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Let's learn from each others mistakes!
Post your blunders, stupid mistakes, bad lines, anything you've done, or even seen or heard about that ended up costing you/her tips and/or CR's and dances. Hopefully we can learn from each others mistakes!
I'll start: Be careful about you or your custie joking to a custie's buddy and/or group about relationship type stuff, dating, marrying or falling in love with eachother, having babies cheating,ect.
Example:
Custie1 buys his buddy a dance.
After dance, buddy comes out and announces "wow that dance was so great!" hugs you in front of Custie1 "thanks for the dance man! I think I'm going to marry this girl!" harmless flattery, right? Don't be so sure! Later on Custie1 can you turn you down for a dance with the reasoning "I can't, because my buddy really likes you!"::) or something along those lines, and it can be very fustrating.
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1) I was sitting at a table with one girl who told the customer that he reminded her of her father. WTF!!
2) We get several important customers who all know each other outside the club and prefer to keep things private. We had one shot girl who would go on about one guy to anyone she thought knew him, just to prove that she knew him also. Anyway, it ended up costing her a lot business because those guys didn't want their business spread around to their friends.
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1. I turned down a CR for a customer who said he came in to see me. I talked to that customer for 1 song, had to go on stage and dance, and by the time I got back, he as in the CR with someone ELSE. Never again will I ever turn down a CR unless I'm absolutely positive someone else is waiting for me and ONLY me.
2. I sat with someone thinking he'd get several lapdances since he did the first couple of times he was in the club. Forget it. I don't even care about offending people anymore. If they don't pay for SOMETHING within the first couple of songs, I'm leaving. If they keep talking for more than 3 songs and don't buy me another required drink, I'm cutting them off and leaving. Yes, this is why I don't really have regulars, and I personally wouldn't choose to be a regular of me, but it sure saves alotta hassle and makes me more money than sitting around and talking.
3. I posted something about this last one, but basically I didn't push hard enough for a sale that I'm pretty sure I could've gotten.
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For me, my biggest dent in my sales is profiling. It's a nasty thing to do and I need to quit doing it.
Also if someone asks about my studies, I get really enthusiastic sometimes and go on about biology stuff. Yeah. Not sexy.
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mediocrity
Also if someone asks about my studies, I get really enthusiastic sometimes and go on about biology stuff. Yeah. Not sexy.
Haha, like me and math! Biology at least has some connotations...
Mediocrity, you're pretty awesome.
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Talking about politics. Big mistake. That was one of my newbie fuck-ups back in the day. I absolutely RUINED a potential CR marathon with a great custy when I was a dumbass and shot my mouth off about some current event (can't remember exactly what it was) The guy was totally on the other side of things and it made everything super uncomfortable. I got up to use the bathroom, and halfway back he had come out of the CR, met me halfway with what he owed me and said "I think that we are done for the night back there.Thanks" .....then took another girl back and spent the rest of the night with her in there.
Don't ever bring up politics, and if they bring it up act like you AGREE with them even though you may not.
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^^^ for sure! Sometimes I STILL can't keep my mouth shut. Though I've come up with my own little revenge for stuff like that. If I make a bunch, or even some, money off of (for instance) a staunch pro-lifer or something, I'll donate a certain percentage of the money I make from them to an organization that supports my own beliefs, like Planned Parenthood. That way I can keep smiling and nodding while he's blithering on, thinking the whole time, "Every dollar you give me goes to undermine what you're saying. Heheheh." }:D
I think my biggest mistake has been staying too long with guys who "just aren't sure" about a CR. There's that thread of hope, and darn it, I WANT that sale! So I sit there for too long, then at the end of the night they decide "nah", or say "Sure, let's do a two hour CR!" when there's 15 minutes left in the night. *sigh*
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I would strongly suggest everyone that wears extentions to make sure they are tightly clipped down before doing pole tricks. When they fly off and hit the guy in front of your tip rail in the face...it may cost you that extra dollar. Lol, not to mention its extreamly embaressing. OH, watch out for peoples beer as well. I cant even count all the poor dudes Ive spilled drinks on.
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Could not agree more about not engaging in coversation of a political nature! I had a custie buy a dance for his friend, only to have his friend tell him that my dance "was only OK, and I talked about politics the whole time" actually, I did not talk about politics the whole time, and he was the one that brought it up! Well lesson learned, *especially* when dancing for someone who didn't pay for the dance, stay in sexy stripper mode, since they will eventually be reporting on you to whover paid for them.
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The most frustrating, hair-pulling-out, kicking myself-over-and-over-again problem is that I AM NOT a good judge of who is a big spender. There have been at least two times where I've been on stage, and several guys want me to dance for them after I get finished. Of course I would definitely want to dance for the one who is going to get the most dances and spend the most money, BUT I CAN NEVER SEEM TO PICK THAT ONE!!! I usually try to stay in order of who asked me for a dance first, OR the one who seems the most enthusiastic about wanting me to dance for them. That seems like a good indicator of money right??? NOOOOOOOOO.......
How do y'all judge who is going to spend the most money? Is it completely a gamble on who's going to buy multiple dances and who reeeeeealllllllyyyyyy wanted that one dance? IT HURTS ME, IT HURTS ME WHEN I DANCE FOR THE CHEAP ASS!
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Recently, I was talking to a pair of guys. Another girl came & started chatting to 1 of them, and I got a dance from the other. Later on the friend was still there, and I came up and reintroduced myself because I had TOTALLY forgotten who he was... he was really offended and actually excused himself... I think he was good for some money too... DAMN!
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got another one, a couple months I was dancing for a custie that told me he had just graduated from med school. Staying in the ditzy stipper persona I was using that night, I acted really impressed "omg! really, so you are like, almost a doctor now, huh? hey! did you get to practice on real human donor bodies?" he replied "You mean "cadavers"? Yes, we did, and it was disgusting." the song was ending so I changed the subject by asking him if he wanted me to continue. Too late, me "bringing up cadavers totally ruined the mood" he snapped. Then he paid me and walked out of the vip room without another word. The sad part was he still had over $150 in funny money on him :-(
Moral: DON"T BRING UP DEAD BODIES DURING A LD LOL
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MissAlethea
^^^ for sure! Sometimes I STILL can't keep my mouth shut. Though I've come up with my own little revenge for stuff like that. If I make a bunch, or even some, money off of (for instance) a staunch pro-lifer or something, I'll donate a certain percentage of the money I make from them to an organization that supports my own beliefs, like Planned Parenthood. That way I can keep smiling and nodding while he's blithering on, thinking the whole time, "Every dollar you give me goes to undermine what you're saying. Heheheh." }:D
I think my biggest mistake has been staying too long with guys who "just aren't sure" about a CR. There's that thread of hope, and darn it, I WANT that sale! So I sit there for too long, then at the end of the night they decide "nah", or say "Sure, let's do a two hour CR!" when there's 15 minutes left in the night. *sigh*
That sounds like a really great way to think about it. I end up donating at least 100 to each of my five favorite charities each year, so what better incentive than dealing with an ignorant asshole who thinks gays are evil etc? :D
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Oksana23
got another one, a couple months I was dancing for a custie that told me he had just graduated from med school. Staying in the ditzy stipper persona I was using that night, I acted really impressed "omg! really, so you are like, almost a doctor now, huh? hey! did you get to practice on real human donor bodies?" he replied "You mean "cadavers"? Yes, we did, and it was disgusting." the song was ending so I changed the subject by asking him if he wanted me to continue. Too late, me "bringing up cadavers totally ruined the mood" he snapped. Then he paid me and walked out of the vip room without another word. The sad part was he still had over $150 in funny money on him :-(
Moral: DON"T BRING UP DEAD BODIES DURING A LD LOL
This is freakin' golden
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ok total newb question, what is CR?
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trishaxxxo
ok total newb question, what is CR?
Champagne room.
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cortana
How do y'all judge who is going to spend the most money? Is it completely a gamble on who's going to buy multiple dances and who reeeeeealllllllyyyyyy wanted that one dance? IT HURTS ME, IT HURTS ME WHEN I DANCE FOR THE CHEAP ASS!
In a group, I find that the one with the most money is usually the one who is doing the least physically. So, for example, in a group of guys who are standing up, I'll talk to whoever is sitting down. The ones who make the least amount of gestures when they talk with their hands, and have an overall have a quiet demeanor. Works for me...
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I have a horribly bad habit of always giving the customer an 'out' when I'm asking for dances.
"So, do you think you're ready for a dance...or no?"
Stupid.
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I get nervous and start babbling on, normally about myself.
BIG mistake.
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My biggest mistake is hesitating. Like, I'll see a guy who another girl is dancing for on stage and while I'm waiting for her to finish, I'll start talking to someone else or go to the bathroom, or get another drink or whatever, and by the time I get back, he's going for a private dance for somebody else. Now, when I have my sights set on someone, I'm going right up to him without hesitation.
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Talking to SC guys too casualy has definately had ano money benefit attached to it for me , I found that most guys in the club will end up look ing at you like your just there to hang out, I guess its because so many girls in some clubs just drink and talk to guys ,and are not concerned with profit.
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My biggest lesson has been to always ask for dances repeatedly. Even if its that guy who say: "not tonight..mayble later...etc." ASK AGAIN!
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Another mistake I have is letting myself get into a bad "funk." Maybe it's due to my nerves or negative thinking, but I'll get a lump in my throat when I'm getting ready to ask for a dance and sometimes it will take many minutes before I can push through the internal resistence. Then that can sometimes lead to another of my big mistakes- talking for waaaay too long.
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Not protecting my territory: I was sitting in between two guys having a conversation trying to figure out which one would buy. The one to my left seemed to be the better one, so I carried on with him. Not wanting to leave the other one out, I turned and greeted him.
At the same moment another girl went up to the guy my left, started rubbing on his dick....and off they went.
Not only was I disgusted at her tactic, I was mad at myself for not saying anything. But i guess he was fair game cuz i wasnt talking to him at that moment.
Great thread BTW.
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AkashaM
Not protecting my territory: I was sitting in between two guys having a conversation trying to figure out which one would buy. The one to my left seemed to be the better one, so I carried on with him. Not wanting to leave the other one out, I turned and greeted him.
At the same moment another girl went up to the guy my left, started rubbing on his dick....and off they went.
Not only was I disgusted at her tactic, I was mad at myself for not saying anything. But i guess he was fair game cuz i wasnt talking to him at that moment.
Great thread BTW.
That sucks. Just out of curiosity, is that rubbing allowed?