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Help. I'm new!
Hey everyone, so I'm a newbie. And so far I'm having really fun dancing! The only problem is I am not that great at hustling. I just don't know any great openers. And I've been told by a few guys that come up to me saying how they hate being "pressured" into buying a dance, so I feel like I shouldn't ask for a dance. I realize this is our JOB and WHY we're there...to make money.
So how do you make convo with them, without making the custie to feel like they have to buy a dance? And how long should I stay before hitting the road?
Most of my dances have been from custies approaching me. Any openers, and liners would be greatly appreciated! ;)
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Re: Help. I'm new!
I always try to make eye contact (and maybe smile) with a guy, even if I'm on stage. That makes it easier to approach him. I just walk up with a smile and say, "Hi, how are you? What's going on?" Based on his demeanor towards me and his reaction, I'll usually (99%) of the time just sit down. I'll ask "Are you having fun tonight? Where are you from? Oh, well what brings you out tonight?" Things like that. After a few minutes (or songs) I'll ask, "well, are you ready?" But usually I don't ask, its either understood, I tell him I am going to do a dance, or he will ask me. Once you've been dancing a while you'll be able to read a guy really well, I always know what he's going to say before I even ask. The whole time I'm talking to him, I'm watching his body language towards me. If I sit in his lap while I'm talking to him sometimes I'll kind of act like I'm doing a mini dance, kind of like I'm dancing to myself to whatever song is playing at the moment. (Hope that makes sense!)
Anyways, if he's looking around at other girls or avoiding me in any way, I'll excuse myself. If he says he just got here and isn't ready, I TELL him, "Ok then, I'm coming back, you better be ready for me later!" and kind of laugh always with a smile. I don't like a guy to feel pressured, and I hate getting turned down, I take it personally, which is really bad. I just try to be myself and be real, I can't stand those super fake cheesy girls, they get on my nerves. I heard a girl walk up and whisper in a guy's ear, "I want to sprinkle pepper all over your balls and sneeze when I give you a blow job" WTF? Whatever you do, don't be one of those girls! If you are smiling and appear to be having a good time, even if you're just talking to other dancers or the bartender, guys will automatically notice you and ask YOU for dances. Guys come into a strip club to have a good time, so they want a positive upbeat girl to entertain them. ;)
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Re: Help. I'm new!
P.S. I play with my boobs a lot while I talk to guys, not on purpose it's just a habit I have. Guys always comment on it, and it seems to make them want dances from me. I'm always sexually touching myself subconsciously.
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Re: Help. I'm new!
I use to use the stage as a sort of "sniper stand". I would look for those who where really paying attention to me or sell dances off of the stage. example custie walks up or is sitting there and commenting you, and obviously trying to keep your attention on him, ask him if he wants a dance or even better whisper it in his ear in your best Jessica rabbit voice. This way you don't aimlessly roam the club trying to sell dances. If its slow or not a stage type of night I would stay for minimum of one song possible two if there maybe a sale. After that you can tell if he's digging you, if he is ask. If he says no, reply "well if you change your mind come find me." If he buys you a drink stay til your drink is gone, its just plan good manners. when your drink is gone ask if he would like a like a dance or, if not thank him for the drink. If someone is tipping you and not buying dances don't complain, your still entertaining him enough that he is wiling to tip meaning he's having a good time talking to you or just looking at ya and your still making money. Do ask if he would like a dance, but don't push it, but this way your manager can't complain your not trying, some places do have a quota per shift. If your comfortable sitting there and talking stay, if not then, excuse yourself, I normally would say "excuse me i have to get ready for my next set."
hopefully something in there helps ya out!
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Re: Help. I'm new!
Thanks so much! I am just not one of those "cheesy" girls. And one thing I've noticed is some guys tell me they would feel bad seeing me naked because I'm too "innocent", which is lame. I will definitely try to scope out some potential custies on stage! Thanks for all your help :)
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Re: Help. I'm new!
Eye contact
Smile
Confidence
Positive attitude
These are the most important things to remember to address. Also, I don't know how many times I have been sitting with a guy and he'll comment, "Wow that girl dancing on stage looks so pissed. Why won't she smile? She must hate her job" Don't be that girl.
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Re: Help. I'm new!
Guys actually approach you and tell you they don't like to feel pressured for a dance?? If that's the case, that signals major time-waster to me. Move on.
If they say that after you ask for a dance, I think we should talk about how you're asking. There are ways to pressure them without sounding too high-pressure. How do you approach? How do you introduce yourself? What do you say or talk about before asking for the dance?
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Re: Help. I'm new!
I usually go up and sit down next to them, putting my arm around them and saying something like "hey baby how are you doing?" and go from there. If he's with friends, I'll say something like "you look like you need a hot girl on your lap. I'm here to take care of you" and if there's been a lot of dances hustling and dancing with him something like "finally! I thought I'd never get my turn to talk to you. you are a very popular man women just can't stay away from you!"
If the guy is sitting not by the stage, I go through some small talk for a bit trying to access whether he wants to spend money, wants to just go to the LD, or if he's going to want to talk for a bit before doing dances and use one of the above.
If he is sitting by the stage and so I know I have like 20 seconds at the most to hustle him, I'll go with something short and cute like "how are you doing baby?" guy: im ok/im alright me: "well how about I take you in the back, get naked for you and change that into im doing amazing?" or "i'm taking you hostage in the back and getting naked for you, come on lets go!" or "I notice you aren't in the back getting dances, so I assume you've been waiting for me. let's go I'm tired of wearing all these clothes!"
I usually just try to keep it short and fun and cute. I always mention somewhere in the line that I will be getting naked for them in a private area. And I always make it sound like they were going to buy dances from me but in a cute and silly way, not an arrogant way.
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Re: Help. I'm new!
I'm not new but I've been out of work for a little while, this was great clear and concise information! Thanks for the tips. One thing that I notice is that dancing this way requires more emotional positive energy. Hopefully we all have a spring of that inside of us!
To the original poster: You are right it is a JOB and WHY you are there.... to make money. Since guys know this and sense it right away from everyone they talk to their guard is often up. The best thing to do with guys like that (or just when the energy of the club is like, desperate selling) is to pretend for a second like you
1. Don't need the money (have another job, modeling contract or school loan)
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2. Just really like dancing/hanging out/being sexy with Men(Which is hopefully 1/2 true) But don't make it seem like you like too much and that it's all you do. Just downplay the fact that you are there for money.
I think after telling yourself those things a few times actually sort of start to believe it too! I know that if I treat it too much like a job I come off as really desperate. One time this guy said he felt like he just walked into Sears! (Because of my standout sales-rep attitude lol)
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Re: Help. I'm new!
Thanks everyone for the tips! And to Buxom, I usually just approach the guy, ask how their night is going and so on. I never really outright ASK for a dance. And I think that is partially my problem, because I'll spend time with them, and we'll totally stray away from the subject all together, and before you know it we're talking about The New York Times. haha.
But, I did the strategy of smiling and trying to gain dances while I'm on stage which really worked. I'm still a little shy when it comes to approaching guys and sitting down with them. But I'm going to use all the advice tonight! :)
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Re: Help. I'm new!