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Rude Customers?
How the hell do you deal with it? I went to an amateur contest last night to cheer on a friend and while the girls there were super sweet and tipped the contestants, the customers were rude! I finally yelled at one girl because she just kept going on about how fat my friend was (she's got love handles, but very pretty and talented dancer) Then that loud mouth's friend got up and she weighed an easy 300lbs...lmao
I know strippers aren't perfect, everyone has cellulite, saggy boobs, big feet... whatever. But when people are so blatently rude, how do you deal with it and keep a smile on your face night after night?
What has happened in the past with customers that you just couldn't believe?
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Re: Rude Customers?
Walking away and ignoring them could be one of the best things you could do.
Although, I did have a REALLY bad night one time. This guy came in with a group of his friends and they were just being jerks. He made some comment about how I was pretty, but he'd seen better breasts. Thanks dude, I didn't ask you but just for the record I've NEVER had anyone say anything close to that about them - so you are one in a million. I think when I walked off I may have mumbled something about him looking like a fat John Travolta just loud enough for him to hear.
That was a one time occurrence... but it did make me feel better and it was VERY true. I was beyond having a bad night that night. Then the Bubba J look-a-like walked in and I banked off him! You just never know who's going to walk in and you can't stay in a bad mood too long or you'll lose a great potential customer.
Another Bubba J video... just to show you what I was dealing with! LOL
Yeah, that was my joke of the week. He looked like Bubba J, talked like him, and was as highly amused with me as I was with his money. See, everyone came out happy. ;D
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im a bigger girl and i already know this some guy came in he was from poland heavy accent could barely understand him but he kept on with i just have to tell you one thing you are big girl but its amazing what you can do on stage how u get your body to move like that... let me tell you this you are big but you are soo beautiful...
after about the 5th time of him telling me how big but beautiful i am i said i know im big i look in the mirror every damn day you dont have to keep telling me i think the drunker he got the more he forgot he already told me he went as far as wanting dances but wanted to bargain the price my stage name is caddy and he swore upon calling me kashia the rest of the night went to take my top off for me while i was dancing i kept have to redirecting his damn hands he went as far as kissing my hand and licking me at that point i just walked away went to the dr doused myself in hand sanitizer and ignored him the rest of the night he got pissed off and was talking shit across the bar
i didnt even care
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I used to be able to sit and smile through the back handed compliments (e.g god your beautiful for a big girl, the thing about big girls is the big tits,you can tell you enjoy your food etc...) but I snapped once when a customer did a straight up blow by blow unflattering comparison of my body with the very thin woman on stage and since then I just get up and leave when they start saying things that offend me.
I think you have to preserve your self confidence in this job even if that means passing up a money making opportunity.
Of course the trick is trying to understand when a man isn't trying to be offensive and try not to be too sensitve, which is easier said than done.
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There are too many stories to tell...I try to tune people out when they r being disrespectful..Actually last weekend a guy said something to me about my ass--i have a larger than normal ass(my waist is 11 inches smaller then my hips)--I straight up told him I didnt appreciate him talking to me like that..Then he proceeded to go to my customer and bad mouth me because his ego got bruised. People(customers-male and female) hate it when u act like they dont exist or stand up for urself...They can pretty much go fuck themselves when they act like that and they can tell--I hold my head up high and know and truly believe in every inch of my being that I am better than people like that---That is what ultimately gets me through--Knowing I have a big heart and I reserve the right to care for only a select few who deserve my friendship and care And unfortunately most customers do not fit into my select few...
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I like to turn it around on them and it usually works. For instance:
I was dancing for this guy and afterwards sat on his knee as I was getting dressed and chatting. He then literally picked me up and moved me to his friends lap and said, "you gotta get a dance from her!"
I said, "Excuse me, I am not a mindless object that you can just move around like a package!" (or something like that)
He looked at me blankly.
And then I added, "How would you like it if I did that to YOU???"
He apologized profusely, and kind of hung his head, "No, you're right, I wouldn't like that."
If you put them in your shoes, (or maybe even their sister/mother/girlfriend), it drives the point home effectively, I find.
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Just don't put up with it. They're probably not going to tip you, or tip you very little, and are you really willing to put up with that shit for a few bucks? Seriously, a guy would have to tip me a LOT of money, like handing me hundreds every few minutes, for me to put up with that. If you start to feel angry or hurt or objectified or whatever, just get up and leave. You don't need to freak out on him--that's likely to exacerbate the situation, and will probably make you even angrier--and other custies, who don't know what's happening, are liable to think you're just some really thin-skinned stereotype psycho stripper. Why let some asshole's rudeness affect your money? You don't even need to explain why you're leaving. Just calmly get up and walk away.
And, of course, there's always the bouncers. At my club, if they're being so much as disrespectful, if you tell the bouncer, he will go over and give them a warning. If they do it again, they're gone. But that might just depend on the club.