Re: HUGE mistake! Need help
I wouldn't tell your bf. Just let it go, it's not that bad, it's not like you actually talked to him on the phone or did anything else. YOu have to realize, guys do things like that all the time but even worse. Don't sell yourself short, trust me because even though sometimes us women want to believe our men maybe saints but trust me 99 percent are not! As for the customer, whenever you see him, don't even bring it up unless he says something and then you let him know that you got back with your guy and you really can't talk on the phone with him. Tell him the days you work, so that if he really wants to see you in the club then he'll come when you're there. If he doesn't come to see you there, then you'll know he was shit to begin with! lol.
Re: HUGE mistake! Need help
Ugh, I made the same mistake once. I ended up changing my phone number. I told my husband, who was not impressed....but he did understand that it was a business decision, albeit a very poor one. I also ended up discussing it with the customer, and giving him a special work email to keep in contact with instead. I will only use email from now on, I find it so much less intrusive.
Re: HUGE mistake! Need help
Talk to him the next time you see him in the club. Be like "You know Bob, I'm sorry I had to blow you off. I never hand out my number, and unfortunately, I was not totally honest with you- I have a S.O. who would be pretty upset about a customer having my phone number. Sorry, you can't contact me on that number again, but here's my schedule for the week. I'd love to still be your favourite dancer, despite the inconvenience!"
Re: HUGE mistake! Need help
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I was told by many girls that he has a habit of choosing a dancer, spending lots of $$$ on her, trying to establish OTC contact, and then moving on to a new girl when that doesn't happen.
This is pretty normal for hard core customers. When you see him just tell him it was not a good time for you to text back because you were with your bf.
He's not a noob so hopefully he knows the drill. If he says anything just say "I've never given my phone number out to any one. Maybe it wasn't such a good idea." That's the truth.
Just be honest, sincere and apologize.
Guys are so stupid sometimes they like to brag or think to themselves "Oh I got this girls number." Yeah through manipulation, and to shut you up.
Don't give your number out anymore! :)
That's all you gotta say. "I don't give out my number." If they have a problem with that move on.
Get there's if anything so you can let them know when you're working next.
Re: HUGE mistake! Need help
Tell him you'd be ok with him contacting you but not constant all the time stuff. Friends is one thing, but he's coming off as an obsessive stalker type, and that's just not cute. That sort of shit is unacceptable to most people, so he should be able to understand why you might be put off by it.
Re: HUGE mistake! Need help
Yes. This will hopefully work.
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Talk to him the next time you see him in the club. Be like "You know Bob, I'm sorry I had to blow you off. I never hand out my number, and unfortunately, I was not totally honest with you- I have a S.O. who would be pretty upset about a customer having my phone number. Sorry, you can't contact me on that number again, but here's my schedule for the week. I'd love to still be your favourite dancer, despite the inconvenience!"
Re: HUGE mistake! Need help
Your BF is obviously cool with you dancing. He should also understand the stress and pressures that go along with the job.