^^^ I totally agree with this.
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^^^ I totally agree with this.
only benefit of having a wing man is when you're in a strange city, its nite, and you are worried about security when you exit the club, otherwise its easier to go alone, no need to worry at all.
^^^ Many clubs have valet if safety in the parking lot is a concern. Plus, the only time I've ever actually seen problems between club patrons has been when they are in groups and start fights. As a single guy as long as you pay when you are supposed to and don't try anything... you're pretty safe.
its been my impression that on days at least going alone would be the norm for most guys, and its only nights where groups are more common
I always go alone and have a great time.
Personally, I like going with a friend better. Once a month my roommate and I will go to a strip club and spend 4-5 hrs there. I'd love to have a stripper on my lap the entire time but there is no way I could afford that. I bring 300-400 and buy plenty of dances but there is still going to be some downtime. It's good to have someone there to shoot the shit with, discuss which dancers are hot, who gives good dances and who doesn't. Also when a stripper asks me what I'm doing there I can tell her it's my friends birthday so I don't feel like a huge perv that just came out to see some titties. Then at the end of the night we'll grab a bite to eat and discuss all the crazy stuff that happened. I promise I'm not gay but having a friend come with me just makes the strip club a slightly more enjoyable experience.
i go alone all the time. it's great not having to baby sit a friend or client.
a serious strip conneseur i'm not even sure would be able to in a logistical sense be able to always have a wing man or a group to go with, because our qty of visits are so frequent , and often short in duration, and its just not practical, and as for going as little as once a month? lol, well maybe when the 1930's style depression arrives, which could be pretty soon actually.
A lot of guys get caught up in how our culture seems to create an expectation that ALL entertainment activities should be partaken of in company -- friends, class/workmates, family, couples -- and this can promote anxiety in those of us susceptible to that condition. Once you relax and understand that it's fine to go have some fun, you can work over it, and develop a good, upbeat attitude about it. Specially in a modern SC where to a great extent, the entertainment IS the company, you are not really under a social pressure to bring your own.
I was in a situation similar to yours. I went to a SC for the first time back in December of 2009 for my birthday celebration with a few buddies. We all had a good time but none of the people I was out with seemed to be interested in becoming regulars which means a lot of times I end up going by myself.
I do understand the feelings you are talking about. I think we all know all about the stereotypical lonely, loser-ish guy sitting by himself at the stage and dread being seen as that guy. As overcoming that feeling, I would just keep reminding myself that I'm not there to impress anyone. I'm at an entertainment spot and I shouldn't worry anymore about trying to looking hot to the other people then I would if I was sitting in a movie theater or dining out. Also keep this in mind, dancers have to deal with so much BS and customers stepping out of line that if you are well-behaved and pay what you are supposed to, they will appreciate you. I've never really seen a thread here with the girls complaining about a customer being too old or unattractive but I've seen tons about customers making sleezy comments and stepping over comfort levels with touching.
As for getting a girl you want to come over...if it's a girl that's on the main stage I'll wait until the end of her turn and while she's getting ready to get off, I'll gesture to her to come over. Just simple eye contact and raising your hand to get her attention is usually enough for me. I'm sure the girl will appreciate it too. After all you just saved her the trouble of having to work a hustle and risk once again getting turned down.
I never go with a wingman. I'm there to get busy in the VIP, not wonder what my buddy is doing while I'm having fun. I have met up with a bunch of friends for a going away party, and that was good, because I could slip away, and it didn't matter. Come to think of it, we made a LOT of the ladies happy that evening...
I generally sink my claws into the lone ranger ..... ;)
I don't like most groups. They are difficult to deal with and require more energy.
I have usually been to SCs alone. I sometimes felt I lmight ook like a loner, especially if I stayed for long, but it always suited me fine to go alone. Being in a SC adds to that fear, since stereotypically it's lonely guys who go. I've never been made to feel like anyone in the club thought I was a loser being on my own.
It's also good to go with one friend to chat and enjoy the show with and talk about which girls we each like. But then sometimes three's a crowd when a stripper I like approaches me.
Going with a group can be good, but generally only if it's a short visit because usually somebody wants to move on.
I don't spend any more when I am alone than with friends - I either want an LD or I don't.
The first time I went to a SC was with a couple of friends and the first LD I had was when my friend paid for it without asking me when I said I liked one of the strippers.
As for getting a stripper's attention, any waitress or hostess will probably run right over for you or you can approach the girl yourself. Or tip her if she is on stage and that lets her know.
I hate going to the club in groups. You think going to the club alone feels weird? Try going to the club in a group where you're the only one spending money on dances or *gasp* even tipping. Occasionally, there'll be a guy in the group who's being a jackass and his poor behavior then reflects badly on you (which is problematic if it's your home club).
Solo is the only way to go for me.
^^^Yes!
it can be more intamite when you're alone... When its a group of guys its like a party atmosphere. so go and get the right girl, and eye fuck her all night.
~sweet dreams!!!
I have only been with someone else one time, when I was about 17, back in the 60’s. The idea is to watch and visit with attractive ladies, not hang out with the guys.
I prefer to either go alone or with one other friend. The less people your with, the more intimate it is with a dancer. I dont think a dancer isnt gonna approach you just because your alone. If she does than its going to affect her more than you because she's missing an opportunity to make some money.
The times that Ive gone with a bunch friends were not as fun. Its hard to enjoy the ladies when your friends are constantly making dumbass comments and telling you that their ready to go. When I go with other guys I often find myself sneaking away to the bar or another private area to get away from them. Now a days when I go with a group I only invite the friends that I know wont ruin my time.
Going alone isnt a problem for me. The first few times it felt weird but Ive realized that I have a good social life and plenty of friends and theres nothing wrong with having fun on my own every once in a while. Its not like Im one of those guys thats in there every night looking for someone to talk to. And if a dancer asks why Im alone I just say that I was passing by the club and couldnt resist treating myself to some fun or that I was having a rough day and needed to relax.
Strip clubs are designed for guys to kick back, relax and enjoy beautiful women. If you find it hard to do that with a bunch of guys sitting with you then just go alone.
This post almost made me nostalgic. ::)
It is normal to feel that way. Most normal guys, if they ever go to strip clubs, only do so for bachelor parties and other special occasions, and always with a group. They can't understand why anyone would hang out solo in a strip club and often get bored in a SC quickly.
You happened to post your question in a board full of SC junkies - a different animal altogether. The SC junkie generally prefers to fly solo as he is there to fill a particular need, usually involving one on one interaction of one type or another with dancers. Having to pay attention to other people only gets in the way.
The more you go solo the more your comfort level will rise, though along with that you may very well learn about, and crave to fill, one or more particular needs.
Before you know it you may also be a strip club junkie.
I prefer going to the clubs by myself. The girls pay more attention to you and there is none of the stupid group mentality that I have witnessed when a bunch of buddies are together in the club