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Drinking and Dancing
With all of the posts I have read lately about drinking and dancing I was motivated to make this post.
Alot of you have expressed that you would like to quit drinking while you are dancing.
I know how difficult this can be from my own experience. I am considering getting into dancing again after a long break but I am in fear that being in this enviornment will influence me in a negative way, so I have yet to get into dancing and face my fears, though I know I cannot hide forever.
I think it would really help if I knew a few sober dancers in town to work with/ associate yourself with at work who can be a positive influence in a sea of negativity and bad influences. If you are having a bad night/feel like you want a drink, someone will be there for you.
I just want your thoughts. I am considering making a sober strippers support group, where dancers can contact other dancers via email, or by other means if they would like, to get to know other dancers in their town/club who are also sober. Please let me know your thoughts. I think it would be great if SW had a section here specifically for this like the classifieds.
I know some clubs do not allow alcohol at all but I will not work in a nude club in the town I live. I will only go topless. Dancing sober is possible but you do need the support of others to overcome any addiction/alcohol abuse. Please let me know what you think. I know not everyone will be open to this idea, dont have time to talk to other girls while they are working, but I think this would help alot of girls who don't necessairily have people who do understand in their lives. For example, If I went to AA and got a sober buddy who was never a dancer, they would have trouble understanding your lifestyle.
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I think this is a cool idea...but I'm pretty sure any addiction specialist would say that anyone with a serious addiction (alcohol or otherwise) cannot expect to work in a strip club environment (or similar) without relapsing/continuing to have serious problems. Then again, you're probably not talking about alcoholics--perhaps you just wish to help women in general who feel they must drink while working?
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Hey there ty for your response. I am talking to anyone who wishes to quit drinking and dancing. An alcoholic who has a career eventually has to face the career without alcohol. I know this is a bad comparison, but I will use all of these celebs with drug/drinking problems as an example. The celebs get sober and still have a career to maintain, without the use of drugs or alcohol. Some sink and some swim and a relapse is possible, but many do maintain their sobriety even though odds are against them. Anyone who goes sober is thrust back into real life wether they can handle it or not and they must learn other ways to cope. They must associate themselves with new friends who arent abusing alcohol or drugs as well. If I had a support group to talk to before/after or during times I feel like I need a drink at work I think it would help out alot. A relapse is possible with any person who goes sober, and unfortunately working in a stripclub isnt the best enviornment for drinkers, but for some it is the only option, and they must find new ways to cope, and associate themselves with people who will be supportive of their sobriety.
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I've been sober for over 5 years now. No drinks, no drugs, just lots and lots of coffee, lol.
I started dancing 3 years ago, so I have been sober through my entire career. It's alot easier than you think.
I'm here to help if anyone needs it.
B
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I rarely ever drink - and never at work. Most of the customers really appreciate this and I find that it helps me to sell dances. Just opt for water and juice. You don't need to be around other dancers who are struggling in order to get over this, you just need to start using the alternatives (water/juice/soda). I also find that not drinking helps me to move around a lot more - talking to different people... which leads to more sales.
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Ty so much for your support. I havent danced in a few years and obviously I am considerng doing so again. It is time for me to face my fears. I just made this post because I know how hard it is to over come any problems with alcohol, and think a support group would be great. Your words are so inspiring and has given me strength. If in the longrun I could help just one person because I did start a group like this it would be amazing. I would not start dancing and open this group, it would be alot of stress. But in the longrun I would consider starting an orginization of this nature. But yeah, if you havent gathered, I danced a few years back, got out of it, started webcam modeling. I have not drink heavily in about 3 years now, and I look back and realize I did not make my full potential. It is going to be a test of my inner strength to start dancing again, but I have learned from my mistakes and I think everyone deserves a second chance. I dont have alot of friends who understand. I also do not trust people easily so I have never had that good (sober) girlfriend who I could go on auditions with and explore clubs with. I wish I did but I am not in business to make friends either. I just have to find my inner strength and go for it.
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I would love to be a part f a group like that. I've been sober 8 months now from rational.org No meetings, just made a decision that I had to stop for good. I have a different attitude at the club but knowing that I will never crash my car or hook up with customers is priceless. It's hard sometimes because theres a bar next door and all the girls, my friends and cohorts in crime for the last two years, go there to drink and come back to work. I look at them fondly but I have grown very distant from the "scene" at my club. I stay above it all now and just make money in a slow and measured way...
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It really is all about inner strength. You can do anything you set your mind to. No craving is more powerful than YOU and a choice you made or decision you are sticking to. I believe in you!!!
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Good for you peach! You have all been so supportive. I wish I had a few close friends who would really understand, but here in Vegas it has been impossible to make friends and make friends who are sober. It is nice to know that there is someone out there who does understand. Ty peach and send me a pm anytime. I'd love to keep in touch, and possibly work together on a group like this in the future. I understand how hard it can be. Feel free to pm me anytime you need a shoulder to lean on! Your kind and supportive words mean so much!