Who do you discuss quitting with?
If you're thinking about leaving dancing, or even cutting back, who can you really talk to about it? The other dancers I imagine would immediately turn up their noses like "what you're better than us?" and if I were to tell customers they'd immediately be self conscious about being there and obviously wouldn't want to get a dance with someone that expressed even the slightest regret about her profession.
It's just weird ya know? Because I have all this positive energy about becoming a personal trainer and only dancing like Saturday nights if at all. Yet I can't really tell anyone or they'll get offended. It's like as soon as I step into the club I have to pretend I love every minute of it and would never quit. Part of my hustle has always been to tell customers I was born for this job and I'm just so oversexed I couldn't imagine doing anything else. Yet the truth is- I started dancing to get away from some creepy porn producer trying to pimp me out. It felt like a good boundary to set, nudity but no sex. But since I feel in love two years ago- it's been taking me longer and longer to get out the door to work...
Anyone else in the same boat?
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You talk to us, silly! :)
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My roomie and best friend and I both started getting like that a few months ago. We had just gotten new day jobs, and trying to dance at night was getting stressful.
She's never liked dancing. I'm more like you describe yourself in your hustle - absolutely BORN to strip. The problem is that both of us are under 21, so we only have nude clubs to work at here in Vegas. The hustle is funky, and the way you deal with management is shit.
We talked a lot to each other, I talked to my fiance. She decided to retire permanently, except when we hit an under 21 club that has a pole she can show off on. I decided to go on a hiatus until I was 21, and my hours (which were REALLY HECTIC) had settled. I can't wait to go back, the few months away have really reminded me why I started dancing in the first place and why I loved it so much.
There's no shame, like my roomie, in deciding it's not for you anymore or that it never was and quitting. Who the fuck cares what other girls think? There's also no shame in stopping for a while to pursue other goals and see if you remember why you liked dancing at all, like I did. Talk to the girls here, like Elvia said. If you have a friend at the club, talk to her. Or a trusted bouncer. Talk to a SO or another friend if they're aware of your job.
When I (very openly) during my last few weeks at the club made it WELL known to customers and dancers and regulars alike, I wasn't met with much nose-turning at all. Customers were indifferent to it if I told them - it's not exactly info you have to volunteer to them. Regulars were sad to see me go, but I pawned them off on girls at the club I liked who were similar to me in style, look, etc. The other girls? A few did the huffing, but it was obvious a lot of it was jealousy. Many girls, in my experience, don't LIKE dancing and are kinda pissy that someone has gotten to a point they don't HAVE to anymore.
The girls that do like it and are secure in their jobs are usually happy for you. Most girls are just glad to see another bitch out the club - less competition. lol Don't worry yourself about it. Do what makes YOU feel good, and stop worrying about the backlash. There won't be as much as you're fearing, if any. :D
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I'm not sure there is really one good person to talk to about that. I would guess the best thing to do would be to cut back and if questioned, simply tell them you have been very busy with other things.
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MissMynxx
Many girls, in my experience, don't LIKE dancing and are kinda pissy that someone has gotten to a point they don't HAVE to anymore.
Yeah,,,thats what I was thinking...I'm too worried about offending people. I'll just get over it though. It was the same sort of thing when I moved away from my home town. A lot of people never moved away and their lives are pretty dull because of it. I was so so so so scared to come back driving my convertible mustang (it's a '98, not a new one or anything, but still I had a CAR which trumps sneakers everytime). Everyone like, hangs out on these steps by a cafe or in this little park not doing anything but smoking and drinking. In the end though- their jealous looks barely registered with me and I felt great about leaving for something better.