I don't know how to handle this dj!
When I first started working at this club, this DJ (who has been there the longest of the 3) hated me. He would make snide comments, even to customers and other girls when I was there... said I was unreliable, didn't know how to hustle, etc...
Everyone told me "just hook him up and he'll start being nice to you." However I was only ever nice and polite to him since I started working, and I was giving him the average tip, so I refused. He cost me dances--and stage money-- and was rude. I'm not going to be bullied into giving bigger tips. I jus
This went on for a while and I just put up with him and worked as little of his shifts as possible. Then a rumor went around about me and another DJ hooking up... and suddenly his attitude toward me completely changed. Hee started flirting with me all the time and making comments about how hot I was and how he wanted to sleep with me, but this is sort of standard talk at my club is usually just said in fun so I just thought, yay we're finally going to get along and I'm going to make more money, and can work these other shifts without getting discouraged..
However things have started to get bad again. He's started getting out of control and freaking me out to the point I don't want to be alone with him anywhere in the club. He keeps insisting on seeing me OTC and I've tried to make up excuses or just laugh and say "oh you're so funny!" like he's joking but he's started getting angry at me for not going out with him. He yelled at me yesterday for not calling him over the weekend (I've never called him) and a few days ago because I was talking to a boy on the phone (not a boyfriend). If I piss him off by rejecting his advances I won't go on stage all night, or he'll wait till the worst possible times to put me on, cut my songs super short, or play them twice as long so I'm stuck up there forever when there's like one guy in the club and he's in the lap dance booth.
He's also 48 years old (I am 19). One manager said something to him a few weeks ago about laying off of me because I'm too young, but in general they don't seem to care. I know I need to tell him I'm not interested, but I don't know how to go about it without fucking up my money. I know if I say something he will make my life miserable, but if I don't he's just going to figure out I'm not interested and do it anyway. And at this point I can't just not work his shifts because one of the DJs quit, and now there's really just the night DJ (him) and the day DJ.
Re: I don't know how to handle this dj!
Hmmmmmm......
Well I'll just tell you what I would do, and if you can do any of this I'm glad to help.
I'm kinda wierd person so maybe none of this will work for you.
You said the one manager said something, I would stay on that manager and see if it did any good. I'd talk to the girls and see if he's doing this to any of them, and if he is, then you guys can go to the manager together. If he acted crazy with me I'd act crazy back. Like you said he started screaming at you, scream back and foam at the mouth. }:D
If he comes in the dressing room just do something gross like pick your nose, or talk about this your super heavy periods, and insert a tampon. }:D
Tell him for his age you need him to be a sugar daddy, I notice men go away when you start asking them for money, tell him about this car note, and that car note, and see what happens.
Refuse to tip him at all and say he'll get some money when he stops fucking up your money. ;)
When he comes in the dressing room start telling one of the girls how you crazy boyfriend almost killed a guy for looking at you.
Or you can just go to another club.
Re: I don't know how to handle this dj!
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Originally Posted by
Rayna Skye
Hmmmmmm......
Well I'll just tell you what I would do, and if you can do any of this I'm glad to help.
I'm kinda wierd person so maybe none of this will work for you.
You said the one manager said something, I would stay on that manager and see if it did any good. I'd talk to the girls and see if he's doing this to any of them, and if he is, then you guys can go to the manager together. If he acted crazy with me I'd act crazy back. Like you said he started screaming at you, scream back and foam at the mouth. }:D
If he comes in the dressing room just do something gross like pick your nose, or talk about this your super heavy periods, and insert a tampon. }:D
Tell him for his age you need him to be a sugar daddy, I notice men go away when you start asking them for money, tell him about this car note, and that car note, and see what happens.
Refuse to tip him at all and say he'll get some money when he stops fucking up your money. ;)
When he comes in the dressing room start telling one of the girls how you crazy boyfriend almost killed a guy for looking at you.
Or you can just go to another club.
I love this! ;D
Re: I don't know how to handle this dj!
Haha good suggestions.
Well the manager yelled at him, but he's sort of weird (the manager) and yells at everybody and you can't really tell when he's angry and when he's joking...
I told the gm but he just left the club to go to another one (it's a chain). He told me just to ignore him and that's he's weird and creepy and hits on all the young girls, but it's hard to ignore a DJ :p
If he says something again I guess I will just say something... I am wondering if I should mention something to a manager instead?
Re: I don't know how to handle this dj!
Quote:
Originally Posted by
Rayna Skye
Hmmmmmm......
Well I'll just tell you what I would do, and if you can do any of this I'm glad to help.
I'm kinda wierd person so maybe none of this will work for you.
You said the one manager said something, I would stay on that manager and see if it did any good. I'd talk to the girls and see if he's doing this to any of them, and if he is, then you guys can go to the manager together. If he acted crazy with me I'd act crazy back. Like you said he started screaming at you, scream back and foam at the mouth. }:D
If he comes in the dressing room just do something gross like pick your nose, or talk about this your super heavy periods, and insert a tampon. }:D
Tell him for his age you need him to be a sugar daddy, I notice men go away when you start asking them for money, tell him about this car note, and that car note, and see what happens.
Refuse to tip him at all and say he'll get some money when he stops fucking up your money. ;)
When he comes in the dressing room start telling one of the girls how you crazy boyfriend almost killed a guy for looking at you.
Or you can just go to another club.
This is awesome!
If management won't help you might have to just bitch him out. Don't worry about being polite he is creepy and messing with your money. Next time he says shit to you or refuses to put you on stage flip the fuck out on him. Sometimes people think they can get away with stuff if you come across as nice (not a bad thing) but don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. A lot of times it shocks people. Call him out on his actions and stand your ground. He is a pathetic 48 year old man harassing a 19 year old. If he still continues keep speaking to management and if they still won't help it might be time to find another club.
Re: I don't know how to handle this dj!
I cant believe he thinks he has a right to yell at you... you can not let ANYONE do that to you in the club. Owner, manager, DJ, girls... noone!
I would also never yell back, that would only escalade things; just turn around and escape the situation and tip him the minimum at the end of the night. Mention that his tip would be bigger if he was (insert what you want him to improve on). Talk with CONFIDENCE. This way he cant say you didnt pay him but YOU can say he was rude to you to the manager.
Re: I don't know how to handle this dj!
Lay down your boundaries, respectfully and firmly. Don't be rude, but at the same time make it clear that you are here to work and would appreciate it if he would cooperate. You could try changing shifts. But really, you need to get a manager/owner on your side. Really. And if there's not a manager willing to help you out with the DJ, what else will the manager neglect helping you with...a customer trying to finger you in the VIP? Yeah. Management is key, and if that isn't good...then maybe it's time to look for a different club.