Sugar Daddy help needed ASAP
I put this in here because the SD how-to is on this board and really, having a SD is just advanced hustling :)
Back story: I met my sugar daddy in November. Our relationship started off as just an internet set-up. I would write his fantasy erotica, and he would pay me (started at 300/month) as compensation. Over time we added "bonus projects" like photo pictorials, short stories, poems, sending naughty lingerie, etc. The money gradually increased to 1K/month for all the bonus projects and writing I did for him, but it was still strictly over the internet/phone. Then- in March he proposed the idea of paying all my living expenses (2K) in exchange for coming to visit me 1 long weekend per month. No sex is expected- we go out for dinner, go shopping, go for walks, go for coffee, etc. The first visit went well. I made 3K in addition to the living expenses (he bought all of my old stripper gear, he has a foot fetish), and he bought me a small amount of clothes and shoes in addition to that.
In between the first visit and this one, he proposed another deal- I travel with him 6 times a year, for 10K each trip- no sex involved. I agreed to it, with one stipulation- a friend go with me, we split the $. The first trip is supposed to be in September- to London and Paris. He even wrote up a contract saying he'd pay me 2K/month in exchange for visits/projects and 10K for the international trips. I really think he's just a lonely old guy who wants companionship. He has said there's three aspects to his personality- the fool, lust, and compassion, and he tries to let compassion rule with me because he wants to help me. This visit has been much different.
It started with a trip to the club- which went VERY well. He came in, met my friend, we danced for him, he spent 3 hours, had lots of fun, paid me well. The second time we got together we went shopping. We went to the bank and he paid off my car loan (with a savings bond he just happened to have lying around- this guy is seriously a billionaire in blue jeans), and then we went to the mall where he dropped like 1K on pretty dresses and shoes to go out on dates with him in, and a couple casual outfits and lingerie too. Then we went to the mattress store and he put a $300 deposit on a 1100 tempurpedic mattress for me, that is supposed to be delivered Thursday, and he's supposed to give me the other 800 today before it comes (it's COD). We also tried to go to the apple store and get a new laptop (Im a writer and my computer is not saving any of my documents, is out of memory, has a broken CD drive and a cracked screen), but apple just came out with new stuff, so the one I wanted wasn't in stock yet, so we're saving that for today. The second visit went great.
The next day, we had a dinner date planned with my friend (we're planning on doing a private show for him tomorrow and he wanted to get to know her better). I was in sort of a quiet, reclusive mood that day, because I'm PMSing and I was just not feeling like being social, but I really tried to fake it/force it for him- it's really hard being emotionally tuned in to someone so intensely, I'm a total empath and I feel everything. We went out to dinner, and everything seemed to be going fine, but after an hdeour and a half of eating drinking and chatting, that wasn't enough, he said " i'd really like to spend the evening with you", meaning... just going to dinner wasn't enough. I asked him what he meant and he suggested going to a scary movie and I declined politely telling him I was really tired and felt like calling it a night because we have a big day planned tomorrow. Keep in mind he wasn't paying specifically for the dinner/companionship time last night, I was just doing this to please him. I offered an alternative- going to the porn store to get some things for tomorrow! That SEEMED to please him, we went to the porn store and he bought me like 300 dollars worth of pasties, massage oil, lube, and sex toys- he really seemed to like this. Then (I was driving him in my car) we get in my car and again he's all nervous/anxious/needy about the night ending, I start to drive off and he goes "no wait! stop the car I want to talk about where we're going", so I stop in the middle of the parking lot, perturbed and frustrated. By this time I had spent 3 hours with him and was really ready for the night to end. He started wondering about what he was going to do now (it was 9 pm on a tuesday and he had a business meeting in the morning- it's never enough!!) and I told him I'd take him back to his hotel and he said he wanted to go to a movie again. I told him I really had to go, and that i'd see him tomorrow- and dropped him off at his hotel and said goodnight.
Then, an hour later he calls me, accusing me of dating a guy I'm friends with on my myspace page and accusing me of being the girl in this guy's myspace blog. The guy is someone I work with, who was writing about ANOTHER girl's sugar daddy, even said the girl was 19 (i'm 20) and that she wore paris hilton perfume (obviously not me). He made up this whole fantasy worried story that I was dating this guy and he was the guy in the blog entry, blah blah blah. I didn't even know what to say on the phone- stalking me on myspace?? really? I felt violated and pissed off so I tried to end the conversation and told him I'd call him tomorrow about our plans.
This morning at 10am I get a text from him saying "lets talk". NO!!! god, why can't he just accept that we have this relationship that is strange and interesting and be in the fucking moment?? he can never enjoy when we're spending time together because he's always thinking of what's going to come next and what's going to happen in the future and what he's going to get. Flashing my ass while we're shopping isn't enough,taking off my panties in the car and giving them to him isn't enough, a private striptease and massage isn't enough, seeing my in his weird fetishy lingerie isn't enough, sending him my naked pictures isn't enough, writing long erotica stories isn't enough.... UGH.
I really just want to get my computer and my bed and then end it, but now I'm wondering if it's even worth it. I would only have to spend today with him- go to the apple store- get the computer and get the cash for the bed (around 2200) which is NOTHING for him, and he promised he'd do.. but idk if it's even worth it. I could make the 2200 in two weeks at the club but it just pisses me off he's dangling these things in front of me and then acting like this.
WTF should I do?? He's irritating me so much I don't know how to hustle him and act convincingly anymore. I'm trying to watch clips of priceless and imitate audrey tatou, and that worked for awhile, but he's at that point, the expiration point I think. oh well. 7 months is a pretty long lifespan for a no-sex-required sugar daddy, don't you think??
what would you do? get the compensation and run? break it off now?? try to keep going?
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nevermind. got him back in a good mood, got my bed and new laptop, gave him a private show and we're on good terms again.
worth it? yes.....
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sugar daddies are relationships, they always have their ups and downs. sometimes the person pisses you off! glad to hear it worked out, but next time maybe you should just explain that you're tired and would like to make it an early night, but you'll make up for it tomorrow?
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Geez, that would just drive me batty. Does he know you were PMSing? Maybe you should have just told him that. A lot of men seem to be really empathetic to women during that time of the month.
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I wouldn't break it off, but that's just me. A no sex sugar daddy is hard to come by, I would think.
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^^Yup, I thought they were extinct.
Don't want him? Pass his ass off to me. I'd love to make a metric ass ton of cash before retiring.
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I'm with blue jean. They are almost ridiculously hard to come by.
I had to break it off with my pseudo-sugar daddy. He's offered to pay bills and the such for me, and doesn't mind if I'm involved with other guys, but ultimately, my needs weren't being met. In a clear cut sugar daddy/baby relationship, it's all about the trade off of money and companionship. He was willing to offer up the cash but, while he talked alot about us spending actual time together, he never actually acted on his word and we mostly only saw each other for short periods to have sex. Even though he'd buy me cartons of cigarettes at a time and give me the money to go out for dinner, shopping, etc, it just wasn't enough for me to really justify continuing the relationship.
I started feeling more like a prostitute than a real sugar baby!
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Girl, you have a great thing going with this man. Milk every last drop. I would kill to snag a sugar daddy like that.