Need help to make lapdances hot
okay so i jsut moved to cabrondale illinois and am working at the gallery. its a much nicer and a lot more famous club then the shitty ones i have worked at before. i am awesoem on stage no problems. i love it. i struggle with lapdances however. i see the other girls doing crazier and sexier things...im18 and jsut started a couple of months ago so still a tad bit intimidated especially in this club. and heres the thing-ITS A NO GRIND club. so that kind of throws me off from the lapdances im used to giving. im actually not sure what to even do at this club with lapdances and the head stripper (theres no house mom) said she wouldnt show me....wtf?! so please ladies help me out i need money so unbelievably bad, plus it would be awesome to be good at what im doing!
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Look him in the eye, move slowly, caress the back of his head, run your fingers through his hair, smile seductively, even talk dirty to him if you feel comfortable, ect. There are many things that you could do without grinding.
Is your club an absolutely no contact club? If you can do light contact, just brush up against him slowly. I work in a high contact club and I only lightly brush up against the guys crotch with my legs and it usually gets me multiple dances. General rule is to look him in the eyes, smile, and give him the impression that you enjoy dancing for him.
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I work in a complete no contact club - I can't touch him and he can't touch me. I find that I can get away with closeaspossiblewithouttouching. lol and there is no rule against whispering in his ear! moving very slowly and moaning a tiny bit and breathing heavy helps. I find once I get a guy for a private dance I can make him stay for at least a few songs.
Also, whispering "what do you want to see more of?" in a sexy way helps. The interaction, plus he feels like he is getting a more personalized dance...which he is!
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You don't need to grind to give a good lap dance. Practice posing, leaning into him, talking to him. You can slide your hands down his arms and hold his hand. You can give him mini back massages when you lean over him. There's lots of stuff you can do. Just take some time and practice.
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Daisy! I do the same exact thing! I 'accidentally' brush up occasionally against his leg or crotch, but other than that i'll sneak a stroke in on his arm or chest, and do a little sigh in the ear, brush my lips against his neck, an occasional peck on the neck or nose... And occasionally running my hand thru the hair at the nape of his neck.
It's about the tease. It's all about the tease. I then finish up with, "Oh, i'm having so much fun.... (nearly moaning the 'so much fun'), you don't want to stop do you?" It's very hard to say no when you're being tormented like that, lol.... I started on that just a bit ago, and my repeat sales have shot up.... As in, from a dance or two to four or five. ^_^
I'm not even allowed to take my top off or touch, so you really gotta be creative in san diego.
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and also.......... FUCK ME EYES FUCK ME EYES FUCK ME EYES FUCK ME EYES.
look at him and friggin imagine he's the sexiest man you've ever seen, and you can barely hold yourself back from ripping his clothes off, then give him a little moan in the ear.
if you're having a hard issue with the mental image, I find that Brad Pitt as Tyler Durden works very, very well.
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callista
It's about the tease. It's all about the tease.
Exactly. Making the dance seductive and sensual and making him want you with the way you move your body. No touch clubs are sexier b/c they are more about the art of seduction rather than the grinding on a guy's penis, which is easier..
Practice in the mirror, learn different styles of dance, and learn poses that suite your body.
Brushing your hair around their neck is a good way to give them chills but not actually touching them..
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Christyismyalias
Exactly. Making the dance seductive and sensual and making him want you with the way you move your body. No touch clubs are sexier b/c they are more about the art of seduction rather than the grinding on a guy's penis, which is easier..
Practice in the mirror, learn different styles of dance, and learn poses that suite your body.
Brushing your hair around their neck is a good way to give them chills but not actually touching them..
Absolutely! I use my hair a LOT, brushing it against him, against his face, brushing it back on my head, even using it as a shield with his face by mine, like we're in our own little world and nothing else matters.
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callista
and also.......... FUCK ME EYES FUCK ME EYES FUCK ME EYES FUCK ME EYES.
look at him and friggin imagine he's the sexiest man you've ever seen, and you can barely hold yourself back from ripping his clothes off, then give him a little moan in the ear.
love it! this is awesome advice.
also -- i like the idea of using your hair as a shield to the rest of the club, making it your own little world... but i feel like that's soooo intimate. maybe because i've only done that in sexual situations with people i care about, generally in bed, in post-coital lovey-dovey mode. gah!
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I always worked in high contact clubs until I came to San Diego. Now, I give air dances, and I really think I give the best dances that I have in my life. Not to mention, I get more repeat sales.... ^_^