Am I totally off base here?
So tonight my best hustle buddy calls me and says her customer is coming into town. Apparantly he has a friend, and the two men would like to take she and I for a drink, gambling and pay us for our time. No going into the room, no stripping, just hang out in a public place and compensate us because we'd be missing work.
As many of you know, I live with my ex, and when he asked what I was happy about, I told him E had found us some money. He then proceeded to tell me I was "blurring the lines" and "when did my morals change?" and "I feel sorry for anyone else who dates you and has to put up with this shit." He also told me I was greedy because of the money I make. I told im to STFU and it isn't escorting and he used that stupid patronising tone and was like "c'mon, M, what is the definition? you're being paid for you companionship...".
Nasty words were exchanged (he even called me a cunt bag) and I suppose my feelings are a little hurt.
Have any of you done this? This will be my only OTC experience. Am I doing something wrong? Like I said, it is with someone I trust and in a public location.
Any thoughts?
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Yeah I think he's a douche, and the sooner you're rid of him the better off you will be. He has no say in your life anymore, and he has no business criticizing you. I don't see anything wrong with what you're about to do and I say go make your money! Yeah you're being paid for companionship. So? It's the same as the guys who pay you to sit with them ITC even though they don't want dances. That's ok right? And as long as you don't get talked into doing something you don't want to do, go out and have a good time. :)
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^^ I second that :D There is nothing wrong for getting paid for companionship
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Screw him, he's being an ass!!! There is absolutely nothing wrong with what you're doing.
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I personally think what you're doing actually is considered escorting. However, he's your ex and doesn't have any say about what you do or who you do it with anymore. That really sucks that you still have to live with him. It's actually ironic that you're doing LESS sexually in your situation as opposed to that you'd do IN the club. I've never done this, but I've heard of people who do similar things like this all of the time and I don't think there's anything wrong w/it at all. I know you say you trust the people, but just be careful (had to throw that in there).
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^^ Yeah, E (my hustle buddy) is actually one of my two best friends. I've known her for a year now, she knows my SO and my non-dancer friends, we're super close.
I know, it's funny huh? All I have to do is put on a pretty dress and go gamble to get paid. No boob showing involved. :) I'm actually thinking tonight is going to be sort of refreshing.
My ex is totally being a douche about it. He left and then cae back with treats saying they were "peace offerings". I looked at him and said an apology would be better. He did apologise, but I am not one to be won over so quickly.
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He just sounds like he's trying to hurt you, and he knows which buttons to push.
Go to the casino and have a blast and make money--and who knows, maybe you'll win big.
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Of course I've done this. Guys are willing to pay for eye candy - hey let them.
Your ex is a scrotum and poo on him. He's just jealous because you can make cash by being pretty and charming. Go have fun.
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Do what you want girl. It's your life and your decisions! Men will always want to put you down or control you unless you are doing what THEY want. They are pretty selfish that way.
Have fun and make your own choices. If you don't feel you are doing anything wrong, you aren't. As long as you aren't at all uncomfortable, you're good. I've never been paid to hang out b/c I worry about safety and whatnot, but if it's a public place and they don't know your personal info, it's probably fine. And it sounds kind of fun! Getting paid to party and gamble. just BE SAFE!!! :)
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DO what you want and fuck what he has to say. If you think it's a good idea do it. I personally get skeesed out by the thought of doing anythign outside of work with a customer but if you know you can handle it, then by all means. Life's too short to deal with controlling boyfriends!
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i also agree, that he's just a douche he's just jealous. i've done things like that before and i don't think there's anything wrong with it.
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i went through the same thing with my last boyfriend. get rid of him!!! are you supporting him?? because i was supporting this guy, working a full time job, dancing at a club and escorting for a legit company, where i did nude dancing and went to dinner with men...we had a lot of clients that owned farms and big name horses that wanted arm candy to go to keeneland and churchill. anyways, he gave me shit non stop for doing this and said he wasnt interested in having sex alot because it turned him off that i took my clothes off for other men.
if i was in your situation i would dump him, however im really trying to come from your point of view, and i know it would be hard to leave him if you have feelings for him. so what i did was make a plan, where would you live (if you arre living with him), cost of thngs (if he is paying for things), and then when you get the balls dump him. it helped me to tell a friend about the situation, she really pushed me to get rid of him, my mom also did. I ended up moving in with a friend of a friend, this was in 2007 and we started dating and im really happy i left douchy..(i left and he owed me 2400 $ which he has never paid me). I made up alot of excuses but with my mom and friends pushing me I moved alot faster.
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also either have a guy drive you and maybe wait for you and tip him out...and make sure you carry mace or pepper spray. it pays to be safe...that sounds corny but its true. better safe then sorry. when i work i carry bear mace...and my gun sometimes (but i have my conceal and carry) and a gun is a little intense for your situation, but i would carry pepper spray.
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I guess you can't take it back now .... but it would have made so much more sense to just saying you are working tonight.
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i went through the same thing with my last boyfriend. get rid of him!!! are you supporting him?? because i was supporting this guy, working a full time job, dancing at a club and escorting for a legit company, where i did nude dancing and went to dinner with men...we had a lot of clients that owned farms and big name horses that wanted arm candy to go to keeneland and churchill. anyways, he gave me shit non stop for doing this and said he wasnt interested in having sex alot because it turned him off that i took my clothes off for other men.
if i was in your situation i would dump him, however im really trying to come from your point of view, and i know it would be hard to leave him if you have feelings for him. so what i did was make a plan, where would you live (if you arre living with him), cost of thngs (if he is paying for things), and then when you get the balls dump him. it helped me to tell a friend about the situation, she really pushed me to get rid of him, my mom also did. I ended up moving in with a friend of a friend, this was in 2007 and we started dating and im really happy i left douchy..(i left and he owed me 2400 $ which he has never paid me). I made up alot of excuses but with my mom and friends pushing me I moved alot faster.
I did dump him, 2 months ago. He's my ex and we just have to ride out the last month of the lease because my apt complex wants an astronomical amount of cash to break the lease. It sucks.
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i went through the same thing, had to pay 1200 to get out of the lease. i feel your pain....some men are just dicks.