit. He said he couldn't sit there and watch me go down the road that "most strippers" go down. WTF? It hurt so bad, and I haven't talked to him since.
Fuck "friends"
That's really terrible, I'm sorry to hear that happened to you. ALL of those guys are scum, BTW.
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What a freak...
Stop talking to him. He seems like a woman hater in general. He's like a Ray Gordon in training.
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He sounds like he's jealous. You called him a "guyfriend", but he's acting more like a jealous boyfriend. Has he ever made a move on you?
Also he sounds threatened. The fact that you probably make more money than him is probably hurting his ego.
I wonder if he thought this was a date.
If you value his friendship, you should tell him that he hurt you and then let him apologize. If he cares about your friendship at all, then he will realize that he was out of line and apologize. Then you can figure out a way to work things out. If he gets defensive and tries to blame you, then drop his ass. He would then sound like an abusive woman-hater.
I know some people will disagree with me, but I'd like to know how many of us have blown things way out of proportion at one time and yelled at someone that didn't deserve it, and then apologize later.
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hazel_eyes
That sucks...I'm sorry you lost someone you thought was a friend. I had that happen to me once too.
I had just started dancing, and my guy friend (I had known him for years) was really supportive (he loved clubs), so he helped me pick out my clothes and gave me some huslte tips. He was married, so I know what happened was not a jealousy thing.
I started dating this guy (didn't meet him INC) and things were going well. One night, I went out with him and two of his friends. I got drunk, and they slipped something in my drink. I ended up getting raped by all of them and one of them punched me in the face when I tried to protest and fight him off. I got really depressed after, and when I finally told my friend what was wrong, he dropped me like a bad habit. He said he couldn't sit there and watch me go down the road that "most strippers" go down. WTF? It hurt so bad, and I haven't talked to him since.
Fuck "friends"
God honey... that made me cry. I'm so sorry. So sorry... damn you're a strong woman for having gone though that. *hugs* Those bastards will get theirs.. karma comes around.
To the OP, that's really stupid. You're friend seems like a jerk. If it were me I'd ask how exactly is stripping not an "honest living?" I get if you think there is something morally wrong with getting naked (AKA, your a fucking prude lol) but how exactly is that DISHONEST? Answer: it's not. Retards.
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I am very weary of telling people what I do. Although I have a day job to avoid talking about my night job, some people close to me always wonder what I do on nights while I'm away & not with any of 'our' friends.
I've had a good girl friend throw it in my face saying she was dissapointed b/c I'm "better than that" Some people will never understand nor do they need to. Hold your own & do your own thing. Sometimes I feel like my stripper friends are the ones that understand me a lot better than my childhood friends.
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[quote=MsClaireVoyant;1739771]God honey... that made me cry. I'm so sorry. So sorry... damn you're a strong woman for having gone though that. *hugs* \quote]
I'm only strong because I don't remember most of it, and the stuff I do remember is so fuzzy it feels like a dream.
I wish I would've pressed charges, but the guy didn't give me his full name, and I didn't know his friend's real names, just nicknames. Plus, if our own friends don't believe us, what makes me think a cop will?
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LittleMissy
I've had a good girl friend throw it in my face saying she was dissapointed b/c I'm "better than that" Some people will never understand nor do they need to. Hold your own & do your own thing. Sometimes I feel like my stripper friends are the ones that understand me a lot better than my childhood friends.
this is the exact thing I am worried about hearing from my best friend... I know she would hear me out to explain to her what she may not understand but I have heard her say before that she thinks it's degrading! So now Im a bit weary to tell her but I guess if she doesn't accept it I know what kind of a friend she is! :-\
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the funny thing is the most hurtful things i have experienced as a dancer are the judgmental things my friends have said to me.
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ladyx- dontcha love it how he acted like you weren't working, just hanging out. duh they pay to see you strip, that's the fucking job. he reminds me of this asshole who was trying to date me a few months back...i wish i'd cut him off the first time he said something stupid like that. jealous bitches go for low blows. they insult you with lies because they're willing to lose you, but they know that if you're weak, they'll have you trying to prove them wrong.
hazel eyes- what a total scumbag.
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I bet he shot his mouth off to his friends that he is hanging out with a stripper (implied sex). Then when you were busy he felt like an idiot because he was bragging in the first place and took it out on you.
Hazel_eyes, what happened to you is horrible! I'm so sorry:hug:
What is wrong with people??:crying:
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the funny thing is the most hurtful things i have experienced as a dancer are the judgmental things my friends have said to me.
I wish that weren't the truth, but I have certainly found that to be the case. :no:
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yeah Im going thru the same BS....I wish I could get into their heads sometimes.
Just sounds like obviously he wants more than friendship and his feelings got butt hurt.
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The other night in a coffee shop with my good friend:
me: Yeah, I'm leaving tomorrow to go dance the pheasant season. Should be good money.
her: oh god, be careful. i hate it when you do this.
me: you are so dramatic. its totally safe and fun. i am taking d with me. don't worry.
her: oh just don't let this become your whole life.
guy friend: well gravity will take care of that eventually.
so so insulting. first, her life is miserable. she doesn't have sex although she is young and beautiful. she is married to a total fuck who she depends on and who decides every few months he hates her and puts her into the streets. i never say to her "oh god don't make him your life."
second the guy's comment was so infuriating. some of the best dancers i have ever seen who made the most bank were in their 40's early 50's and just the implication that my body will be worthless someday was so insulting. women never say this shit to men but men always feel its ok to say this to women. this guy wants to date me and now i know for sure to never give him the time of day. it happens that quick for me now. they say one little thing that shows so much and i am done with them. stripping taught me that skill. they are just essentially time wasters in the outside world.
a friend once asked me to come to the public pool with him and i made a joke and said, "oh no all those little kids peeing and sweating!"
and some friend i thought was cool just comes out and says, "you will strip for men but you won't swim in a pool with sweaty kids?"
i flipped out. i shamed him hard and never spoke to him again. motherfuckers will just find a way to bring up stripping all the time.
asked a cab driver to take me to a club once and he asked if i was a dancer. stupid newbie me said yes. he then asked me what was the worst thing a guy did to me. i flipped out. didn't pay my fare. told him i taped it and was getting him fired. of course, i didnt try because i knew they would just say i was some dumb stripper.
this is why strippers sticking together is very important
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"i knew they would say I was some dumb stripper."
Davka, I think that is exactly why it is important to challenge people who either from their own ignorance or hatred, victimize any type of sex worker in any context. They need to have consequences so that they realize there are repercussions to their negative behavior. I do realize that publicly taking a stand can cause you more trouble and open you up to further stigmatization in the process though. But like you said strippers need to stay together, so I think that there would be strong support for anyone who decided to fight back ;D
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librarising
"i knew they would say I was some dumb stripper."
Davka, I think that is exactly why it is important to challenge people who either from their own ignorance or hatred, victimize any type of sex worker in any context. They need to have consequences so that they realize there are repercussions to their negative behavior. I do realize that publicly taking a stand can cause you more trouble and open you up to further stigmatization in the process though. But like you said strippers need to stay together, so I think that there would be strong support for anyone who decided to fight back ;D
I wholeheartedly agree with this post.
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yeah. i should have dressed all hot and walked into that small town little shitsville taxi headquarters and asked for the man in charge, had him light my long cigarette and then told him what happened and then i should have threatened to sue, but chances are the guy would have fumbled all over himself trying to accommodate me.
"This isn't how ____burg treats its dancers is it?"
"Oh no ma'am!"
Next time.