To friend or not to friend: Hanging out with coworkers
Hey people!
First of all, just want to say I'm really getting a kick out of this site. I'm not a dancer... yet! I plan on getting hired as soon as I whip my ass into shape (in a month or two). But I'm picking up a lot of great information and getting some good laughs too!
However I have a question... kind of a poll I guess. What are your thoughts on having friends at work? I've read some comments that say you should never hang with the other girls... and then some people are saying their best friends are from work. I'm pretty new in this city and don't know many people, so I'll probably be "tempted" to get to know the other girls, lol.
So what does everyone think? Should we make friends at the club or not? :)
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Your best bet is you are there to work. Friends will come if friends will come.
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Nope. You're there to work, not win a popularity contest.
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I think having a work buddy helps drag your butt in the door.
Some clubs are kiss up clubs where it helps to be friends with the right people (like waitresses)
As long as you can keep focused on work when it's work time, I think it helps.
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Lol. If I was trying to win a popularity contest, I'd go in for beauty pageants. ;)
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First know you're sole purpose for being there is to make money. Just like any work place, there are catty women, in dancing they are 10x more blunt, competitive, and cut throat, so keep your guard up. You don't have to be a bitch to everyone, just be civil and cool, in time you'll know who to trust and who not to. Remember don't burn your bridges( You never know going to a new club, who you can be happy to see) and never talk poorly about another dancer unless you're ready to back it up and fight.
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i met my really really great friend here on SW before she moved here! we added eachother on facebook n myspace and discovered we had mutual friends and interests. i started work a month after she did. for me its really great having her there - we team up and KILL it. she looks out for me and i for her. if you can get past any jealousy issues and really trust a girl your friendship and stripping together can work. i suggest a girl who has a similar body to you but different hair colour etc so there is not that much of a comparison. but yeah it's great for us - we get to hang out in vip and its so much easier to approach guys in groups!
workbuddys have their advantages
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I'm polite to everyone I work with, but I consider them acquaintances, not friends.
I have friends who are strippers at other clubs and things are less complicated that way. I wouldn't want to lose a friend over hustling & making money.
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I have a few "work friends" that I get along with well, but I rarely spend any time with any of them outside of the club.
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Personally I'm friendly at work. It helps to have people you can chat with or buddy up with, but not a single one of those girls I would consider a friend, I think its best to keep it that way.
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No.
Honestly I made a lot of friends at my old club and it really hurt my $. It was nice and fun at times but I was a lot less motivated to work and just wanted to socialize, and when there was drama it really put me in a bad mood was difficult to work.
Now I have basically no friends at my club and it gets lonely sometimes but I socialize more with the staff if its slow and I'm a lot more motivated to work because I have no one else to talk to. And when there's drama it has no effect on me.
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You can be friendly with people, but I wouldn't try to make friends. It's sad to say but when money is involved some girls will really f*ck you over despite being "friends". I work with one friend of mine but we were friends for years before we worked together and very close so we don't let $$ or customers mess things up. Be nice to the girls and help each other out, but don't let them get too close is my advice.
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Don't try to make it happen but don't reject it if it does. If it feels right, then go for it. Don't form "relationships" with people out of drunkedness. Not sure if you drink, but.......
I have exchanged numbers with a few people in my day when buzzed and then later I am like "WTF?"
I think it's a rare thing to meet someone and form a real friendship in this industry, but you never know! If your first instinct is "they are shady"...then well.........
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I don't try to make friends at the club because I don't want to get caught up in "club drama" it is best to just keep it as buisness.
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CherryBomb954
Don't try to make it happen but don't reject it if it does. If it feels right, then go for it.
I agree. It also depends on what type of club you work at. Where I am now, many of the girls seem to have pretty good heads on their shoulders compared to some dives I've worked in.
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I have learned my lesson with this. If you are already friends with somebody before working at a club it might be okay. I would be polite and speak but wouldn't ask anybody how they are doing even if they were crying.
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I have a couple acquaintances at work, but I wouldn't consider them friends. There's maybe only 3 girls I even talk to on a regular basis at work, and I like it that way. I worked at a dive where all the girls constantly interacted and there was constant drama. I've never been involved in any drama at my new club.
I do talk to the staff a lot though, and there are a few of then I would actually consider friends. I love our staff :) We have a bartender who I'm very close to and see frequently outside of work.
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