im super nervous approaching people!!!
I have no idea why this is such an issue for me but the past three shifts I've worked (also my first 3 shifts ever) I've spent most of the night sitting at the bar or walking around the perimeter of the club and not talking to anyone. I bought Dancerwealth today and I want to start using the techniques so I can make more money because I've been doing horribly but I am so freaking nervous to even approach any guys. I'm not sure what the issue is because normally I am very outgoing and talkative. I think I get anxious about popping the dance question before I even get to the table which sounds silly but I think it's true. I've never had a sales job and I'm still uncomfortable with the idea of approaching every person to get dances. I know it's a numbers game and guys expect to get asked for dances so I'm not sure what my issue is. Anyone else have this issue when they first started dancing? How do I get over it? I want to start following the other girls' example but it's really hard when I get nervous just thinking about approaching people...
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I'm not an experienced dancer, I've only been doing it for 3 or 4 weeks but I tend to just plop down into the chair next to them and say 'Hi guys! How is your evening going? ***mega watt smile***' or if there is a group of them ask what the occasion is or whatever just to get a conversation started and have a chat with them for a song or 2 first before you pop your question.
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[quote=glitterhips;1830205] I know it's a numbers game and guys expect to get asked for dances so I'm not sure what my issue is. quote]
One way is to take the numbers game approach, that is like shooting fish in a barrel...someone will eventually say yes (hopefully)
The nervousness will subside when you create a plan and practice it over and over again. I have the same basic introduction conversation 50-60 times a night. The trick is to build your conversation towards getting them to say yes to lapdances...not just make idle chit chat that gets you nowhere. Listen to our free iTunes podcast (the link is in my siggy) for step by step directions.
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Just remember that the worst they can say is "no," and that if you never approach them, they can never give you a "yes."
If they say no, Oh Well. There is a butt for every seat. Next Victim.
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Just take a deep breath, choose a guy, and ask to sit down with him. If he says no, it's not the end of the world. Choose a different guy and ask him. Once you are there, start with basic stuff 'are you having fun?, what brought you here?, What do you like to do for fun?' all those questions can easily lead up to asking for dances.
Really, it's a mind game with yourself. You have to psyche yourself up for it. That's what the deep breath is for.
Good luck
Re: im super nervous approaching people!!!
For me, the pain is all in walking to the guy.. once I get to him it's much easier. Just approach the first guy you see, before you even have time to think or worry about what he thinks!! If you take tim e to linger and think of going up to him it just looks awkward.. in other words, JUST DO IT!!