No, but I would have just looked like a whiny brat if i had said something about it.
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No, but I would have just looked like a whiny brat if i had said something about it.
I suggest always taking over a situation to ensure a good outcome.
I didn't know the girl well that got me into a room with her customer for a double lady show. I assumed she knew what she was doing to have upsold him and collected ahead of time... So, she gave him an EXTRA dirty show and I was in hell. At the end, the customer VOLUNTEERED the tip without coortion and handed her twenty bucks. He said to come to the table so he could get us more. She hands him back the money and says, "Keep it, it was our pleasure." Later, another girl sat with him till he left. Just talking and drinking, he dished her $300.
Why didn't I handle the situation?? Be smart so you don't miss out.
Not that this is the reason...but in the past, I've given tips back as a gamble (read: mindfuck). If the customer sees that you aren't all about the money, then sometimes he'll end up spending MUCH more money on you later than he initially would have. This is a risky hustle, but it has definitely worked for me in the past.
hahaha I'm actually looking into buying a wig & was afraid of that same thing happening! & I hate when they put their beer on the stage. It's bound to get knocked over. I haven't done it yet, but I've seen beer bottles & glasses being kicked everywhere before.
When giving table dances, be aware of any drinks in the dance space. Knocking over a drink will cramp your style.
"In that particular situation (he wanted you to come see him later) I would have taken the tip and gone back to him (if he was free). I never turn down tips"
I wanted to get that extra tip but another chick was already on him and stayed there the rest of the night.
A big mistake I used to get into was being convinced by one guy or other girls that there was "no money on the floor." We've all heard the girls go off about that in the dressing room. I eventually learned that it meant that there was no money for them, which meant more money for me. You just can't let yourself be convinced that the room is dead or that no one is spending. Everyone is there to buy something, they're just waiting for the right pitch.
Also, a big general stupid mistaken mindset I get into is an underselling self defeat. I used to only be able to sell one dance, 'cause I thought once the guy realized there was no happy ending, he would just walk away or demand his money back. Of course, that never happened, but I just had this whole idea that "the product" (private dance or CR) wasn't worth it. I realized that you just have to believe and accept the product. Even if you're charging double what you used to for a CR, because the house takes a cut, you have to KNOW that it's worth it before you try to convince someone else that it is. These are all basic things, but on this board and in the clubs I see girls afraid that guys are going to demand their money back for whatever reason. That thought shouldn't cross your mind, because you believe in what you're selling to them... I discovered this when I started cocktail-serving, we would sell Jagermister for $13/shot. I thought it was a big ripoff, but people would buy and buy and buy...
new one to add: If your club offers different dance price options (such as $15 for a regular dance or $25 for VIP) don't let the customer in on it. Espeacially if they don't ask how much dances cost before you begin. Sit them down and say "by the way, dances are $25 each, and you are allowed/not allowed to XYZ".
When I first started dancing I would tell the custie his options and let them choose. This however gives them the opportunity to choose the lower priced option, where as if they don't even know it exists how can they choose it?
If however, they balk or complain about the price, you can then mention the lower priced option.
also, when you do mention the lower priced option, act like it wasn't even worth mentioning because the higher priced one is so much better.
"well if 25 is too much, there's also a 15 dollar dance. those are never as much fun though, because _______________"
either because they happen on the floor, they're shorter, you aren't naked, whatever.
^^Doesn't that risk them not getting any dances at all? Given, if $25 is too much they're probably not worth your time anyway, but...
yeah, it's a bit of a risk, but everything is, no hustle is a 100% guarantee
LOL. I know its really mean, but whenever girls in the DR would ask me, "Is there any people/money out there?" after I had walked in from the floor. My answer was always, "Nope," The club could have filled to the brim and I'd give them the same answer. Less competition for me, lol. Let them take thier lazy asses out to the floor and find out for themselves.
The girls at that club were bitches and I was still a green stripper at the time...but not stupid, lol. }:D
For me it's simply learning not to talk so much. When I first started I talked to customers way too much. Now I have a time limit. I learned to watch clocks, or count how many songs occurred while I was talking to customers so that I didn't waste too much time with one person who wasn't ready to buy a dance. I always give myself a way back in usually by saying "I've got to get back to work, but I'll come check on you again later.", smile and walk away. Many times after I can do the "wanna dance" with a guy near buy and snag a few, then go back to the guy I was originally talking to and get him to buy. People always want what other people have, so you have to ask the guys near-by who probably have been watching you.
OH MY GOD, that is GENIOUS. How have I never thought of that? And thinking back, I can't even begin to count how many times I've shot myself in the foot with that.
Guys come walking up to me all the time and say that they want a dance. And I ALWAYS ask, "Did you want one out here, or did you want a private dance?" The table dances are for tips only and average $5 apiece, but the private ones are $25 plus tip, which should be another $20-30. And a good portion of the time the guys want the private dance. But the other half of the guys are always like, "Oh, I guess we can just get one out here." I don't know why it ever occurred to me to pose the question. From now on, I will just assume they want a private dance and immediately initiate the transaction. Oh my god, I just know this is going to make me so much more money. GENIOUS, sheer genious.
DONT bring up football (soccer) if you are in england... unless you KNOW the customer supports the same team...
I lost a dance last night because a customer said he went to see the Chelsea / Hull game earlier...
I told him i was gutted because i have a season ticket and couldn't go today because it was my day to work... he said that he was going to spend money on me... but couldnt now because i was a Chelsea girl... :(
Also be careful when bringing up topics of war with soldiers.... had some disasters there too...
im a war geek... i love guns / history etc etc... while to some people in the military a girl who likes such things can be seen as cool.... someone who's just come back from the front line and seen 3 of his friends killed in action miiiiight not be so interested in your obsession with AK-47s
When I'm chatting up a guy who's not really educated, it's always been a majorly bad idea to say that I have a bachelor's degree. Their face falls and they start to put up barriers. This = no lapdances, ever. So now I err on the side of assuming that every guy dropped out of high school in the 10th grade - and oooh and aaaah when they volunteer different.
And I can only tell guys visiting from Australia or the UK that I actually have a law degree. They seem to like that. Everyone else, immediate shut-down. They'll still talk to me, sure, but won't spend a penny.
Nowadays when asked about my personal life, or really any question about me at all, I relate it to sex or sexiness or dancing. I always tie it back. This helps keep me focused. No one wants to hear about my latest running cadence increase. Or that I'm afraid of dinosaurs. :-X
^ Great post!!
And very true. I have this problem where I constantly want to expose how educated I am...and I completely forget that that is NOT my job! It's good to find a balance of "I can talk school if you ask, but otherwise, we're both here to have fun."
^^ Same!! I think it's a reaction I have to my awareness of the "stripper stereotype." I feel the need to shove my education in peoples' faces sometimes, but they're just there to party!!