just not meant to be...a stripper
Failed the first audition... went for a second audition at another club but i just missed the general manager in the parking lot...literally walked past the guy. The other times I planned on going to an audition I got sick or had an anxiety attack. I'm taking this as a sign I'm just not meant to be a stripper and I'll just do an amatuer night someplace. I enjoy the pole dancing and I'm getting good at it, but I'm probably to scared and wimpy to approach and talk to strange guys and do lap dances. I'm also deathly afraid of being assaulted. I'm just gonna go back to my photography even though I make a pathetic living on it that barely keeps me alive.
Re: just not meant to be...a stripper
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Jeannine
Failed the first audition... went for a second audition at another club but i just missed the general manager in the parking lot...literally walked past the guy. The other times I planned on going to an audition I got sick or had an anxiety attack. I'm taking this as a sign I'm just not meant to be a stripper and I'll just do an amatuer night someplace. I enjoy the pole dancing and I'm getting good at it, but I'm probably to scared and wimpy to approach and talk to strange guys and do lap dances. I'm also deathly afraid of being assaulted. I'm just gonna go back to my photography even though I make a pathetic living on it that barely keeps me alive.
Stripping's definitely not for everyone. And hell, at least you can make anything at photography at all. With the development of digital technology and all.
Good luck :)
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Ah it just sounds like some bad luck! The thing with people is, that they do what they want to do, and if they don't want to do it, they won't. So you either want to dance, or you don't. If you do, then just keep trying! If you don't, then no stripping is not right for you.
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Aww! You sound JUST like me! :'( I SO remember that feeling.
Sure, not everyone is cut out to be a dancer. But I think every girl has an "inner stripper" who can handle it, honestly. lol If you're still interested in giving it a shot - try this:
- Go do a couple amateur nights! They're a GREAT way to get exposed to the "strip club environment", meet a couple of managers, see how the girls treat each other, and just flat get used to taking your clothes off and prancing around in heels while weird men leer at you.
- Stop worrying about finding the PERFECT CLUB RIGHT NOW OMG. Stripping isn't like a normal job, where you're going to get looked down on for not keeping your attendance record up for 6 months complete with references. lol Before I settled on my last club, I'd danced at 8 clubs. For a grand total of 9! In less than 2 years! The first club I was at was small, not a lot of customers, and my best night was $40. BUT - I learned the ropes, had time to play on the poles, etc. When I moved to the next club about 2 months later, I was a little more confident. So on and so forth. By my 4th club - I felt like an old pro! So when I got to our largest 18+ club in town, I was able to hang with the other girls who'd been dancing for years, I cound be confident talking to customers, etc.
- Look for pole fitness classes around your area. Here in Vegas, we have pole fitness classes in like, every fucking gym and a few stand-alone places. It's a really awesome way to get your bearings in your heels, and know a couple basic pole tricks to get you started.
- Read a few books on body language, conversation, and confidence. My current favorites are "How to Talk to Anyone" by ... Rosalie something or other, and "Superflirt" by Tracey Cox. GREAT FUCKING BOOKS about how to project confidence, "faking it until you make it", overcoming objections while selling dances, and how to confidently approach anyone. It also has these amazingly little tips in both books - a notable one from Superflirt is that you have something like an 80% better chance of a positive response from a man when you approach him from the side than walking toward him head-on. I had NO idea - and it fucking WORKS!
- Being assaulted is scary for any dancer. I have a few horror stories myself. But, the main thing to remember is that YOU ARE IN CONTROL. In most clubs, you have floorwalkers who will check in the rooms to make sure things are ok. There are other girls back there who will hear you if you yell. There are cameras. There's bouncers, and valet hosts to walk you to your car. Remember acrylic nails and stiletto heels are formidible weapons in even the "wimpiest" dancer's hands. And usually, a solid yelling at a retarded customer will scare him straight.
If you're scared of being followed home, mapquest 3 or 4 different routes home through different (good) areas of town and alternate those routes. Have a friend pick you up and drop you off occasionally, or take a taxi. Also, make sure along your routes home that you have 3 or 4 safe places to drive through so if someone is following you, you can pull into a well-lit parking lot and call the cops. (I'm lucky with Vegas - I just pull into a casino valet and when they come to get my keys, I tell them what's up and hang out with security until someone can come get me, or have a cop escort me home.)
It sounds to me like you had a few frustrating experiences - but if you really need the money, and you enjoy pole dancing - try it again. I'm SO glad I did. :D
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I felt that way a few times. But I couldn't afford to eat on my teacher's salary so I kept going back and trying different things until I figured out a system that worked for me.
This is a job of skill. You can't expect to win the game if you don't know the rules yet.
Re: just not meant to be...a stripper
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Originally Posted by
Jeannine
Failed the first audition... went for a second audition at another club but i just missed the general manager in the parking lot...literally walked past the guy. The other times I planned on going to an audition I got sick or had an anxiety attack. I'm taking this as a sign I'm just not meant to be a stripper and I'll just do an amatuer night someplace. I enjoy the pole dancing and I'm getting good at it, but I'm probably to scared and wimpy to approach and talk to strange guys and do lap dances. I'm also deathly afraid of being assaulted. I'm just gonna go back to my photography even though I make a pathetic living on it that barely keeps me alive.
dont sweat the audition part. i dont think thats a sign that you arent meant to be a stripper. i wouldnt worry about "failing" the first audition, and walking past the GM on the second time was just a case of bad coincidence.
even if you didnt get hired at the first club, there are still clubs out there that will hire you. i had my first rejection from a club last night, and after seeing some of the other girls who worked there i dont quite agree with the managers descision. im not sure what goes through hiring managers heads a lot of the time when they allow or dont allow girls to work there. sometimes it seems to be on a whim or based on mood. i remember at my old club the hiring manager hired a broad who was overweight and of cottage cheese consistency, yet when my cute petite friend auditioned, the manager decided she wasnt confident enough even though the girl had a banging body and a cute face... the house mom who liked me had to go over his head to the owner to get the girl hired.
so yea, dont look at the first audition as a 'failure', just a not fitting in the managers preferences. take an honest look at yourself... how do you look? you already said you are good at dancing so thats half the battle. at first yesterday i was a bit upset that i wasnt hired, but after a bit i kinda brushed it off, because lots of other clubs have hired me and quite frankly, i would hire me. so go back to club number 2 at an earlier hour when the GM is there and audition. there will be a club out there that will hire you.
and i get the feeling that once you get hired you will be fine. your ego is probably just bruised now a bit, which is why the thought of approaching guys scares ya. dont take it to heart.
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I'm sorry to hear you're still having trouble, Jean. Maybe a longer break would help. Like i said, my first day I absolutely KNEW I needed more time before doing this, and I'm taking 2 weeks off and going back on Monday. So give yourself a little time to look at it from different angles instead of worrying about finding the right one. It'll happen eventually.
Just do whatever you're comfortable with, you've already come so far! :hug: Good luck girly
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I've gotta tell you, I had the audition/ first shift from hell last night, and after surviving it I'm really confident at my ability to hang in there, get good at this and make some money. I figure I'm pretty tough to have made it this far.
This is really one instance where getting a lot of crap thrown at me lit a fire under my behind and made me want it more. So I'd say that getting a lot of bad stuff thrown at you isn't a bad thing, it's a sign that you'll grow quickly and know from the start what you're faced with and what you can handle.
Good luck! It's tough out there for a newbie sometimes, but it's kind of exhilarating. 24 hours ago, I had no idea how tough I was, but now I know.
(God, I sound like one of those obnoxious motivational speakers) :O
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Lol you want to talk about feeling NOT MEANT TO BE?? Hhaha I fell flat on my face the first set I ever did, because my legs were shaking so much and then there was a slight raise in one of the floor boards. I couldn't undo the millions of latches that were on my new corset. My fishnets snagged onto the floor as well. I felt like I was in shock and going to pass out. TALK ABOUT WONDERING....lol I thought I would never go back. Not too mention it took me forever to talk to custies. Oh yeah not to mention I hardly got nay cheers besides girls that worked there and a few others, becuase the girl who won said she would skrew everyone that only cheered for her.
-But I was able to laugh at myself...well I had to for my own dignity anyways.
- That motivated me to get more experience and learn more. I discovered stripper web read up on many subjects and watched youtube videos.
- I went in and because I was so comfortable joking that I looked like an ass up there many girls were willing to help me.
Now I go up to the stage confidence, calm, collective- and maybe slightly turned on by all the attention. Worked in several different clubs and in different cities. I talk to the custies like it's nothing now. I can be calm and confident and enjoy my new social skills.
I love it! I just had to embarrass the hell out of myself first I guess and make some mistakes.
If I made that kind of transition don't read into the smaller stuff.
As far as being assaulted....always be near security. Dont walk outside alone.
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Yep, everyone has 'maybe I'm not meant to be here' moments at the beginning!! My first dance, I didn't even know where the lapdance room was and I had to tell the custie to wait while I went to find a bouncer and ask ::)
Which was probably a sign for the guy that he was about to get an awful dance.... which he did, I tried to copy a move and knee'd him hard in the face. I couldn't believe it when he still paid me lol!
Re: just not meant to be...a stripper
What about trying a dive ? I'm not sure what club level you tried, but sometimes working at a "Starter" club ( considering you are a starter dancer ) can be a lot less stress. The thing to consider with this job is that is does take a little time to make money. Usually ... you will make better money after you get comfy in a club , get a few guys who like you ect. It's the girls who work consistent hours that do well ( just like any other sales based job ).