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To touch or not to touch...that is the question
I'm really just curious how many girls find it necessary to allow the customers to touch them. I don't mean internally, just breasts or butt, or even over the thong (like I've been noticing a lot more at the club where I work).
I used to not mind. Actually, I've always minded, but when I was younger it was all about the money. And the friskier girls made more money. Or at least that's how it looked.
Anyway, I was just curious what's going on around the country.
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I don't care if dude touches my legs or waist or anything else like that. My butt I don't mind too much, to an extent. But the fun parts are for me and my man ONLY.
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I've always minded because no one ever asks, they just take it. It's not yours to take. If you want to ask politely instead of acting like a caveman, you have a better chance of me thinking about it instead of hitting you. I hate grabby guys.
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i get touched more in regular bars and non-yucky strip club places, like dance clubs/raves than i ever did in a sc. some guys i'm ok with touching me, because they're hot, or just not creepy, everyone else i put the smack down on. at my bar girls will get up out of a lapdance to scold a guy if he keeps trying to grab you, and you don't look like you're trying very hard to stop him. it's funny. hasn't affected my money yet, when it does it'll stop being funny.
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I don't let guys touch me. I still make money. The only money I lose out on is if a guy is specifically looking for heavy grinding etc, because I don't offer that. Usually, making lots of eye contact and having a good time makes you great money.
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anelia
some guys i'm ok with touching me, because they're hot, or just not creepy, everyone else i put the smack down on. at my bar girls will get up out of a lapdance to scold a guy if he keeps trying to grab you, and you don't look like you're trying very hard to stop him. it's funny. hasn't affected my money yet, when it does it'll stop being funny.
I dont get this line of thinking. Touching inappropriately is the same to me whether its an ugly old geezer, a fat slobbery man, or a hot young dude, though i cant remember the last time a hot young dude tried to molest me, typically they seem to be very well behaved during lap dances (I guess because they can actually get laid for free and thus arent going into strip clubs to cop a feel they cant get anywhere else lol)
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^^I agree for the most part, but I definitely react a lot more kindly (gently) to guys who I feel aren't being assholes when they touch you. In other words, they do it subconsciously, rather than purposely trying to break the rules, and immediately apologize and follow my rules afterwards. It's usually a lot less irritating when that happens, rather than having to deal with some line-pushing asshole.
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Otoki
^^I agree for the most part, but I definitely react a lot more kindly (gently) to guys who I feel aren't being assholes when they touch you. In other words, they do it subconsciously, rather than purposely trying to break the rules, and immediately apologize and follow my rules afterwards. It's usually a lot less irritating when that happens, rather than having to deal with some line-pushing asshole.
I agree but that has much more to do with the way they touch rather than how hot the customer is.
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i'll do heavy grinding, and let a guy touch my waist, shoulders, legs, stomach, etc...
Only things off limits are my ass, face, hair, tits, and anywhere near my crotch.... i will get angry with a guy and yell at him after warning him once or twice not to touch me there.... i don't care if it effects my money...i won't step over my comfort zone for anyone or anything...
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I work in a zero contact club; therefore, nothing gets touched.
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i used to do "full contact" meaning touching of breasts/ass ...pretty much anything other than the crotch.
i regret it. a lot. i now work low contact.. no grinding, customers can only touch arms/legs/sides.
i'm in tampa, so working low contact ALWAYS means making less money, but that's fine with me right now. i could never go back.
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In my club there is no touching allowed during lap dances, but I always charge an extra $50-$75 in the CR if they want to touch me (anywhere but where a thong would cover).
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pinkpuff
I agree but that has much more to do with the way they touch rather than how hot the customer is.
Yeah, sorry. I should have summed it up like that. DAMN YOU FOR BEING CONCISE!
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Pretty_Penny
i used to do "full contact" meaning touching of breasts/ass ...pretty much anything other than the crotch.
i regret it. a lot. i now work low contact.. no grinding, customers can only touch arms/legs/sides.
i'm in tampa, so working low contact ALWAYS means making less money, but that's fine with me right now. i could never go back.
That's how I feel about having done friction/grinding dances. They made me uncomfortable, and now I wish I had been taught to dance without friction. However, I don't beat myself up over it. At the time, I didn't know you could actually do a dance without grinding. Now I know, and I dance accordingly. I still make plenty of money.
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I let them touch my legs, but outside only. If they want to give me a massage, that's cool too. I will sit reverse on their lap and lean back so my back is flush with their chest. But thats it really.
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i work at a club where theyre not allowed to touch at all but girls can sit and grind. some certian girls withh openly let guys touch as soon as the bouncer walks away which affects everyones money cause now the customers all want to touch. i say no touching because the dj told me everytime hes in the bathroom no customers ever wash they're hands! gross! i also dont grind which affects my money even more..... *sigh*
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Girls should be more assertive and remind guys that money doesn't buy them everything. The short answer is no it does not affect my money because I set the standard early for the customer.
If a guy is spending money and is behaved sure I'll be friendlier. It does not involve being fondled and I control the grindage if there is any, not the customer.
A guy can touch me anywhere if he is gentle and the spots that are off limits: pussy, boobs, ass.
No fingers in or around my mouth. No sucking on my ear. No tongue or fingers in the butt crack. No kissing.
Try this: If guys insist other girls let them touch tell them "that is an exception and not the rule."
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At my club, the guys aren't allowed to touch, but I actually have more issues with the hot young guys getting grabby, as opposed to gross old men. I think maybe the young ones aren't used to the idea of paying for attention; I think they assume I'm into them and misread the signals as being sincere, instead of just part of my job. They get drunk and then start grabbing me to try and make out, or they'll try to take my outfit off. It doesn't happen often at all, but I give them one warning, and then they're gone. Some will kind of just touch on the waist or outer thighs, but 9 times out of 10, if I let that go on, they'll get encouraged and then let the hands drift to other no-no areas. So I usually just say, no touching period.
And if I'm making a lot of money off the guy and he can't seem to help himself, I'll take both of his hands in mine and hold them over his head, or by his side, and they seem to like that even more.
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I pretty much don't allow them to touch. The only time that I allow a bit of touching is friendly touching on the main floor, where the bouncers can see everything that goes on. It helps to keep them from getting too grabby (the sides of the body but not front/back), however it also let's them know that I'm interested in performing a private dance for them.
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I wish most girls didn't follow/believe the notion that they have to provide heavier contact/touching just to get dances.
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Stripper Hacks
Girls should be more assertive and remind guys that money doesn't buy them everything. The short answer is no it does not affect my money because I set the standard early for the customer.
OMG thank you! The majority of the girls at my club are high grindage. Me, I'm still one of the top earners and I'm light contact. I will allow SOME boob touching but ONLY in VIP and shit, my price for that makes it somewhat worth it to me...But yeah, Im' not down with letting strange men touch all over my body for $25/song. :-\
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Guys always try to touch, ew. And at first I was like, oh well it's just part of the job. But then I realised I am in control and absolutely do not have to do anything I don't want to do. So I don't mind them touching my breasts, but my vagina is completely out of the question now, even in a thong or underwear.
Oh yeah recently some customer asked me if he could have sex with me for a little bit. And I was like UGH! Hell no
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I don't let people touch me, even on the arms or anything that might seem harmless to others. If someone does, they get a warning, if it happens again, I walk away from whatever I'm doing. And it's never affected my money either.
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Stripper Hacks
Girls should be more assertive and remind guys that money doesn't buy them everything. The short answer is no it does not affect my money because I set the standard early for the customer.
Definitely. I got a guy last night who kept bitching about the no touching. I kept telling him "I don't give a fuck if you don't like it. These are my rules and I'm worth every penny *wink*" He still complained, but his friend got six dances from me because he liked my attitude.
I sometimes let something like running their hand on my lower arm slide, because I'm moving around so much it doesn't bother me, but anything beyond that and they get a verbal warning.
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Raquelle21
i work at a club where theyre not allowed to touch at all but girls can sit and grind. some certian girls withh openly let guys touch as soon as the bouncer walks away which affects everyones money cause now the customers all want to touch. i say no touching because the dj told me everytime hes in the bathroom no customers ever wash they're hands! gross! i also dont grind which affects my money even more..... *sigh*
Not grinding shouldn't affect your money too much. I did low-contact (near air dances) in a grinding club and was still one of the top earners. If you make a lot of eye contact and "connect" with the customer, they should get multiple dances. Most customers that I have encountered appreciate a sensual dance where the dancer is focusing completely on them, rather than a grind-machine dance where the dancers is just "going through the motions".
Also, you should talk to management about the touching issue, and suggest that the club have a bouncer overseeing dances at all times (perhaps on a tv screen, so they can observe without being seen by customers/dancers).
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i work in a no contact club but a lot of the girls still let the guys touch them so guys are constantly trying to put their arm around me, touch my leg, give me back rubs, etc, which I am not down with. I just tell them politely "oh i can get in trouble for that"
but you ladies are giving me the balls to be a little bitchier and say "I don't do that!" straight up because it seems to work!
I was always under the impression that you had to grind in full contact clubs so its nice to hear that you can set your own limits, kudos to you girls who do only what you are comfortable with
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^^That's the secret of our work;) We set our own rules (within the club rules)