lost my mojo, I need some help!!!
Ok, I am supper stressed!!
-I just broke up with my ex (that I love very much) bc he wouldnt get a job.
-I have drama with my new guys ex!
- She works at my home club from time to time and Its just been really stressfull
-My mom is being a super bitch! And last night she decied she didnt want to help watch my kids!!
-Ive been having health problems, and I cant get insurance or medicad!
-On top of all of that I havent been able to eat for like a month. I drink those protein shakes, gatorade and soup. I have probably eated solid food about 10 times this month- And because I havent been able to eat I sleep too much. I called my doctor and they cant see me til the 26th! The stupid bitches at the office are like we cant find you in the system. Im like umm Ive been there a million times, and yes yall have a problem getting me an app. everytime!! its a low cost clinic thats the only reason It takes forever and Its the only place I can afford!!
So when Im at work I feel like I have NO energy, and I guess everyone can see that and then dont want dances from me.. I have made about 100 dollars this week =) this new club I have to work at bc drama at this girl has SUPER high floor fees.. its rediculis Its like 60 dollars after 8PM. It would be ok but i am not making any money!!
I dont know what to do.. I am trying to destress but I cant!! everyone says take off, and I have done that but I have to work!!
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Have you thought about getting a different type of job for a little bit? Can you change clubs? Since you said that you're at a new club, can you work something out w/mngmnt so that you "can get a better feel for the club" and possibly not have to pay as high of a tipout (some let you do that, and in some clubs it won't fly).
What is making you not be able to eat solid foods? Are they giving you indigestion or something?
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I had a somewhat same situation as yours. I had many different highly stressing items in my life. I started to not be able to eat or drink. I'd just throw up or gag if i even thought about it. Long story short, my body lasted about a month with no food or liquids, and I was rushed to the ER, where my heart was going crazy. Girl, you have to FORCE yourself to eat & drink enough or your gonna end up where i was. Our hearts are not made to handle all that pressure. So anyhow, they had to put 6 IV of liquid into me just to get my heart to slow back down, and my color started to come back. THe final diagnosis was that was from all the stress, my nerves were shot & therefore took away my hunger.thirst.feelings.everything.
You had no energy at work because you aren't getting the fuel you need. Well I have been there, done that, not a fun road to travel....I hope you feel better soon, if not, screw waiting for dr appt, just go to ER, they HAVE to take you with or withou ins.
Take care;)
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no they are supper stricked on tip out. I used to waitress there.. they are ass holes.. Ive just been so stressed that I cant eat.. Its hard to explain, but if its happen to you know would know what I mean. Its like I cant chew anything, Its really a mental block.. I thought I was anorexic and went to my doc, and conselor _but when I had Medicaid. But they said thats when you dont want to eat, I Want to eat -so its from depression and/or stress. I got to eat some nachos today... so that was good..
I went out to the movies with my Bf, and he was having baby mama drama.. she was supposed to pick up her kids at one to BRING to her moms! She wasnt even going to see them, the grandma called and wanted to see them, and he doesnt like to go over there bc he says they are all crazy so the BM came and was 2 hours late!! We were waiting forever, which I dont mind his kids or anything its just that she was that late and she wasnt even going to see them.. So we didnt have long to do anything bc she wanted him to pick them up at 6, so we went to the movies it was great. its was 6.30 by the time we got out and she was blowing his phone up..
I went home, we talked on the phone once, and then a few hours later The stupid bitch texted me "He said stop calling him, we are tryn to work shit out"
I was freaking out, cause she left a message on my phone once and she said Ill win him back blah blah.. BUT I had not been calling, and he always talks shit about her... like she is really crazy, she does drugs sometimes, she says she hates him and her kids. She left her kids when the youngest was just about 2 months old, and never sees them.
{{Once before I ever met my bf in the dressing room she was screaming I about she doesnt care about him but she doesnt want him to have a gf bc she likes her 300$ phone and he car}} (he pays for both of them, but he is about to repo her car in a few weeks =) )
So I called him and he was like no, I cant stand her, she is just tryn to piss you off, we were just fighting about her being so late to pick up the kids.
So I texted her. "Thats funny. I just talked to him he said your just trying to piss me off, and if he was with me today, he doesnt want you. Ive never been a bitch and Im not trying to so please just leave us alone."
She says "lol he is my hus. I left him 4 years ago and he is done with you he just left."
I say "HAha I dont believe you! He has spent almost every night with me for the last 3 weeks! you just want him to pay your bills and its over- he doesnt like coke heads"
She- "He just paid my bills and Im not a coke head, lil boy"
Me- You really think you wants you?? You dont even take care of your own kids!! Thats attractive!"
She- "Actully I do dumb ass"
I was fucking pissed! I called him and I was like did you pay her light bill (she has been asking him for about 2 weeks) He said No, he told her he was about to take her car away. She has been working alot cause I call my old manager and ask if she is there bc I like to work there.. and she has been working everyday.. So She must have made some money.
So I say "No your nothing but a coke head! And thats all you will ever be! No you dont take care of your kids! He already told you to leave me alone or he was going to take your car and phone from you! So Go ahead keep it up!"
She didnt say anything.. and I was pissed Im usually not a bitch but she has keept on.. this isnt the first time so I went ahead and said
"Its really sad your own kids dont like you? It must suck to have your teeth all fucked up huh? Whats that from anyways? YA I can be a bitch too! So Fuck off! He does want you. We ARE together and there is NOTHING you can do about it!"
and that was over an hour ago.. =)
I talked to my man and he said he has called her but she wont answer now =)
I told him I wanna be there to hear him say it again.. so Im going to his work tommorow and we are going to call her again..
He has already told her a twice to leave me alone, but she is crazy! Anyways I was stressed about her but now that I have talked to him I feel better =)
Anyways Im going to try to go to sleep, Im going to look for a day job tommorow =)
My Bf says he wants to see me more than a few nights a week and he will pay my bills, So that sounds good to me! Ive wanna work a little tho, but It will feel so much better with his help.. He already paid my rent =) so I am going to go get my kids some new beds with my extra money
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ohiogirl26
I had a somewhat same situation as yours. I had many different highly stressing items in my life. I started to not be able to eat or drink. I'd just throw up or gag if i even thought about it. Long story short, my body lasted about a month with no food or liquids, and I was rushed to the ER, where my heart was going crazy. Girl, you have to FORCE yourself to eat & drink enough or your gonna end up where i was. Our hearts are not made to handle all that pressure. So anyhow, they had to put 6 IV of liquid into me just to get my heart to slow back down, and my color started to come back. THe final diagnosis was that was from all the stress, my nerves were shot & therefore took away my hunger.thirst.feelings.everything.
You had no energy at work because you aren't getting the fuel you need. Well I have been there, done that, not a fun road to travel....I hope you feel better soon, if not, screw waiting for dr appt, just go to ER, they HAVE to take you with or withou ins.
Take care;)
thanks, Im feeling a little better.. I was able to eat something today.. But they only have to take you if THEY think its an emergency! I went once with a kindney infection, caused by a urinra trac infection.. I told the doctor what I thought it was bc I had had it before and he just said well its not an emergency and you dont have insurance so I would suggest to go to a doctor. I told him I couldnt afford one, he said to drink clear fluids!!! and released me!!
Thank god I made it.. I forced myself to drink alot of water and took some over the counter azo tabs.. it took forever to go away but they are some serious ass holes.. but I am doing a little better today..
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Wow, you have had a lot of stress. I am glad you are feeling at least a little better.
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OMG This STUPID BITCH YALL iM GOING TO TO GO CRAZYYYYYYYY!!! SHE JUST TEXTED ME AND SAID "WELL IF YOUR TOGETHER AND SO HAPPY WHY DO YOU KEEP REPEATING YOURSELF ARE YOU TRYNING TO CONVINCE ME OR YOURSELF AND HE HAS ONLY LOVED ONE WOMEN AND I ALWAYS COME FIRST SWEETHEART SORRY, i DIDNT EVEN HAVE YOUR NUMBER, HOW DO YOU THINK i GOT IT DUH, ITS A NEW PHONE HE GOT ME HAHAHAH"
i CALLED HIM AND WOKE HIM UP AND ASKED HIM, i SAID DID YOU BUY HER A NEW PHONE AND HE SAID NO, I TOLD HIM WHAT SHE SAID AND HE SAID SHE IS JUST TRYN TO FUCK WITH ME SHE LIKE TO DO THAT. HE SAID WE WILL CALL HE TOMMOROW.
BUT i GOT A BETTER IDEA. I AM GETTING THAT PHONE SHUUT OFFFFFFFFF!!! FOR REAL! fUCK THIS AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH I AM NOT A VIOLENT PERSON AT ALL, I STAY AWAY FROM CONFLICT BUT SERIOUSLY IF I KNEW WHERE SHE WAS, AND I WOULDNT GET IN TROUBLE I WOULD BEAT THE FUCKKK OUT OF HER, LEAVE HER FOR DEAD FOR REAL!!!
OMG ITS TAKING EVERYTHING NOT TO TEXT HER BACK.
BUT I AM GETTING THAT PHONE SHUT OFF , OR THAT WILL BE THE END OF US AND I DONT EVEN GIVE A FUCK!
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^^^Go girl. Find out the truth, if he's lying, kick him to the curb.
P.S. get healthy, the better you feel, the faster you can take care of the rest of your issues
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So we had lunch today but we didnt have long.. he was really busy today, so I just let him know I was really mad >:(,I didnt eat all my food even tho it was soo good.. I did eat enough but he was like why arent you eating, I said I cant eat when Im upset and he was like please dont be mad, Im sorry Im going to call her again when I come over tonight.. We kissed bye and it was ok
he doesnt know I already have a plan }:D
I got a restricted call today, I thought it was her- she has called me before like that, and I got the message it was CVS, about my pictures lol.. so I deleted the VM and the Call to VM. And I told him she called again hehehe }:D
Im going to tell him something like this..Im really upset bc I feel like you arent doing anything to make her stop. she keeps saying that you are paying all her bills, that she will always come first and how you still love her.
I really didnt mind you helping her before she started throwing it in my face. I dont care she is your kids mom, you have to think the way it looks from my point of view; my bf is paying his exs bills and she keeps harassing me.
You told me care about me and want to pay my bills, so does that mean you still care about her too??
I really like you a lot and I dont want her to make us fight or anything.
I dont want you to call her, I want you to cancel her phone and stop paying for her car, she is just using you.:bullwhip:
And then Im going to make him call and cancel the phone.
If he agruees Im going to be like ok well then you must still be with her or love her.. I wouldnt pay my exs shit esp. if I had the kids. and if he still wont, Ill tell him its over.. so I think Ill get my way.. If not fuck it..
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So not to piss off everyone that actually has insurance, if you need to see a Doctor go to the ER. Apparently, according to the Rep. Senate Majority leader who was on Meet the Press last night this is the best option for people with no insurance. You could have something really wrong like intestinal blockage or ulcers.
And as far as the drama with that other girl,, I know you're only a teenager but you really need to grow up when it comes to relationships. And not just you, a lot of girls on here. Esp. Babibambi you have children and are not in h.s. M aybe at 15 it's ok to have catfights about boyfriends but you are a woman now. Please ladies, do not encourage this type of behavior! This type of shit is one of the biggest issues I am havinbg with this industry right now, all the clubs are crawling with children and it's called the ADULT industry for a reason.
I know I sound like a bitch but I really am trying to help you here.
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I am not a teenager. I AM grown. And your completely wrong, like I said before Im not a violent person, and even when I feel that way I dont act on it. And its a perfectly good reason to be mad... she thinks she owns him, she hates him; the only reason she doesnt want us to date is because she knows if he has a gf, he isnt going to pay her bills..maybe you read it wrong or something but you are wrong about that. I have done the grown up thing and walked away and turned my check many times, I switch to a club I hate bc she wants to continue to try to fight me. And I honestly dont want any harm done to her, I have tried to tell her this. If I were to go to my club right now, I know she would try to throw a punch at me and this is her last straw, they told her if she gets in one more fight with anyone she will be banned, she is already banned from the other two clubs in the area. I dont want her to not have a job I just want her to leave me alone. Im not going to go up to her work and fight her, Im not taughting her, Ive tried to ignore her, turn the other cheek, talk to her, and she keept on so no I am not going to just let her push me over and win. EVEN if we didnt have any problems I would allow my bf to pay her bills, anyone that does that is just stupid.
I am very grown, Ive been on my own since I was 16, and not my choice- I didnt run away, and my parents didnt kick me out. My parents started doing drugs, and we all became homeless,.. I have had to work to support myself and two kids, (and yes, I had unprotected sex, Im not saying that my kids are to blame or anything like that- I would have still been on my own ) and deal with a lot of "Grown up" issuse you have no idea about. Do not ever tell me I need to grow up, Im more mature than most of women my age.
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ANYWAYS!
I texted him, that I was more hurt than mad, and I would tell him about it when he came over.
He called and said he has to go out of town to do some business and wont be able to see me til a little later tonight. he asked what I was hurt about, and I told him I didnt want to tell him over the phone, and he was like please dont be mad, I cant control her.
So I said, Im not really mad at you and I dont believe what she is saying, but Im tried of all the drama, you have already told her to stop calling and texting me before- if you just took her phone away she wouldnt be able to, she is just using you.
He said ya your right, I could do that, Ill do it if she says anything else.
I said Well you already told her that once, and she isnt going to stop- and If you think about it, it makes me look like a fool having you pay her phone and car.
He said ya I was right,
then the office phone was ringing, and he said we will talk more about it later.
Last time he turned off her phone before we were together was because she ran the bill up and she has always supposed to pay.. she keept coming to his work, stalking him, the same shit she is doing to me! so he just turned it back on..
Then another right she came up to his office and wanted him to pay her lights, he said no, and she keept on and on.. and we were out together and she keept on and on and on, so he was like fuck ok, and he was like Im just going to give her some money so she will leave us alone..I told him dont give her any money esp. with me, and so he told her he might if she trys to work, she ended up getting the money so she didnt need him, but I can see how he gets fustrated with her keep on and on.. She always says "your my husband, and Im your babys mama!!" They havent been together in 4 years, and she never takes care of the kids, he has been tryn to get a divorce for a long time and she wont sign bc she think he will make her pay Child support.
I told him I wouldnt leave my bf, unless he talked to his lawyer again about getting a divorce, and he said that he could wave child support and they talked and she agreed on that and was supposed to sign the papers, and it would take 60 days and it would be final. then she found out we were dating, and didnt sign.
So maybe We need to just say we arent dating, and tell her thanks you won, and I guess even tho I hate it let him keep paying her phone and car til the divorce is final, and then take aways the phone and car. She is dumb she wouldnt know how to read a legal document and doesnt have any money for a lawyer..
so.. on with the drama!! ughh..
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fuck all this drama. Im done with both of them. Its too fucking stressfull for me!
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Thank You. I know I was being a bitch but if you saw what you were posting from someone else's eyes (NAMELY MINE!) You would see why I said that.
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OMG!! OK so much drama!!!
First the crazy bitch keept calling and texting..
He CUT HER PHONE OFF!!!! AYYYYAYYYYYAYYYYAYY thank god!!
I was going to bring my x some of his stuff and maybe talk to him.. he wouldnt anwer my calls or text so I went over there..
I was like I wanna talk.. and he was like WHAT THE FUCK FOR!!??!
So I was just like.. Welll I think you owe me some money...
he was like ok I got some in the truck, I said ok well 500 is not going to cut it..
he was like well your not even getting that!
So I slaped him.. reallly hard.. he was already drunk, so I dont know if it hurt.. he grabed me and I slapped him a few times in the face with my keys he threw me on the ground.. hard.. really hard... it knocked the breath out of me..
Then he started dragging me to my car and I was screaming at him...
I was like ok forget it Ill leave.. (I have already dealed with abusive bf. so I was like fuck this its not worth it (the money))
But I was made and I fought back once he let me go.. oh I also tried biting him to lt me go, when he was dragging me...
he threw me down again.. (Im talking about picked me up and threw me on the ground)
my back and side are hurting, really bad.. probably be gone tommorow or the next day tho..
last time I tried to catched myself, and I grabbed his shirt (his favorit one tooo =) )
I was doing it tryn to break my fall but It riped and I got a kinda carpet burn in between my inside of my finger.. it fucking hurts.. its white and puffy now..
I was getting in my car.. his friends where out side now.. and he had already threw my keys.. so they were looking for them..
He was screaming mean shit to me, then he said that my kids where dumb..I jumped out of the car and ran at him.. he tried to kick me but I pushed him and jumped on him and started clawing at his face (fake nails)..
his friends put me back in my car..
I thought about calling the cops but Its not worth it here.. he had 4 friends there, and they were all drunk or had been drinking..
I have had A LOT of experence with ALL of the cops in this area.. my ex- Babys daddy used to beat me til I blacked out..
I pressed chargers about 7 times, different times.. I was young and I didnt know about paper work, no one did anything.. except once.. and they were realy terriable.. the office said he wouldnt do anything.. that I didnt have a case.. yet I had a bad busted lip and a pinched nerve and bruse on my back.. I called the chief he said they would do something.. when I filed the papers the office was still an ass hole.. and when My ex got the papers he came and beat me up again.. so i didnt go to court bc the officer didnt care.. ughhh..
anyways.. I didnt call the cops.. Its pointless here.. I know everyone is going to be like no its not.. but if you search how mamy women report stuff like this and never get anything done its crazy!!
I finally started working on a protective order against my ex, NONE of the cops told me about that.. I had to find that place by my self!!!
If anyone has a problem like that PM me and Ill help you.
ANYWAYS... I texted him some mean shit.. then I said you know what im sorry I was hurt, I didnt mean that stuff.. lets just forget it. (as end stop textin me)
WELL he said...
your a dumb ass.. all I did was use you.. I never loved you.. ever.. I never loved you... hahahah
Althought we broke up I was tryn to be the bigger person.. but that really hurt.. he even called and told me I never loved you.. your so dumb, I was just usin you..
How terrible is that!!! It really hurt and I cried.. but Im over it...
I guess its good, but I am going to file small claims court tommorow.. he said he would pay me back all the bills he owed and everything else when he got a "good" job or when he got his settelment in sept. .. its more than 5k.. but Ill settle for that since thats all you will get in small claims.. ughh
I called my Bf, and he was really sweet.. he knew I was going to talk to him..even knew that I still had feelings for him.. I think thats why he cut Her phone off.. but anyways he was really nice and understanding..
I have to go tot bed now..