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I'm a bitch b/c I want to be paid for my dances.
That's right....I am just downright wrong for wanting to be paid.
Once again, who do we have to blame.....the girls who sit all night for free, party it up, and get paid for their dances in alcohol or drugs. Either that or having the "privilege" of sitting and dancing for these pathetic, gangster-wannabe, Eminem-wannabe broke losers who they THINK are so damned cool.
I had a group call me over to their table, and ask for dances. Not my kind of people, the types I mentioned above, and I usually stay away from, but they did seem a little more tame and respectful. I have been trying to be a little more open minded towards people at work...BOY WAS I WRONG about these pieces of shit being respectful or HUMAN at all. My fault for trying to make a buck, right?
I did 3 dances and the guys who got them all pointed to their "head honcho" so to speak....and said that he's pretty much the leader of the group and takes care of everything.
So I go and sit on his lap and tell him that I gave 3 dances, and it would be $15. Immediately he gets on the defensive, pushes me off his lap and says I'm "whack" and "need to get the fuck out of there" I remained calm, and told him that I was sorry to upset him but I DID do 3 dances and all I wanted was to be paid for them. He got even more pissed, and feeds me this line of BS:
"Girl....you should feel lucky that we even called you over here. Haven't you seen me in here before? Don't you know who I am? You don't ask me for money, I'll pay you when and I want. I'm a straight hustler ma, you don't come to me and try to hustle me"
I told him I wasn't trying to hustle him, all I wanted was the money for the songs I danced!!!
By now the guy is fuming, and cussing at me furiously....then saying that I "better step off or else"
I was upset, needless to say, and a few of the girls that had been sitting there asked me what happened. I told them, of course they had no sympathy for me and actually DEFENDED them!! One girl told me that I should "feel lucky to be allowed at their table, and he gets really offended when people ask for their dance money" Another girl told me that they owed her $60 bucks but she wasn't gonna "make a big deal about it"
What the fuck is wrong with people?
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Re: I'm a bitch b/c I want to be paid for my dances.
Did you get your money in the end?
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Oh my GOD!!!! I am totally infuriated after reading that. I would've gotten the bouncer to put his cocky ass where it belonged--on the curb!
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^^ That's what I'm thinking. I hope to God the bouncer didn't refuse to help you.
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great. Sounds like the club drug dealer on his high horse.
Trust your instinct.
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Wow what the fuck..! I hate those arrogant types of pricks. The bouncer should have had your back and kicked his ass and his posse out. Did you ever get the money?? Props to you for staying calm; I would have gone ape shit if someone didn't pay me for my services.
If they're such big shots $15 should be no problem... ::)
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head turner
great. Sounds like the club drug dealer on his high horse
One of the many I am guessing.
And no.... I never got my money..... and no, the bouncers didn't help me. When I complained about the situation they looked at me like I was crazy.
I am so burned from that. Like I said I was trying to be more open minded and not judging customers by their looks but fuck it, I guess I am gonna have to go back to my old ways of COMPLETELY avoiding these pricks.
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I had a similar situation last night. I went against my gut and did two dances for a guy who I had sized up as an asshole, but they were the last two songs of the night and he was the only option left (it was really dead). At the end, he said that I should pay HIM! When the club closed and he still hadn't paid, I hit him without even thinking. I've NEVER hit anyone before.
I know how infuriating it is and respect you for not visibly losing it like I did.
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I'd always laugh at this kind of people.
It is sad when someone is so disconnected from reality. He's probably having it rough anyway ;D
Don't feel bad.
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Wow. I've had to deal with some bs before, but nothing like that.... If the bouncer won't help you out over $15, I'd find a new club. I could see a scene being made over $50+; hell it's happened to me. But seriously, that's chump change. I would have walked out of the club, and told the main guy he was smoking crack. I also would have called them out, " Baby, if you're a balla, you shouldn't have a problem giving me $15 to get rid of me.... Unless you're just fronting anyways."
But I just had a bad night and I'm feeling bitchy.
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Honestly, I think u should definetely try to find a brand new club. I don't like anything about ur club... $15 for 3 dances? That's bullshit! U should try to find a place where u can make more money. But that aside.... I think the reason why we all work at strip clubs and not at some agency where they send u to do shows at customers' houses is because of the safety factor. If the bouncers won't even help u to get ur money what can u expect if someday a customer is being abusive or gets too phisical? Try to find a better place babe, u're way better than that place!
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I have never in my life. Every club I've worked at the bouncers and managers were more than willing to muscle in on a guy that wasn't trying to pay...regardless of who he is. Even the dive I worked at where the manager has been known to tell girls to do extras if that's what the customer thought he payed for. Granted he never said that to me because I never had a customer think he was getting something he wasn't...but still. Even that prick got mean with customers for me over money. What freakin club are you workin at?
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I miss the good old days when the bouncers were there to make sure assholes like that guy didn't come into the club.>:(
The presence of that jerkoff is why the nice customers aren't coming to the strip clubs anymore.
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oh man. that's rough.
i hate guys with that attitude. at my club, at least, those guys do spend money. a lot of money. but only on the girls they like. and my white ass is never one of those girls.
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wow that complete bullshit!! that's like someone going to McDonald ordering 3 super size me meals and expect to walk out free cause they think that they are the next 50 cent or something. god my last club was shit like that too. not to mention the managers tried to prostitute me to the customers..not only that but for a ridiculously low price.....i cant wait till i win amateur night this Thursday and get into a better club!
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Paris
I miss the good old days when the bouncers were there to make sure assholes like that guy didn't come into the club.>:(
The presence of that jerkoff is why the nice customers aren't coming to the strip clubs anymore.
The bouncers at the clubs I worked at would have gone off on those guys. I've seen the bouncers hit bad customers. I'd be going off on those losers myself if I didn't get paid. I remember one club where the guys had to pay upfront for each dance because of customers like that. Maybe clubs need to go back to that. This is why I don't regret retiring from the clubs. I feel sorry for all the dancers who get ripped off by these pieces of garbage.
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Kellydancer
The bouncers at the clubs I worked at would have gone off on those guys. I've seen the bouncers hit bad customers. I'd be going off on those losers myself if I didn't get paid. I remember one club where the guys had to pay upfront for each dance because of customers like that. Maybe clubs need to go back to that. This is why I don't regret retiring from the clubs. I feel sorry for all the dancers who get ripped off by these pieces of garbage.
England and Ireland all dances are prepaid its a rule in the club, if customers are having a lapdance and ask to carry on then i always get the money first aswell which we're supposed to do, some girls leave the paying to the end for additional dances x
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yeah i really can't get over $15 for 3 dances. 5 dollars a dance? that just blows my mind.
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that really really sucks.... ugh, i hate mofo's like that. The dude was first off a retard and asshole for treating you like that... and his friends were basically punk ass bitches who tried to set you up.
fuck them. i'm sorry that happened to you. you handled it better than i probably would have
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callista
" Baby, if you're a balla, you shouldn't have a problem giving me $15 to get rid of me.... Unless you're just fronting anyways."
Dammit! Why can't I ever think of clever things to say like that?! I am so bad at comebacks. I am sure he would have just flipped out on me more though, so it's cool....I think walking away was my best choice unfortunately.
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Innocense
Honestly, I think u should definetely try to find a brand new club. I don't like anything about ur club... $15 for 3 dances? That's bullshit! U should try to find a place where u can make more money. But that aside.... I think the reason why we all work at strip clubs and not at some agency where they send u to do shows at customers' houses is because of the safety factor. If the bouncers won't even help u to get ur money what can u expect if someday a customer is being abusive or gets too phisical? Try to find a better place babe, u're way better than that place!
Well, I actually do make very good money there. I haven't had any problems in a while either, like a few months or so. I've been doing well, kicking ass, having the best customers every night and then all of a sudden this shit happens.
Technically how it works with the $5 is that it's a $5 minumum. Which means you are allowed to charge more. I usually never have a problem with getting more than $5. Most of the time I don't even ask for more and end up getting $10 a dance anyway.
With this guys though, I didn't want to push the envelope. He was verbally threatening me and the last thing I wanted to do was try to charge him more...
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DaniMBSC
I have never in my life. Every club I've worked at the bouncers and managers were more than willing to muscle in on a guy that wasn't trying to pay...regardless of who he is. Even the dive I worked at where the manager has been known to tell girls to do extras if that's what the customer thought he payed for. Granted he never said that to me because I never had a customer think he was getting something he wasn't...but still. Even that prick got mean with customers for me over money. What freakin club are you workin at?
I know. This is one thing that I have always found bizarre about my club. The bouncers do NOTHING and I mean NOTHING. It's almost like they are under some sort of spell with these losers. Like I said, when I told them about the situation, they looked at me like I was crazy and said "Those guys are usually cool....sorry, but you can't expect me to go force the money out of them" Even when I told them that the guy was cussing me out, calling me a bitch and a c**t and everything else, they just kind if threw their hands up in the air and said "I'm sorry hun, but nobody ever has problems with them"
Thank god I am not required to tip the bouncers, or I'd have some words.
I don't know who that group was, but everyone seemed to be under their spell. I am guessing they had to be drug dealers. I don't do drugs so I guess thats why I don't fit in too good sometimes >:(
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I feel so bad for you, I've been burned in the past as well and I decided that using the judgement factor based on my own experiences helps me to increase my monetary gain instead of decrease it over time, just follow your own instincts and forget about losers that are jut not worthy of your time or energy.
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I'd find another club if you can't get the bouncers to do anything about it. I'm sorry you had to deal with that BS from a customer.
I also agree with Cashing in, you should definitely get the money up front. This happened to me once, and that is all I needed. Never again. You just can't take those kinds of chances with your money. They want a dance, then they better be able to put up the money first....or they get nothing.
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its much better, you have to go to the house mom or bouncer in most clubs, some sell chips at the bar, it makes the customer appreciate it more i think, they realise that we're working and its not all fun x
always business before pleasure
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Damn Cherry! I'm so sorry that happened! I haven't read the entire thread, just the OP's post.
I work in a predominately Latin club in So. Cali. I have only been stiffed on a dance once, but it's so degrading! And young, cute dancers at my club are offering discounts on $10 laps!!
Anyway, I'm digressing, but this is what I do: I carry a stun gun. Yup. Those 'ganstas' wanna mess with me? So be it. I haven't had to use it yet and if I do, I will say it was self defense because I was being robbed, which is the truth.
I realize I run the risk of being fired and being followed home. However, if followed home, I live in an affluent neighborhood in which the cops actually show up within a few minutes after you call. I would not go home, just to the station. If I had too, I would get a cop to escort me home (yeah they are that cool).
I would also run the risk of them finding my car at work and vandalizing it. Well, I would switch cars with my man for a while. (He likes my car better anyway).
Sorry, so long. But if these asshats wanna be 'gangstas' then I will have to be Clint Eastwood. (Or for you younger ones who don't know him, I would be the guy from "Crank").;)
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^ ^ ^ ^ ^
I actually own 2 of them. I love my new one: it looks like a cell phone and has a camera on it so you can get a photo of the asshat after stunning him}:D