Weird Hostile Situation with Fellow Dancers
I am in need of an objective opinion. This could get confusing but about a week and a half ago I was eating late night with 2 work friends at Denny's. Another table of 2 females and 2 males came in and were visibly intoxicated. I was facing one of the couples of which the male looked familiar. Every time I looked in their direction the male was staring at me and the girl was cutting me some nasty looks. I overheard her saying something to the effect of "awkward situation". She went outside and her friend followed her. When my friends and I walked outside to leave, she was sitting on the curb having a meltdown. Last Saturday I attended the pre grand opening party for employees of a new upscale club in my city I will be working at and the same group of people were there as well. Again, the male was staring and the girl was cutting me the dirty looks again. Now I am generally over paranoid about things like this but I almost always leave it alone but my friend noticed it too and she is NOT the paranoid type at all. I was racking my brain trying to figure out who these people were and why they would have a problem with me. The following day (sunday) I finally realized the male looked familiar from visiting a friend of mine from time to time at my previous club (which I was fired from when they found out I was leaving for a better club) but that didn't answer my question about why they would have a problem with me. The next day (yesterday) I called my friend whom he had visited to ask who he was and she told me about how they were friends and he was a great guy. When I asked about the "girlfriend" she expressed in some choice words her dislike for the girl and explained her psychotic episodes and the fact that they were not actually seeing each other, just "talking" and that she was obsessed with him. She also told me about the girl she was with that night who happened to be a dancer at the club I am currently working at until the new club opens in a couple weeks and the one I had mistaken for his "girlfriend" also worked there as a waitress. She didn't know any reason they would be angry with me but I at least knew who they were and thats all I really wanted to know. My friend (to my surprise) called me back 30 minutes later saying she called him (they're pretty good friends) and told him what I called her about and to question why he was still hanging out with her. He knew exactly who I was from the party and told her he thought I was gorgeous. He also told her that he couldn't take the crazy any more and he was going to let her know that they shouldn't be hanging out because she was misinterpreting the situation and acting like a jealous gf, and he did exactly that. My friend suggested we all meet up so I could see that he was a really great guy and gave him my number. We've been talking since then and seem to get along famously (so far, right? haha) and I admit, I am a bit taken with him (can't lie, he is gorgeous and a very nice guy with references) and I am shocked by the chain of events also. He told his friend that he and I were talking and he was attracted to me. Tonight at work things were very strange and I have reason to believe his friend leaked some info. Now here's my concern, I have not spoken to either one of these girls in the very short time I've worked there but I do know they can't be described as "stable" or "level headed".. well honestly they're bat shit bonkers by all accounts. I have been dancing 5 years and worked at several different clubs with little to no friction, nothing more than slight disagreements resolved by the end of a shift. But, I am concerned being the "new girl" at this club and only knowing a few girls that had passed through other clubs. I intend to mind my own business but I am unsure how to handle the situation should a confrontation happen. Also, I am attracted to him and he does seem genuine. I would like to see where things could possibly go. I don't feel like there was any wrong doing to this girl by either of us considering they were not a couple and I had no intention of talking to him when I called for info. I know that my paranoia gets the best of me sometimes especially with all the changes I made in the last two weeks concerning clubs and life in general. Also, keep in mind both of these girls will likely be working with me at the new club, I assume after seeing them at the employee party. I need some advice on how to handle these 2 hostile girls if I am approached, short term and long. Really I'm looking to not get stabbed, that would be the ideal outcome :) Sorry this was so long winded but I wanted to include as much detail as possible since it was such a confusing chain of events. Thanks in advance for any insight!
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Re: Weird Hostile Situation with Fellow Dancers
^^^ What does Karma have to do with all the tea in China? She did nothing wrong if the guy and girl were not an item. I presume the guy was prolly thrilled that Teagan took some interest in him and made it all that easier to cease communication with the nut.
OP-I would avoid them if possible, but since it's not a perfect world you two will most likely bump heads. Just stay calm and level headed. When emotions fly the "emotional" always look "nuts". If she confronts you, just tell her that the two of you were friends before and your really sorry that things didn't work out between the two of them and you hope that you guys can still have a decent amicable relationship while at work.
Or tell her "get lost nutso, he's mine bitch" lol j/k :)
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I don't really get it. I tried to read it again but I got lost. Why was she mad at you at the restaurant? That was before you started talking to the guy right? He seems like he might be trouble but if you like him you know better since you know him. I just don't like guys that hang out at clubs or with a lot of dancers. Some are cool but I knew a girl that dated this young guy and he was really good looking. But every single club I went to work at I would see him there and I just thought it was weird.
Back to your original question you could just ignore them. I don't think talking about it will work since you say they're both crazy :-\
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^^^ I think the girl was upset b/c Teagan is good looking and a threat. Some girls are like this. She may be insecure or young. Or God forbid both. A young, insecure girl is as good as a serial killer on the loose! ha!
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Young insecure girls are just annoying, predictable fleas.
If she comes and talks crap, say nothing, look at her as if her face is really confusing you,then just walk away, do this everytime she approaches you.
It makes them explode in public eventually, which is always really funny.
No point trying to talk rationaly with irrational people, they dont want to understand, they just want drama- dont partake.
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Thanks everybody! Good advice! I just got home from work tonight and its apparent the looks and whispers are going to continue but nothing is likely to come to fruition, and at the end of the day I'm still walking out with my money. Its also pretty apparent this girl has some sort of emotional disorder that I would much rather just avoid (re: restaurant and new club freak out, it was partly a conflict with her friend and partly a jealousy issue because the guy wasn't interested in her and was very blatantly looking at me, not to come off conceited but thats what it was). I feel like I should have known how to handle this but in all my years dancing without incident combined with the last 2 1/2 year dating hiatus, I thought it was better to err on the safe side. Regarding the guy, he's not a serial stripper dater (my ex was though haha) he was friends with a girl at my old club and the only reason he was even in the company of this girl was his best friend is dating her best friend, crazy is a waitress and friend of crazy is a dancer at the club I work at. I know its all very "All in the Family" but we live in a small city/metro and every social circle blends together on some level. I think the best course of action is to avoid her and if a confrontation happens I'll let her show out. Hopefully she'll find a new object of obsession to consume herself with.
My biggest pet peeve is the juvenile behavior of some of these girls. I understand its a more relaxed environment than an office job, but it is still a job and some level of professionalism is expected. Oh well, guess you can't save 'em all.
Thanks again for the advice!
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hmm maybe he said he wanted to break up any contact with her but was keeping her hanging until he found something better!!