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Does this ever happen to you? A customer spends a lot of money on you every week then
he becomes cold all of a sudden one day and when you are trying to milk money out of him like u usually do, he says later, and later turns into never.
This happened to me with two customers so far and I've only been doing this for six weeks. With one of the guys, I ignored some of his phone calls but I did text message him ocassionally and sent him some pics. The other guy, used to be really really into me then bam one day no more! What the hell is up with that?
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Re: Does this ever happen to you? A customer spends a lot of money on you every week
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Originally Posted by
femmefatale88
he becomes cold all of a sudden one day and when you are trying to milk money out of him like u usually do, he says later, and later turns into never.
This happened to me with two customers so far and I've only been doing this for six weeks. With one of the guys, I ignored some of his phone calls but I did text message him ocassionally and sent him some pics. The other guy, used to be really really into me then bam one day no more! What the hell is up with that?
Story of my life... or should I say my dancing life at least. My entrire 2 years in the industry has been this, mostlly in the last 6 months or so. It's usually because 1. they have found a girl that will do more, an extras girl and got into that, or, 2. they lost their job/got their hours cut and are broke....and too embarassed to admit it to you.
In my case most guys have fallen to the wayside under the influence of an extras girl. Only two have had actual legit reasons (like losing their job) and they were not lying....they stopped coming in all together for that matter. Chances are if a guy is still hanging out at the club and blowing you off, he's moved on to another dancer. Most guys with "financial" problems will just stop showing up at all.
Take notice to who he is hanging with next time, I'll bet you it's an extras girl.
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Re: Does this ever happen to you? A customer spends a lot of money on you every week
prob financial issues! If these guys spend and spend and spend, then realize they are broke from spending too much on you. always remember, money does not grow on trees, even whales with a never ending supply of cash are having hard times now and do come across them. would u rather eat, pay rent or go to the stripclub? lol. strippers are disposable to these guys, even if they have an addiction. you are disposable. regs will never be around forever, but for each one you lose, you will gain another, and the cycle continues.
i would also suggest not talking to them at all out of the club. they will often want more and i doubt you want to give it. the phone calls you mentioned for example, smart of you not to call too much but since dude has ur number and you never answer his calls, he probably assumes u are not intrested. dont give out ur number period, tell them u will call them if u want to keep in touch over phone. this way u call them and they do not call u and feel ignored if u do not get back to them, yet it suprises them if u do call them. hth
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Re: Does this ever happen to you? A customer spends a lot of money on you every week
Could be extras girls got to him as CherryBomb said, but also maybe he just wants the variety. The club is a fantasy and for many guys, hell most guys, having a number of different girls is the ultimate fantasy. So they sample a little of this and a little of that. Most regs don't stick around for long, they find a new girl and in a short while another new one, sometimes they come back, sometimes not. Just don't let it get to you. You didn't do anything wrong, it's just the way this business works.
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yep the biggest thing to remember, is to not take it personal from these guys at all. it is your and their fantasy land. pretend. playtime. When you go home it is back to reality. I see girls bitching about custies all the time, about why they ask this and that. if they dont want a dance say snide comments in return, they are all taking it too personally. This is not the way to go. DO NOT take it personal. I know it is hard not to, but you can learn how to take things less personally. If someone doesnt want a dance, kill em with kindness and move on but do not take it personally. Put a smile on your face! If you do take it personal your whole night is effected. I do have a hard time with taking things personally myself, but I am getting better. PLAY ALONG and get them for what they got when u can! dont stress, you lose one and gain another, always will!!!
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yeah, every time this has happened it was always to replace me with a girl that would do more. a few of them gave me thier business card w/ contact info and then stated spending money on another girl. later on i find out that the girl is doing outside the club stuff with them. some had asked me for more things and i refused, others were to shy to ask but then stopped spending on me when they realized i wasnt going to offer despite the amount they were spending.
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I've lost a few customers recently to an extras girl. It always sucks, but I've just learned to live with it. I'm not going to stress myself out over losing customers to a girl who lets them finger her in the private dances for like a $40 tip. I enjoy being one of the clean girls, and I still make around as much as the extra girl does--and I'm not sucking and fucking to make that money. She has to shove her vag in their face to get a $5 tip on stage--all I do is hold out the side of my G-string and I get just as much, if not more. And I can sleep at night. So, if my customers decide they like filthy shit in the back, she can fucking have them. I'm not going to compete with that--I don't need to. I enjoy making my money just giving dances.
I love me.
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That is awesome firemaiden! I am learning to deal with guys asking for my number better. And as for one of the guys I mentioned above, I saw him in the dance room with another girl an hour and a half after he told me "ah im too tired, maybe later", and from now on I won't even say hi anymore. Not worth my time. Haha.
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Re: Does this ever happen to you? A customer spends a lot of money on you every week
Most regulars have a shelf life. I find the average to be about 2-3 months. I have a couple whom I've had for years, but that's not the norm.
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I dont have a lot of regulars, maybe 3 but one is such a jerk. He wants you to sit with him all night and he trys to kiss me and I have told him no, once he touched me down there and I was likeWHOOOOOOO STOP what are you doing!!!!??? he thought I was joking and I made it clear. I was like you have never done that, PLEASE dont EVER do that again. He was drunk but I dont care. WELL almost every girl in the club has fucked him.. like no lie, I have friends that work at a hotel and she sees him with other people and girls from my club. girls have talked hush hush about it, but I know the going rate is 1000 a night, he is a very big person. I am not going to fuck him or go out wit him and he used to spend 160, then it went to 100, then 80, then 60, then 20, now hardly anything at all!! He always say ohhh Im so glad to see you.. he practicly lives up there at the club he is there like 3,4 times a week!!
But he is just a jerk.
I had this one guy just GIVE me 200 and bought be pizza, he gave me like 50 first and I keept coming talking to him throught the night, and I was like come on get a dance. he says he doesnt get them but here is some money..well I thought that was GREAT! BUT that was only a one time thing. I still see him alot, I chat with everyone and I will asking after we have chated for like 15 mins and he will say he doesnt get dances- but this time he is not handing me any money =( whaahhh
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Re: Does this ever happen to you? A customer spends a lot of money on you every week
i found that if the regular is single he lasts for a short while, those guys are looking for something more and think that the more time and $$$ they put in, like a girl otc, the better the chance.
if the regular is married, then they stay for a long time, they do like to look at other girls however but if you dont make a big deal about it then they stick around. the last thing they want is another "wife"
eventually they all will one day stop being your regular but like it was said above you will get new ones. its nice to have a change especially if the new regular spends more $$$.
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Re: Does this ever happen to you? A customer spends a lot of money on you every week
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firemaiden04
I've lost a few customers recently to an extras girl. It always sucks, but I've just learned to live with it. I'm not going to stress myself out over losing customers to a girl who lets them finger her in the private dances for like a $40 tip. I enjoy being one of the clean girls, and I still make around as much as the extra girl does--and I'm not sucking and fucking to make that money. She has to shove her vag in their face to get a $5 tip on stage--all I do is hold out the side of my G-string and I get just as much, if not more. And I can sleep at night. So, if my customers decide they like filthy shit in the back, she can fucking have them. I'm not going to compete with that--I don't need to. I enjoy making my money just giving dances.
I love me.
Exactly my mode of thinking!
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Re: Does this ever happen to you? A customer spends a lot of money on you every week
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shinysugar
i found that if the regular is single he lasts for a short while, those guys are looking for something more and think that the more time and $$$ they put in, like a girl otc, the better the chance.
if the regular is married, then they stay for a long time, they do like to look at other girls however but if you dont make a big deal about it then they stick around. the last thing they want is another "wife"
eventually they all will one day stop being your regular but like it was said above you will get new ones. its nice to have a change especially if the new regular spends more $$$.
Yep! the guys with the wifey are the best regs. They come to the club knowing they must return home to the wifey, often won't even bother asking for numbers or meetings OTC!
The guys who are at the club every night, (I am not trying to put every customer in the same category), often have deeper issues and issues with women. They are not good regs as they will always try to cross boundries, think women owe it to them, are bitter, etc. The last place they should be is in a SC doing extras. They really should get help elsewhere for their issues, but this is their way of coping with what issues they do have. But they are desperate, and will try to BUY you. If they can't have you they can easily find someone who is as desperate as they are!
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Re: Does this ever happen to you? A customer spends a lot of money on you every week
Or maybe they just wanted another girl, why does someone that got a customer over you have to be labeled as an "extras" girl, maybe he just wanted her instead. It happens. It doesn't mean anything, but it definately doesn't automatically mean she was an "extras" girl either. It happens.
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Re: Does this ever happen to you? A customer spends a lot of money on you every week
Honestly, you probably did something that turned him off. Why not be straight up with him and just ask? It's probably something you were totally unaware of and if you can fix it you should.
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i think i did do somethign to turn off one of the guys, he did complain that my perfume was too strong and that it made him unable to breath or something. but then again regs do have a shelf life too. mine seem to last very short. like 4 weeks max
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I really only had one guy that would be close to a regular. I was so excited, then he tried to get me OTC and I put him off. He told me no more and I was sad. Haha.
But really I think most guys come back because they hope the more $ they spend the closer they'll get to either fucking you or dating you... and then when they find out they aren't going to get any of that action, the cover fees, drink fees, and prices for just a dance don't really seem worth it anymore.
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Re: Does this ever happen to you? A customer spends a lot of money on you every week
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Prisoner201181
Or maybe they just wanted another girl, why does someone that got a customer over you have to be labeled as an "extras" girl, maybe he just wanted her instead. It happens. It doesn't mean anything, but it definately doesn't automatically mean she was an "extras" girl either. It happens.
i've gotten a regular from an extras girl, but it turns out that he didnt want any extras so it does work both ways
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There are a million ways for reg relationships to get fouled up. Many of the first regs you get will be into the "new girl" thing. They assume that just because you're new and not "jaded" like the rest of us that you will hang out with them outside of work, fool around with them, whatever. These "regs" never last long and are always on the lookout for a new "new girl".
Giving guys your phone number can also send mixed messages and foul up a good custie relationship. He wants contact with you outside of the club, hope that you do too (you gave him the number after all) and when you don't answer his calls, etc, he will get irked and realize that you were just "playing" him like so many strippers have before. He's probably a total tool, so no real loss. Any guy that asks me for my number automatically gets tossed into the "tool box"
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Re: Does this ever happen to you? A customer spends a lot of money on you every week
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femmefatale88
when you are trying to milk money out of him like u usually do
To sustain long term customers you need to GIVE them a reason to stay with you. I call it the Reciprocity Hot Button. I'm not referring to "extras" rather, what do you do for him that makes him feel sooo special that he doesn't want to spend money on someone else?
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Re: Does this ever happen to you? A customer spends a lot of money on you every week
I never did extras to keep a regular and never understood girls that did extras. Why not become an escort then and not work in a strip club? They could make more money with less work
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I did a few dances with that "ex-regular" tonight, apparently he wanted/still wants more - like meeting otc and thats y he stopped spending on me for a while..
ah well, his best friend has been my new reg for the past 3 weeks - he is less aggressive w/ his hands and spends more $$ and doesn't push to meet otc,