-
Thinking of Swinging
Okay. Sooo I've been fantising about swinging for years now. You know 2 guys or my guy and another couple. I've been offered more times then a few but kept thinking about what others would think if they found out especially being a black woman its said to be more of a white thing or something black male athletes do(no offense). Any way I'm single but met somebody interested in swinging (I think). That's a hard to explain story. My thing is I want to be with somebody(s) neither of us have been with perferably black and attractive. My questions are: Do any of you have experience with Swinging? and Where do I find somebody(s) willing? Does this sound weird that for some reason I would perfer to be in a relationship with somebody and we swing together or have an open relationship?
-
Re: Thinking of Swinging
Swinging is great as long as you know what you are getting into and dont bring jealousy or drama into it.
There are a lot of sites like sdc.com, lifestylelounge.com,etc..that will let you meet people. Specify what you are looking for in your profile (if you dont want single guys, arent bisexual,only want to meet black cpls,only want soft-swap or full-swap,etc...etc...SAY SO. ) and include pics. Most people wont meet anyone who doesnt have pics.They dont have to show your face,but be prepared to send face pics to anyone before you meet. We wont meet anyone without seeing face and body pics of them both.
Good luck!
-
Re: Thinking of Swinging
No not weird at all! Most swingers clubs are limited to couples, but welcome single women. Generally, single men must be strictly screened before being allowed to join a swinger's club.
All the swinger clubs I've been to have been mostly white and the average age of members was around 50 years old. There were occasional younger people, but I met folks in their 70's and 80's at the "dances".
My husband and I quit going because he expressed that he was bi-curious, and that got us black listed at most swinger's clubs. They are strictly anti-gay-male at most clubs, but encourage gay female interaction. I felt that was such a typical male-porn style fantasy that it left a bad taste in my mouth. My husband and I wouldn't be able to enjoy the fantasy that got us turned on (male/male/ female) and I was looked at as strange because I wasn't into lesbian play.
We tried several clubs, and all had same general format of swapping and 2 females to 1 male kind of playmates. The only multi-male to one female playing that was tolerated was gang bangs. There is just something about everyone getting into it, together! I've been with 2 bi men and it was so awesome! But the swinger's club wouldn't let me indulge that fantasy.