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answering a million questions
you know the guys who just keep asking you a million questions about your life? they usually all ask the same questions, so i am wondering what answers they want.
the number one question i get is "how long have you been dancing?"
"how old are you?"
"do you hang with guys outside the club?"
"do you do anything else for a living?"
i want to know why every guy asks how long i've been dancing, why does it matter? should i say that i've only been dancing for a year even though i've been dancing for 3 years just so they think i'm still new and stupid? is it a bad thing for a girl to be a dancer for a really long time? or do they think you have experience and give a really good dance if you've been dancing for a while?
i'm 23 but a lot of people think i'm 18 or 19. i tell guys i'm 19 all of the time and no one ever questions it. does this work in my advantage because of the whole "barely legal" appeal?
i usually tell them i will hang outside the club if i get to know them better. i've hung out with like 3 guys from the club in all of my dancing career, the majority of people i don't trust enough. but i feel like i lose out on dances when i tell a customer straight up they will never get me out of the club. you have to give a shred of hope.
i don't know why they wanna know if i have another job. if i say i have another part time job at a restaurant does that make it sound like i can't make enough money stripping? or is it bad to just be a stripper and nothing else?
I JUST WANT TO TELL THEM EXACTLY WHAT THEY WANT TO HEAR AND GET THE QUESTIONS OUT OF THE WAY YOU KNOW?
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Re: answering a million questions
The best thing to do is answer any of the questions you mention in such a way that brings them back to the subject of what you're there for with the goal of making a sale. So you could say "I do job XYZ but what I really love to do is come here and take all my clothes off." Or "No, this is all I do -- giving lap dances is my specialty." Instead of letting the questions frustrate you, use them as jumping off points to talk about what YOU want to talk about.
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in response to "how old are you?", i've been known to answer with "a gentleman never asks, and a lady never tells."
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Theyre just making small talk because they dont know what else to talk about; sometimes I get silly/smart assed and say, "Do you REALLY want to know that?" The guy usually says, "Youre right, that is kind of lame, isnt it?" When you change the subject, it will put you in control of the conversation and steer it where you want it to go.
A common question I get is, "Do you live alone?" Why? Am I inviting you over to my house?
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i think the right answer depends a lot on where you're having this conversations. if you're having them out on the floor, then there's a strong possibility these guys are time wasters. i can always indentify one when a guy grabs me on the floor and starts grilling me. its becasue he doesn't want me to get a word in asking him for a dance. in those scenarious i find its best to just interrupt them and ask for the dance. 99.99% of the time they say no and start giving me crap how i'm all about the money. run. now, if you're getting the 20 questions while on their dime (doing a dance/CR) i see this as a symptom of you not talking enough and them just trying to fill in the silence. if you lead the conversation, then you get to control where it goes. i suggest asking them lots of questions and pretending to be very interested in the answers. also, the right answer to the age question (and actually all questions) depends on what you think this particular guy wants. ie- if i'm dancing for a younger guy, i tell him i'm younger, older guy= older (unless you suspect he's into the schoolgirl thing) the right answer on what else do you do also depend on the guy -try to read them. with blue collar guys i wouldn't mention that you go to school - wouldn't want to intimidate them. so just play it by ear. finally you have it right with the "we should hang out otc" response. i think its counterproductive to just shoot them down. i'd just tell them- i have to get to know you better. (whew that was long)
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Yeah. The questions are a stupid pain in the ass.
My take on it is when they are asking you if you have a day job they either want to know if you do so they can run into you outside the club or to see if you don't have one because surely then you have all kindsa unaccounted for time to spend with them because they are so f'n wonderful.
So I just lie and say I do and I'm a chicken farmer. I'm real convincing. They don't want to hear that you're up all night and sleep during the day.
As far as the age thing I go by individual guys and how I'm feeling at the moment.
Most of the questions are geard towards you dating them. So if I'm on the floor it's a time waster. If it's on their dime I lie and steer them away from asking more questions by asking them about themselves.
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<b>because surely then you have all kindsa unaccounted for time to spend with them because they are so f'n wonderful.</b> hahahahaha that cracked me up!!!
omg, that's another question i get asked constantly.. "do you live alone?"
i always tell them i have a roommate and i can't have guys from the club over because my roommate isn't comfortable with it and she'd flip out.
the question grilling ALWAYS happens on the floor. of course i always ask them for a dance but they continue to interrogate me and avoid the question. so then i'm like "ok, that was a fun questionnaire, see you later!"
a lot of guys ask me how much money i make too. usually around $150 a night and that's pretty fucking good for living in flint, michigan. but guys always think strippers make $1000 a night and shit. even if i've only made $40 so far, i'm not going to tell them i've only made $40 because it seems to make me look pathetic and work against me. i have tried the sob story approach so many times and it RARELY works. if i tell them i make $800 every night and their 20 dollar bill isn't shit to me cuz i'm rich, then all of a sudden they wanna spend it! but if i desperately need just a few more dances to pay my rent, they will enjoy watching my desperation and it will be like pulling teeth to get 5 bucks from them. cuz they know i need it. does that make sense to anyone else? this is just what i have noticed from experience.
and that's good advice to not tell blue collar guys i go to school. because when i start talking about school, even if they ask about it, it's not a sexual topic and they get less and less interested in me. i think guys like their strippers nice and dumb. which is the reason why i drink because then i can act like a retarded hoe and make money!
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To entertain myself I used to make stuff up that was totally outrageous. my favorite was to lie about my age and make myself at least 10 years older than my calendar age. Sometimes I'd tack on 15 years, LOL. Usually saying I was 20 years older than my calendar age would get dubious looks.}:D Most guys are willing to swallow 10 years.
Another thing you can do is ask the questions first, so that way they don't get the chance to interrogate. I'd ask silly things like favorite sport or zodiac signs, stuff like that. Once they tell you their zodiac sign, the obvious response is "Ooooooh! I'm very compatible with _________!"
A few times I'd even bring a deck of tarot cards and "read" a single card from the customer. This is a good ice breaker, and makes for a nice segue into closing the sale. I'd make stuff up about the cards based on the pictures on the cards. Even if he drew the death card, I'd turn it into something sexy like BDSM or that he must enjoy goth girls or something.
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Now that I think about it, I probably ask the customers too many questions! I hate it when people over-question me.
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ViolaStrings
Now that I think about it, I probably ask the customers too many questions! I hate it when people over-question me.
I'm guilty of asking customers tons of questions. I don't think they really mind it as long as I act like I'm really interested in their answers, guys love to talk about themselves. I don't mind guys questioning me though, as long as it's during a dance or VIP. ;D
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after a few questions i like to start rambling.. like ill ramble non stop for a whole song or even two about nonsence, it kinda makes them regret asking me anything at all! lol
so when i finally ask for a dance they are almost relieved!
ha
if they have time to ask you all those questions it probably means your not leading the conversation, or not closing the sale quik enough
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JRdancer
The best thing to do is answer any of the questions you mention in such a way that brings them back to the subject of what you're there for with the goal of making a sale. So you could say "I do job XYZ but what I really love to do is come here and take all my clothes off." Or "No, this is all I do -- giving lap dances is my specialty." Instead of letting the questions frustrate you, use them as jumping off points to talk about what YOU want to talk about.
Ditto. You don't get paid to answer questions. Or, do you?
Staying focused does not lead you down a path of answering a string of questions. Regain control of the conversation and CLOSE THE SALE.
Sometimes I find myself rambling when I'm bored as hell and guys just aren't spending, but enough is enough. I would never talk to these guys on a regular basis. So, why start now? I'm there for one reason only. Remind yourself as much as you need to and keep it moving.
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ViolaStrings
Now that I think about it, I probably ask the customers too many questions! I hate it when people over-question me.
Its always better if you are the one asking questions--then you are the one in control of the conversation.
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thanks for the advice ladies, i never really ask guys questions i guess because i couldn't really give a rats ass ahahah.. but thats a good idea because if they're busy answering my questions they won't be asking me any questions and then i don't have to talk as much and whatnot. sweet.
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On the rare occasions I visit a SC, I go with every intention of spending money. Too many times I go home, spending the price of the 2-drink minimum and waitress' tip, and not a penny more.
Conversations, questions and feigned interest– or lack thereof – make or break the deal.
One sure fire way to miss out is walk up, mumble ‘want a dance?’, make no further effort, and walk away.
I would not buy a car from a salesman who puts no further effort into making the deal than muttering “want to buy a car”, and wanders off, reeking of indifference, and I wont buy lap dances from a dancer with the same indifference.
Asking how long you have worked here and how do you like the club has no more meaning or hidden agenda than passing an acquaintance and asking “how are you?”. Who gives a fuck.
It’s a polite icebreaker. Nothing more.
Questions about your age, marital status, salary etc., however, are not polite icebreakers, and should be considered inappropriate.
Secondly, never try to blow smoke up my ass, like the dancer who said she was going to Law School, and was dancing to pay tuition.
Having some contractual issues regarding an oral agreement dealing with the sale real property (yea, I know...), I thought this would be a golden opportunity to 'bond' with her, so I asked her if she thought I could use the theory of Promissory Estoppel along with Part Performance to overcome the Statute of Frauds.
Might just of well have asked G. W. Bush his theory on string physics.
No dances for you!!
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^ you fucking retard, a lot of girls dance their way through grad school. Just because she couldn't answer your question doesn't mean she's lying - she could be IN SCHOOL LEARNING THE STUFF. Or she cold have been lying. Either way, you're a dildozer.
Fuck, I fucking hate guys like you.
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if you don't meet women that are good enough for you at the strip club, maybe you shouldn't come to them.
there are a lot of people that aren't phenomenal at their jobs. guess what, they still get paid. when's the last time you met a fast food employee who was eager and ready and excited about serving you? or a waitress who may have done an alright job, if not a great one, does she still get a tip?
what about the privilege of seeing us naked on stage? is that worth nothing? you could at least tip us for that, even if none of us are good enough to buy a lapdance from.
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you know, vegasm...for every guy like you who wants to enjoy a conversation with a girl, there's about 20 guys who aren't willing to spend a cent with a girl once he realizes she's "too smart/nice/whatever for this job" and blows a few hundred on a ditz he instisted was less attractive than the previous girl and who gives shitty dances because all she said was "i'm ___. wanna dance?"
so feel free to hold onto your money.
and seriously, that girl could have been in law school. when i was in school for classics, i made the mistake of telling guys in the club, and they expected me to speak latin to them. like, one, it's hard to come up with something to say on the fly in a dead fucking language. and two, i was in school, i wasn't a fucking professor. now i tell them i dropped out because i slept through all my classes. of course, that's true too.
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Originally Posted by
JRdancer
The best thing to do is answer any of the questions you mention in such a way that brings them back to the subject of what you're there for with the goal of making a sale. So you could say "I do job XYZ but what I really love to do is come here and take all my clothes off." Or "No, this is all I do -- giving lap dances is my specialty." Instead of letting the questions frustrate you, use them as jumping off points to talk about what YOU want to talk about.
Excellent advice! It's not super easy at first but once you get the hand of it that is one the most effective techniques because it gets them back to thinking with the little head again which is ofcourse right where we want them ;)
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As a customer coming from the other direction, let me agree with the consensus - please skip the million questions... I do not go to the strip club to tell the sad and pathetic story of my wasted life to some random chick I will never see again. Tell me some made-up story of your imaginary wild sex life, or in some other way entertain, or just ask me if I want a dance.
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Ruby Ruckus
if you don't meet women that are good enough for you at the strip club, maybe you shouldn't come to them.
there are a lot of people that aren't phenomenal at their jobs. guess what, they still get paid. when's the last time you met a fast food employee who was eager and ready and excited about serving you? or a waitress who may have done an alright job, if not a great one, does she still get a tip?
what about the privilege of seeing us naked on stage? is that worth nothing? you could at least tip us for that, even if none of us are good enough to buy a lapdance from.
Most likely the gentleman concerned likes to turn down beautiful women!
I've noticed that quite a lot of men venture into strip clubs for the sole purpose to get off on being approached by beautiful women and then having the great pleasure of turning them down. These men don't see strip clubs as erotic entertainment venues but rather as 'rejection pay back' venues....we should at least try to pity them?!
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noctina
omg, that's another question i get asked constantly.. "do you live alone?"
i always tell them i have a roommate and i can't have guys from the club over because my roommate isn't comfortable with it and she'd flip out.
I've used a line similar to that, but then they always ask me to come over to their place or meet somewhere. I still haven't really figured out how to handle those questions. I'm always left looking like a deer in headlights:O
Sometimes if a guy is grilling me about my relationship status, I say I have to pee, and never come back. Some nights I am on point and the comebacks just roll right off my tounge, then some nights I just don't know what to say and end up running away!
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Sometimes I just tell the guys that when I walk out the club door, "POOF", I cease to exist! I think I may have seen this idea somewhere on the board here, I don't remember, but it seems to work!
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In response to the " how long have you been doing this?" question...I usually say... long enough to know there is no right answer to that question. Usually they get the hint. I usually try to turn the conversation around so that the focus is on THEM , or make up some story about how fascinating my life is.... I don't see what the point is in asking a million personal questions about eachother, unless of course they are regulars who are worth the time and effort of talking to on any deep level.
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To the "How long have you been doing this?" question I would say mischievously and with a big grim, "Hmmm, long enough to know what I'm doing." ;) Back it up with flirty body language, and even the slow ones will catch your drift.