Is it true that dancers will never date a customer?
Have you ever made an exception?
What, if anything, could a customer do to sweep you off your feet... romantically speaking?
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Is it true that dancers will never date a customer?
Have you ever made an exception?
What, if anything, could a customer do to sweep you off your feet... romantically speaking?
Meet me somewhere other than MY JOB.
Ah, I see another member of the Society of Incurable Optimists has joined us.
Phil. ;)
i have dated customers. i am currently dating someone i met in the club on new years, in fact.
spend money, and hope the girl is into you. i have never, ever, ever dated a customer who asked me, and i've never dated anyone who didn't spend something decent. and "sweeping me off my feet" works in the club about as well as it works outside of it...it doesn't work at all.
Jack, bro, most dancers make a very conscious effort at separating their life at the club from the rest of their existence. Never say never and all, but I would suggest you be tactful and honest but expect the same tact and honesty from the object of your affection.
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Many dancers, I wouldn't begin to hazard what percentage but many, won't date a man who they know goes to strip-clubs, period.
So it isn't a matter of tipping anyone, etc. It is about being the sort of fellow that doesn't go to strip-clubs. If that sounds a bit confusing its only because it is. Think of it something like the old Groucho Marx comment, "I wouldn't belong to any club that would have me for a member. "
Be advised that many of these same dancers will also not tell that non-strip-club going fellow that they are dancers. So if you were that non-strip-club going person you wouldn't know you were dating a dancer, even if you were.
It is all a very messy bit of business I personally resolve by having no desire to romantically date dancers, period. Then we're all on the same foot and it makes everything so much easier. :) I have a bunch of dancer gal pals and friends, but I date none of them. We just hang out.
I'm curious Jack, why would you want to date a stripper?
The novelty wears off quickly, trust me. But I feel that way about women in general.
But if you want to try, try this formula:
1) Go once per week
2) Only buy dances from her (You're going there just to see her)
3) Do less during the dances than the club allows (You Respect her)
Give real complements about details you notice, don't say anything about breasts or Butt. Act like you're on a date, not some perv ogling and trying to cop a feel. If she's into you it'll feel like a date, that is she'll do most of the talking LOL. But seriously, women distrust strange men period, we become highly suspect when we're in a strip club. The neanderthals that frequent such establishments give the rest of our sex a really bad rep.
If she's not into you, you won't know anything about her at the end of the fourth week. The key is to be different. }:D
The woman I dated was childless & 6 years younger than me, but had a serious gambling problem that I didn't feel like dealing with...
This is absolutely correct. I dont date customers. If you come into the club I work at then you are a customer and therefore, to me, undateable. As for where to meet me...strippers are regular people. We must shop, eat and do everyday things. Stop trying to date a stripper and just go try to meet people.
If you set out to the club with the intent of getting a date with a stripper, you will never get a date with a stripper. We can sense your intentions. And it pisses us off more than anything.
[quote=commanderadama;1786866]I'm curious Jack, why would you want to date a stripper?
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First of all, not just any stripper... I want someone like Elisabeth Eaves, who wrote Bare: The Nakes Truth About Stripping. She was a feminist and intellectual stripper who went on to become a journalist and author.
Or someone like Diablo Cody, whose many accomplishments include writing a book and writing the accademy award-winning movie Juno. There are a number of other strippers who have done notable things after stripping, but attribute their success to their experience as strippers. There was something about being a stripper that gave them a lot of power, confidence and insight into human psychology.
I want a woman who is beautiful, smart, positive, sexy and is dancing because she will not settle for a 9 to 5 job and because the flexibility of dancing allows her to pursue artistic or intellectual ambitions.
OH PLEASE...
Is anyone buying that?
If that's the kind of woman you want, why is her being a dancer the number 1 priority?
The guys who date strippers are the guys who don't go to clubs looking to date a stripper...
^^ Exactly.
Jack:
OMG... After your last post I had to check your profile to see how old you are... Like Elvia I'm not buying that answer. Strippers are women, no different than any others. That is, none are perfect, just like men.
Humans are a mess, and you seem like pedestal man. Me thinks women see you coming.
But I'm bored, so why don't you tell us about this special women you saw at a strip club. I'm guessing you've already developed a crush? /:O
Yes, for me anyway.
No.
Absolutely nothing. I'm there to make money, not meet ppl to date or be friends with. It's a job. I'm paid to be social, it's not personal, it's about money.
TBH, I don't get the feeling that you want to date a stripper for her mind anyway.
If you are into strippers, you have a better chance of bagging a stripper on StripperWeb, than you do while she's on the job. :D Lots of smart, nerdy strippers hanging out right here. Demonstrate through your words and deeds that you are a solid, regular guy, who isn't too creepy, and maybe someday you'll hit paydirt.
Now tell us about the awesome girl you met in the stripclub. She must be something special eh?
jack0177057:
I don't date customers, although I heard that this happens (very seldom). Please consider, however, that we met hundreds of guys (and some of them are really hot) who trying to impress us thinking that they are very inventive with their strategy. Truth is, they are not. Every single line I already heard more, much more than once. Do I enjoy to talk to some customers? Yes. Can I be swept off? Hm...NO! In fact, I personally, find it harder even to interact with someone whom I met OTC because I am much more picky and it is hard to impress me. Please also don't try these stalker schemes on us: it is creepy. Besides,I don't reveal my personal info to waitress either.
The bottom line: do not go to strip club to date. I agree, with this attitude you will never date a stripper. Dancer will just get your money and try to keep distance from you even more than from any other customer: no one wants stalker.
I am currently dating someone I met in the club. I have been dancing 7 years and this is the first time I have ever done so.
So how did he do it? Well, first of all, he bought 5 hours in the VIP with me. That was a great start. During said 5 hours, he did not once try and grope me. He was/is also exceptionally good looking and intelligent. But ultimately I was the one who intiated the first date.
Basically, be a gentleman, spend money, and let her come to you. If you get all romance-y, sweep her off her feet, she is going to see you as cheesy and desperate.