Employee/dancer relationships
Well, I have a club and a new doorman that I think is fabulous. I think he may be dating one of the dancers which is against our policy. So far he has denied the relationship while the dancer has been telling others that it is going on. I have confronted him and he tells me it is a friendship. They are both married with children. The rumors have circulated a bit of gossip. Both workers are new. I do know what I am going to do if the rumors prove true but I do wonder what you all thing of staff/dancer relationships?
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I'd just ignore it and focus on making money.
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As long as it doens' affect me negatively, I could care less. Dancers are always dating bouncer and managers and djs and whatever. Some keep it private, some announce it. In this industry, it's better to focus on yourself than what everyone else it doing.
Drama costs money.
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I'd ignore it. Who cares who is dating who? If it is against club policy, it'll come out sooner or later, and it'll get handled the way that it should.
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gypsy_girlchild
Drama costs money.
So very true.
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I always just figure it isn't any of my business, though I do find it a tad unprofessional.
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oregonchick
Well, I have a club and a new doorman that I think is fabulous. I think he may be dating one of the dancers which is against our policy.
Hehe... I think I know who it is....8)
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oregonchick
So far he has denied the relationship while the dancer has been telling others that it is going on.
It sucks but you should fire them both. He's a creep cheating on his wife and trolling for dancers. She's a loud-mouth looking for attention. I'm sure there are enough dancers at your club to go around. You have rules posted for a reason, enforce them. If you keep tabs on earnings, is she one of your higher-earning dancers? If not, just one more reason to let her go.
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oregonchick
I have confronted him and he tells me it is a friendship. They are both married with children.
That's sad. Creepy and sad. >:(
I've been dancing for a number of years and have only had a fling with a fellow dancer once. Even that was a bit of a disaster. Inevitably, she got too moody and tried to throw a wine glass at me. I've never even so much as flirted with male staff-members because I sort of liken them to custies who can never be trusted. I appreciate the no-dating-staff policies at clubs because unlike custies, staff aren't paying me to be there.
I support dancers dating custies over dancers dating staff.
Just my $0.02!
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great advice VB. Thanks everyone.
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You OWN the club?
Heh, sorry I thought you were saying you worked there, I have a one-minded stripper mentality...
Well, first, I think this is actually strippers only in this aisle... That's why we all thought from a stripper's point of view..
BUT, if you have the power to fire them, then do it. Treat it as any other business, if it's against policy then they shouldn't be doing it. That's all there is to it. They know the rules and if they break them they should pay the consequences.
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gypsy_girlchild
Drama costs money.
true dat.
as long as they aren't bringing it into the club, I say let luuurrrve blossom! except this case is kinda...sad. but still, it is not anyone else's business, as long as it doesn't interfere with work.
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I always thought the "no dating the dancers" rule was just a precaution, so that if someone's relationship caused problems, then management could fire them. If it's not affecting his job or causing drama, then I don't see any reason to fire him.
Really, I don't know why dancers would want to date the staff anyway. I dated a bouncer when I was young, but eventually I realized that I don't want a boyfriend who makes $7.50 an hour and is around me every minute of every day.
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Update:Well through more sources I did find out they were having a sexual relationship. And since part of his job is to handle money and he was blatantly dishonest when I contronted him, I went ahead and fired him since I did not know what else he could be lying about especially since he handles money. Thanks for everyones input.
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Sounds like you did the right thing.These kind of relationships rarely end in a good way.
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gypsy_girlchild
You OWN the club?
Heh, sorry I thought you were saying you worked there, I have a one-minded stripper mentality...
Well, first, I think this is actually strippers only in this aisle... That's why we all thought from a stripper's point of view..
She's an ex-dancer-turned-owner. I'm sure her input in this section is just as valid as, say, Janet's (bestdancers) or any other ex-dancer-turned-agent/owner on this forum.
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vivianbear
She's an ex-dancer-turned-owner. I'm sure her input in this section is just as valid as, say, Janet's (bestdancers) or any other ex-dancer-turned-agent/owner on this forum.
I did not know that she was an ex-dancer, she didn't say that in her beginning post.
I think that if she had, the responses would be a lot different, don't you?
I believe most of the responses were geared toward someone who is a dancer, not the owner of the club. As a dancer, mostof us responded that we tend to ignore the drama of employee dancer relationships, BUT that's not to say that we condone them.
If all owners were like her (and stuck to the policies they put down) we prob. would have a lot less drama in the club.
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oregonchick
...I do wonder what you all thing of staff/dancer relationships?
So long as it doesn't affect you negatively, let them do what they do.
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^^^ I agree. I think it's a bit over the line to try to control your staff's personal sex lives. But then, ridiculous controlling rules from employers was one of the things that drove me out of that world and into dancing.
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MSNYC
The chick who wrote that blog sounds like an f-ing idiot.