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"What are u doing after work?" How do you deal with these fools?
I get this so much. I sit here and talk to a guy and he starts asking when I get off work, what I'm gonna do after, do I want to hang out with him. How do you get around this crap and steer the conversation back to private dances. I usually just get annoyed and walk off. Half the time I see these guys go get dances later. Wtf to do?
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Re: "What are u doing after work?" How do you deal with these fools?
i normally say "well ive been here since *so and so time*, so im going to bed later, but how about we have some fun now?"
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Re: "What are u doing after work?" How do you deal with these fools?
oh god, i wish i knew what the secret is to getting these guys to spend. it happens to me also, and i see them spend money on other girls. my friend told me that the problem might possiblt lie in that i am good at establishing rapport with them, to the point that they think im for real and actually like them. and that the kind of girls they will spend money on are the type that just come up to them quick and dont do the whole getting to know them thing. i dont know what it is for sure but yeah, mosst of the time i just walk away and try to find a better customer. unfortunately those have been scarce lately.
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Re: "What are u doing after work?" How do you deal with these fools?
^^^^^^^ lol yea "I think that stripper likes me"
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Re: "What are u doing after work?" How do you deal with these fools?
This may be a bit odd but I always say that a bunch of us girls all travel in together from a bit away and always travel home together with a driver to make sure that everyone gets home safe. They usually either comment about how that is smart and then I ask if they would like to have some fun with me now, or they bitch about it and I toss in an ego stroking "well, unfortunately not all guys are like you, so a girls gotta be careful, I wouldn't want them worrying about me" and then try for a sale again.
I actually find both of these techniques very effective, good luck!
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Re: "What are u doing after work?" How do you deal with these fools?
I just say plain and simply, "Sleeping!" If they are regulars I say I have a bed time lol. If they push the issue further I leave.
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Re: "What are u doing after work?" How do you deal with these fools?
It sounds to me like they know you are single, and that may well be your biggest mistake. When guys ask if I am single I say:
"If I tell you I am single than chances are you will want to see me outside the club, rather than here. If I tell you I am married/not single than you are going to lose interest in me. Therefore I can't tell you if I am or am not single."
Almost 99% of the time they will agree with this argument and not even bring up trying to see you outside of the club.
If you fail to have this conversation (which rarely happens), then I say "I have been so tired and I'm really looking forward to sleeping". If they ask about tomorrow just tell them that you are working or visiting with a cousin/friend from out of town.
If they keep pressing to see you outside the club just walk away... they won't spend money on you.
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Re: "What are u doing after work?" How do you deal with these fools?
I say they couldn't afford me, lol.
Seriously though, I would tell them that we should go in the back and talk about where we would hang out after as we get to know each other a bit better. They usually bite so I milk them for whatever I can get and move on to someone else. If they don't I simply try a flirty line and try again, if that doesn't work I'll walk away.
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Re: "What are u doing after work?" How do you deal with these fools?
"ohhh...i have to return to my boring life as a desperate housewife....lets go in the back now so I can have some fun with you!"
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i tell them i'm taking care of my child. i don't have a child, but if these guys are just looking for a hookup it scares them right off. i don't really worry about losing money because i've never had one guy spend much on me after asking that dreaded question.
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Re: "What are u doing after work?" How do you deal with these fools?
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Originally Posted by
headlesschicken
i tell them i'm taking care of my child. i don't have a child, but if these guys are just looking for a hookup it scares them right off. i don't really worry about losing money because i've never had one guy spend much on me after asking that dreaded question.
Fuck. That just made me laugh my ass off!
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Re: "What are u doing after work?" How do you deal with these fools?
Just say "Well lets go get a dance and I'll whisper what I'm doing later in your ear while were doing it," smile, and wink. Either that or cuddle up to them a little and lie your ass off. "Well hopefully you, but I can't leave till I get to $500. I'm so close I only need another $100. Let's go get a few dances and then we can talk about it,".
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Re: "What are u doing after work?" How do you deal with these fools?
^^^ A line like that is against the law where I live. I'd recommend dancers check their local laws before making comments like that. It's a good one to get dances, but it could potentially lead to problems.
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Re: "What are u doing after work?" How do you deal with these fools?
If they're the serious, creepy type:
"I haven't decided yet"/"I don't know!"/"I have to see a friend, I promised her"
And then they'll suggest I go home with them, and I just do some stupid smile coy thing where I act like I'm thinking about it, "Hmmmm... I don't know... Maybe not tonight... Maybe if I get to know you a little better... I never go out with anyone after the first time I meet them... You're cute, so, maybe next time... " and then change the subject.
I mean, i never lie and say "yeah, sure, I'll go home with you," but I stall as long as possible, and pretend that I might go home with them, but that I haven't decided yet, or I'm playing hard-to-get.
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Another way that actually works, if they have a sense of humor-
Him: "What are you doing after work?"
Me: "Hanging out with you!"
Him: "What! Really???" =D
Me: "No."
Him: "What are you doing after work?"
Me: "Going back to your place!"
Him: "Yay! Alright!"
Me: "Just kidding!"
Those responses always throw them off. Then they usually laugh, get the idea, and give up.
Sometimes if they still drag it out, I go back to the first tactic, then take a break from them.
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Re: "What are u doing after work?" How do you deal with these fools?
'i'm going to have a big fat weiner.... hey, why are you looking at me that way! i'm craving barbeque! you perv! you've never wanted to get some meat into your mouth? GOD i would KILL for a good weiner right now, it would make me so happy! there's nothing better than crashing after you've had a good weiner!'
if he takes it in a way that is creepy, then i meander on towards a new victim. if he laughs, i ask if he wants to help me work up an appetite. is it kind of a silly pervy hustle? yes. but it suits my sense of humor, and it works about half the time.
'oh i just cant wait to get it in my mouth, all covered with toppings... my mouth is watering just thinking about it.... what, you've never had barbeque at 3 am? oh sorry no you can't come over, i don't share my weiners. i love my weiners, i'm very protective of them.'
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Re: "What are u doing after work?" How do you deal with these fools?
^^^ LOL I'll have to add that one to my repertoire.
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Re: "What are u doing after work?" How do you deal with these fools?
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Originally Posted by
Kylea2
^^^ A line like that is against the law where I live. I'd recommend dancers check their local laws before making comments like that. It's a good one to get dances, but it could potentially lead to problems.
Why would that be against the law? lieing? saything that she has to make more money or that she would talk about going home with him?
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Re: "What are u doing after work?" How do you deal with these fools?
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babybambi08
Why would that be against the law? lieing? saything that she has to make more money or that she would talk about going home with him?
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Originally Posted by
pogocat
"Well hopefully you"
In Colorado that would constitute a proposition for sex, and if it happens within a SC the courts would consider it an offer of prostitution.
Our laws here are really poorly written, but then they are in MANY states... so it's best to know the laws beforehand.
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I used to tell guys I had a puppy. That my puppy was newborn and I had to take care of it when I got home. Often they'd ask questions about the puppy and I said it was a large breed and describe it. This worked because the guys thought I didn't have a boyfriend (though I did), and gave me an excuse.
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Re: "What are u doing after work?" How do you deal with these fools?
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Originally Posted by
Kylea2
In Colorado that would constitute a proposition for sex, and if it happens within a SC the courts would consider it an offer of prostitution.
Our laws here are really poorly written, but then they are in MANY states... so it's best to know the laws beforehand.
Yes that is true! We have had undercover cops at our club for the past 2 weeks arresting girls for doing stuff like this!
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Re: "What are u doing after work?" How do you deal with these fools?
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Originally Posted by
Kylea2
It sounds to me like they know you are single, and that may well be your biggest mistake. When guys ask if I am single I say:
"If I tell you I am single than chances are you will want to see me outside the club, rather than here. If I tell you I am married/not single than you are going to lose interest in me. Therefore I can't tell you if I am or am not single."
Almost 99% of the time they will agree with this argument and not even bring up trying to see you outside of the club.
If you fail to have this conversation (which rarely happens), then I say "I have been so tired and I'm really looking forward to sleeping". If they ask about tomorrow just tell them that you are working or visiting with a cousin/friend from out of town.
If they keep pressing to see you outside the club just walk away... they won't spend money on you.
this is my favorite lol thank you mama!
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Re: "What are u doing after work?" How do you deal with these fools?
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Originally Posted by
pogocat
Just say "Well lets go get a dance and I'll whisper what I'm doing later in your ear while were doing it," smile, and wink. Either that or cuddle up to them a little and lie your ass off. "Well hopefully you, but I can't leave till I get to $500. I'm so close I only need another $100. Let's go get a few dances and then we can talk about it,".
Hmm.. no offense but I personally wouldn't say that. Someone might take you up on it and stalk you all the way home or something.
I'd either probably say something like "Gotta get my beauty rest babe, but right now I'm all yours if let me dance for you."
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Re: "What are u doing after work?" How do you deal with these fools?
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Kellydancer
I used to tell guys I had a puppy. That my puppy was newborn and I had to take care of it when I got home. Often they'd ask questions about the puppy and I said it was a large breed and describe it. This worked because the guys thought I didn't have a boyfriend (though I did), and gave me an excuse.
thats a great idea! i came up with something similar earlier today of telling a guy that i have a couple of dogs at home that i have to go take care off and feed and walk so i have to go straight home. i figured it would work not only cause it gives me an excuse of having to be somewhere but also cause im hoping he'll figure he cant mess with me cause i have dogs to take care of me.
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I really like the pet idea. I've used it pretty consistently when guys start hitting on me. The only problem I've come across though is if they say they're an animal lover (sincere or just putting on) and, for the sake of persistance, talk about how they would like to see this pet or offers to help take care of them!
One that I've found to work most of the time is to say that my sister and her daughter are visiting me. I think it's the double team of an adult and infant that shuts them up rather than saying something like "we could just go to YOUR room" or some sleazy comment about fooling around while the kid is sleeping.
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I don't understand these guys who ask to take me home (or to Waffle House!) AFTER they tell me they dont want a dance... I mean the least they could do to curry my favor and (theoretically) make me more willing to go home with them is spend some cash on me in the first place (not that I would go home with any of these guys either way but still....).
One actually told me that he didn't wanna buy a dance from me cuz he didn't want me to think he was "that kind of guy"; that I would think poorly of him for spending money on a dance and then I wouldn't wanna meet him OTC!!
Don't try to hustle ME, mothafucker! ;)