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Fighting Back
So early in the evening tonight at work I was dancing for a stage tip and the scum bag made an aggressive attempt to shove his fingers where they don't belong. This move was met with my 8 inch spike meeting his chest. The look on his face was priceless and my only regret was not kicking him harder. I blame this on my indecision of whether to kick him or punch him. In my time dancing, I have encountered more grabby, licky, suck happy creeps than I'd like to admit, but this was the first time someone had attempted something with an air of violence about it. Needless to say, my manager swooped in and had them removed, then apologized for it happening and telling me I have every right to defend myself and he hates that things like that happen.
But things like that do happen, and I personally have no problem putting a customer in check especially with such a forcible violation like that. Its self defense. I work in an upscale club with plenty of security and intolerance for that kind of behavior but the distance between the bouncer and the violator is sometimes too wide to not act in the meantime, in my opinion.
Just wondering if any girls out there have had similar situations? Thoughts? Do we have the rights to defend ourselves by any means or do we trust the bouncers to do us justice thats swift and firm? Thought this would be an interesting topic and wanted to see where people stand on the issue.
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Oh girl. If I could post the pictures of my fists. Half from dancing encounters, half from boxing. Boxing is/was the best thing ever for me.
Good for you for fighting back. I did tonight and it isnt the first time, and certainly wont be the last.
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Yeah, I've slapped hands, pushed, had people thrown out, etc, but this was the first time I had a man gasping for air (and well deserved too). I remember when I first started dancing I worked with a kinda goth girl, really sweet and cool in the dressing room but I don't think I ever saw her go on stage without slapping at least one person. She was intense.
I see you're in ATX! I just moved back to OKC from there in July. Love love love the city but it seemed like the guys there had a huge sense of entitlement and were much grabbier, have you noticed that? In fact, the first club I tried I ended up walking out mid shift because the manager didn't so much as approach the guy after he grabbed my tit and refused to pay for his dance.
Its nice to see someone is not only willing to stand up for themselves but you make sure you are trained to. Go on wit yo bad self :)
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Hahaha. After LV, Austin is a cake walk. I talk every day about how the men here are so much sweeter. But it could just be that I come across as someone who doesn't take any shit.
Austin has literally saved me from a nervous breakdown.
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I've never retaliated. 2 reasons why--
1) I don't have a natural fight-back instinct. My first instinct is to ask the offender why he did what he did (silly, but it's always my first reaction). My second reaction is to get a bouncer.
2) I think violence breeds violence. I'm not saying that what you did was wrong, necessarily. But I've seen women 'fight back', and things usually end up muuuuch uglier than if the girls just get a bouncer and have him take care of it in the parking lot. The last time this happened, the guy she retaliated on was on some kind of drug--the cops got called and literally were breaking this man's fingers to stop him from fighting back. It was disastrous. If the dancer had just gotten a bouncer, this likely wouldn't have happened.