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Hey Pretty Ladies,
Well...I am sure you guys heard this same story before...I've registered to this Community because I am considering becoming a dancer and I've read your stories, your advice and etc and you ladies are so WONDERFUL and supportive of eachother and I love it...I dunno, I guess I'm just looking for more personal feedback from you guys...
I know I'm not bad looking and I CAN dance. I'm a frequent visitor of strip clubs, I love women and how sensual they are, I love how women are such a piece of eye candy...What I'm saying is, I love the industry and art, women, and beauty is my passion.
I am currently a waitress...making sad money and I'm also a college student. My goal is to graduate college, move closer to the coastline and start my own business. I can't do ANY of that while working so much. I really, really, really want to focus on school and graduate. I also want to start my own empire of lingerie, dance clubs and fashion...
I really want to start dancing but I am afraid of what my best friend thinks, my mom and the rest of my family- the only opinions I care about. Also, I am afraid that no good man would be interested in me therefore, no marriage, maybe children by some loser...I am also afraid of being alone-because I know the people I grew up with will disapprove, but I don't care..and I am extremely NERVOUS.
You ladies have BALLS and I applause you for being so strong- because that's the only type of woman (besides crack whores) who can enter this industry.
I know I can do it, I know I'd make so much money because I do think I can dance (plus i'm hot lol), dancing is an art...so it's not like I'm entering for the wrong reasons such as a drug habit. I know for a fact I am strong and I could keep my head up so I wouldn't start any bad habits or do anything desperate and stupid outside the club.
I have a goal that is important to me. I have a certain lifestyle that I want to lead in the future and that is important to me.
So, ladies please give me as much advice as you can.
Thanks!!!!
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Stripping is a great way to pull in cash to fund a small business, college education, or to support yourself while you pursue artistic goals. Stripping gives you not only freedom and flexibility, but it also gives you time to pursue what is most important. By stripping two days a week, I have the rest of the time to do what I please.
It's important, though, not to become lazy, and not to be so dazzled by the money that you put everything else on hold. Keep one foot in the stripping world and one foot in the "real" world by working a part-time job, going to school, etc. This method is also a good way to diversify your streams of income and avoid putting all your eggs in one basket. You will have shitty nights when stripping where you'll walk out with no money at all. And you'll have some great nights. But it's easier to tolerate this roller-coaster ride if you know you're pulling a steady wage, even a small one, from another job. It helps keep you sane.
Another benefit: stripping will enable you to take on low-or-no pay jobs that you love. You'll be able to intern, or volunteer, or work with a low-paying nonprofit, which you wouldn't be able to do if you had to worry about paying bills.
Also, if your family will not approve of your stripping, don't tell them! I would never tell my parents for this reason. And it's not that I like to lie to them--but I really believe they would rather not know. I tell them about my other (part-time) jobs.
It is important, though, to have a network of people you can talk to about work. It is a high-stress job at times, and for your mental health, you NEED to be able to talk to somebody. Find somebody, even if it's just one person, who you can be honest with. I hide my stripping for the most part, but my best friend knows, and my boyfriend does, too. A huge weight was lifted when I knew I could be honest with them about my work.
And it is absolutely not true that you can't have a great boyfriend/marriage and be a stripper. There are plenty of ladies on here who are living proof that you can be a happily married/committed stripper.
Hope this helps.
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First of all, being a stripper today has very little to do with dance skills and everything to do with sales skills. In many regions, the girls who make the most money never get on a stage or touch a pole. They are on the sales floor selling lap dances and VIP rooms. Stage shows alone may earn you some money, but mostly stage shows are considered a hinderence to income, not a help.
Dancing is a great career for introverted people. I know that sounds counter intuitive, but realistically introverted people can keep quiet about what they do for a living, are more comfortable doing one on one sales with the customers and don't get caught up in the lifestyle of being a stripper quite to the degree as an extroverted person does. Introverts aren't as effected by what others say and think of themselves from the inside out, whereas extroverts are vulnerable to the opinions of others and have a bigger problem of excepting negative attitudes toward the job.
I danced for several years before the vast majority of my family and friends knew what I did for a living. I highly recommend you keep your job to yourself as much as possible, as strippers and other sex workers are easy targets for ridicule. People, in general, don't see strippers as human and are frequently surprised to discover that strippers have families and life goals beyond stripping. It's like strippers get the kind of public ridicule that celebrities have to deal with, but without the salary of a celeb to go along with the ridicule.
I'm going to say this again, because it is very important:
Being hot and having dancing ability will get you the job, but it isn't enough to earn the big money in the stripping biz.
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Originally Posted by
Winged Dinghy
Stripping is a great way to pull in cash to fund a small business, college education, or to support yourself while you pursue artistic goals. Stripping gives you not only freedom and flexibility, but it also gives you time to pursue what is most important. By stripping two days a week, I have the rest of the time to do what I please.
It's important, though, not to become lazy, and not to be so dazzled by the money that you put everything else on hold. Keep one foot in the stripping world and one foot in the "real" world by working a part-time job, going to school, etc. This method is also a good way to diversify your streams of income and avoid putting all your eggs in one basket. You will have shitty nights when stripping where you'll walk out with no money at all. And you'll have some great nights. But it's easier to tolerate this roller-coaster ride if you know you're pulling a steady wage, even a small one, from another job. It helps keep you sane.
If there was one thing I wish someone had told me when I started dancing, this is it. :-\ Instead I got dazzled by the 'easy, fast' money, and decided that I didn't really need those pesky, confining school plans after all. Two years later, I am MISERABLE (and broke).
This time around I want to do it right: stay in school, and teach music lessons on the side so I won't feel pressured in the club. Always, always have something else going on in your life...whether it's school or a side job that you can count on. Never let stripping be the main thing in your life.
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I agree with the above posters..its all about sales skills and to keep something else to be able to fall back on. You cant strip forever and many girls get burned out after a few years. Also, being such a physical job means that if you get sick or hurt..you have no more income.
SAVE! As much as possible. That LV purse wont mean anything when you cant pay your bills because you broke your ankle or the market turned in your area and theres no money in the clubs.
And dont worry about finding a man. When the time is right,the right one will come along and love you for who you are. If anything,stripping can help weed out the crap ones if you keep your eyes open and your wits about you!
And for the record..I started after I got married...we've been together 12 yrs,married almost 9 and going strong. I've been stripping for @8 yrs and doing webcam and adult films and magazines for @ 3yrs. he wouldnt dream of telling me not to do something that I want to do.And I wouldnt be with anyone who would!
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Originally Posted by
Paris
I'm going to say this again, because it is very important:
Being hot and having dancing ability will get you the job, but it isn't enough to earn the big money in the stripping biz.
Yeah, I do realize that a big part of stripping is being able to persuade someone- I know that. I was just saying being non-ugly and having a dance ability is a big bonus. I really didn't say what I meant but but that's what I meant. Thanks for your feedback!
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On men:
It's true, I think that dancing actually weeds out the ones who aren't worth your time. A good man will love you for who you are and what you do, will respect your choices and decisions, and trust you, no matter what your job entails. Those who have problems with you are incompatible anyway! I know girls who are dating/married to the most supportive and understanding men, with or without having children.
The guy I'm seeing (for almost two years now) took it horribly at first, but since then he has come to terms with my job and realized stereotypes for what they are, and that I'm WORKING, not going to party with strange men and hook up with as many as possible for a few dollars. And he's not a loser I'm just settling for, I think he's the best!
There are plenty of great guys who find it interesting, not embarrassing. They understand that "It's just your job," and don't assume that it automatically means you're hot, or not.
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Originally Posted by
Winged Dinghy
Also, if your family will not approve of your stripping, don't tell them! I would never tell my parents for this reason. And it's not that I like to lie to them--but I really believe they would rather not know. I tell them about my other (part-time) jobs.
I would not advocate this. Some people consider not telling them the full truth to be lying, and your family or best friend could be one of them. Do a search on hear and you'll find all the horrible stories of dancer's that hid dancing from their families, only to have them find out anyhow and act like it's some big scandal. Some families will go so far as to disown the dancer, and that can be much more hurtful than just telling them up front that you are considering dancing.