SC venture # 4 - depressing
4th time dancing @ our local skeevy-ish Strip Club. I've been employing policy of mostly keeping to self but also projecting positivity to all girls indiscriminately as like a bitch-shield. Now don't get me wrong ... some of these girls are really sweet ... but I am so not the Alpha Bitch Queen B type (at least not now in my life, in this area) and a few of them know it and they totally take advantage of it or downright act like snotty cunts. I will be talking to a guy and a girl will swoop in, sit on lap, and take over. I mean, fine, so I should have been doing the same thing, laying a more tangible claim, sure ... ugh I don't know. Hustle, yeah, gotta work on my game. Oh and I put tea tree oil in a spray bottle and was spraying my ass and face (don't laugh - it's antiseptic and I don't want to catch skin infucktions from the strip club chairs or dude's grimey laps ... no butt pimples here... dammit. Anyways, one girl was like, pinching her nose "eeeeew what is that?!" "tea tree oil for my skin" (i was misting on face - keeps me from breaking out) and she was like OIL ohmygod BITCH if I slip and fall off that pole I am COMING FOR YOU if you get that pole greasy bla bla bla. I was so not greasy. Essential oils, hello? not greasy. No effect on pole.
Ugh.
Well, she's an outspoken pretty bitch and she knows she's more pro than me and she used that to like , shoo me away from a table full of guys after she sat down saying "umm , excuse me, that shit your wearing , yeah, I think I'm allergic to it so you um, need to leave now."
She was being a bitch.
Anyhow, I made money, I'm happy, just venting, what are your thoughts on tea tree oil spray? I just don't want any damn skin problems. Grrr./:O
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Really, the whole night felt like nails down chalkboard to me and I'm almost considering not going back ... at least until I get a tan, a new outfit, and feel up to handling really mean bitches. I look alright right now, but no where near ideal "stripper" look - and the funny thing is, I don't care ... I kinda just figure I may go out there again when I feel hotter and am more desperate for money.
It just feels so draining and such a weird type of work and saps my soul energy. There's nothing genuine about it. It's feels like a manifestation of pent-up sexuality caused by an oppressive societal standard of moral and sexual conduct.
Ohmygod some of those women, though. WOW they should be in cirque de soleil no. shit. this one girl was just, it was, wow. inspiring. she moved like a goddess animal on a pole. she was so sloooow and sensual and graceful, talented, athletic ...
I don't know if I wanna unless I'm a little more untouchable.
And my moral of the 3 am ramble is ...
It's not worth it to me unless I get really really good at it.
Hey does anyone know if it's possible to install a pole in house w/o destroying floors or ceilings at all (rental)?
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This sounds like the wrooooong career for you.
You're the new girl. People will be mean.
No one mistakes this for reality.
You need skin an inch thick.
As for the oil, try a different antibacterial if it causes beef with the other girls.
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Y'know, I've got thick skin, I didn't take it personally. I know it's NOT reality, and yeah, I could try a different antibacterial. . . I realllllly hate pimples and I have a date getaway Valentines thing so I am staying clear-skinned for that. it IS, however, that I am questioning if this is something I want to do again, your right. I was thinking about trying again when I feel superhot as opposed to cute, which is how I feel now. Just cute. Not smokin'
I don't think that this is the career for me but I like it nonetheless. I am not quitting the day job, so to speak, but I'd like to be good at this. I've pushed to be good at other things before and won. . .
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I had a night kind of like this. No one was mean but, let's say they were overly helpful in kind of a mean way. Told me to get my ass to the gym, fix by eyebrows, get new shoes, get new clothes, get a tan, get a haircut, get my hair dyed...
By the end of the night I felt so unsure of myself and so unattractive. It was one reason I didn't go back for a while. Now I'm back at a different club and no one has said anything like that. They still /help/ me, but it's not in a 'you have to be completely different' way. It's more a 'here, I'll fix your top.' type way.
So yea, it sucks that they're being rude, but remember: They make more money when you feel shitty about yourself. They're likely trying to literally kill your self esteem so there's more money for them. It's not about you. It's about them and their money.
Goodluck, honey.
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:) thanks for being sweet. I'm not totally put off. I think I'm taking a break from the whole thing though for mental health
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I think you'd need to be inhuman to not let that affect you. If someone spoke to me that way I'd have a very hard time controlling myself to not to punch them in the face. In my experience, girls are usually bitchy when they feel threatened by you. Best revenge ever is to act like it doesn't matter to you what they say- look amused and don't respond. Don't let this bitch stop you. Eventually she'll stop.
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Tea tree oil does have a very strong scent. I prefer to take regular antibacterial gel and pour it into a spray bottle. Works the same, no strong smell.
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In the smaller/ divey-er bars it is important to clique up a bit to get along. The huge clubs with 30+ girls working it is easier to just keep to yourself, but the little clubs can be brutal if you don't at least get some girls on your side.
I'm not advocating that you make friends, but you should try a little bit of partnering up for profit. Like directing a girl to a customer that showed interest in her, Bring some girls in on 2 girl shows with you, etc. This should make your time there a little smoother.
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Tea tree oil does have a very strong scent. I prefer to take regular antibacterial gel and pour it into a spray bottle. Works the same, no strong smell.
Yup, or even spray alcohol, smells a bit, but dries quickly and kills everything. Witch hazel is another option if your skin dries out easily, also an antiseptic.
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yeah. thanks Paris. totally. I know. I don't like that chick though. I dunno. I don't go very often. . .
to be honest the whole thing is ... kind of draining. And for what I made ... I'd rather find a 'normal' job for now. Until either the economy picks up or I train myself to become super-stripper-extrordinaire so I don't need to worry about superiority complexes from other chicks. Only mine at that point! lol. Man some of the chicks I saw last night were A-mazing! Wow. Anyhow, I'm probly done for a bit here.