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I'd say the best thing to do is ask one of the other girls at the club you are at if she'll give you a dance or if the booths are open check if it's ok to just watch for a bit how the girls are dancing for other guys, this will give you an idea of what to do and what's accepted at your club, every club has slightly different rules.
If you haven't started anywhere yet go into a club and buy a couple of dances.
I'd say the most important thing in any dance is to maintain eye contact and look like you're enjoying giving the dance, as regards to limits NEVER do ANYTHING you're uncomfortable with, if a customer is begging you to do something you don't want to always say no, even if it's just something like sitting on his lap (it took me a week or so before I was comfortable with sitting/grinding guys, just pace yourself if you feel unsure). Also make sure you're aware of the clubs rules and what they allow.
As regards to the lobby I don't sit on customers and only rarely let them put their arm around me or on my leg (only trusted regulars). Usually I sit facing them and touch their knee or shoulder certain points in conversation and always when asking for a dance.
Hope this helps :)
I just posted this but oh well.
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Here we go, I will try and make this as comprehensive as possible.
+ Look into the guy's eyes and smile at him. While you do this, move your hips in a sort of figure eight motion.
+ Lean forward and brace your forearms on the back of the chair. This should place your boobs around 6 - 10in from his face depending how tall you are. In the position, you can move your hips and body in a waving motion, sort of like a snake.
+ From this position, you can now plant your hands on either side of his hips. Using the seat of the chair to brace yourself, you can slide down onto your knees in front of him.
+ Once on your knees in front of him, you can use your fingers to "walk" up his chest. While you "walk" your fingers, look directly at him and come right up into his face. I usually eskimo kiss them aka rub noses. They love it, it's harmless and keeps their attention.
+ Move back into a standing position, and slowly move your hips around and you turn to face your back to them.
+ Bend over as far and you feel comfortable ( for me that's about 90 degrees ), and when you come back up, flip your hair over your back.
+ Sit down reverse in his lap, and lean back so your head is against his shoulder, or close to it. Look up and smile.
+ Slide down slowly, once again look up and at him, maybe raise one of your arms to touch the side of his face if your arms are long enough.
+ Return to standing.
+ Repeat.
A tip or two:
+ If you're like me and not cool with boob touching, place your hands over your boobs in accessible positions. That way if he does try to touch them, all he touches are your hands.
+ Don't be afraid to say STOP. If you don't want him touching you, then don't let him.
+ If you goes to lick you, grab him by the chin, turn his face towards you, look him in the eyes and express your discomfort. If he does it again, hold him back by the forehead. I am not above humiliating guys by doing this.
+ DO NOT STACK DANCES WITHOUT BEING PAID. My management has a sign up in the dressing room that says "LADIES! DO NOT STACK DANCES. We can not prove nor get you payment for supposed "stacked dances". Get your money for every day before proceeding to the next!" So if I do 10 dances, and the guy is broke, I am SOL.
+ And above all else, GET YOUR MONEY UP FRONT. I usually say something like "Well, let's go ahead and take care of business before we take care of pleasure, shall we? It will be $X."
I hope that helps."
Hair curtain: When your hair falls forward, enveloping your face as well as your customer's.
Kiss Tease: Touch his face, lean in like you are going to kiss him, then move your face away at the last moment.
Boundaries for me: I would never touch a customer's penis even through their clothes. I do not allow licking or kissing. If they are well behaved they might touch my legs or shoulders. I don't lap sit because I can manipulate them better if I sit across from them with my knees touching theirs. Hand holding doesn't bother me. Kissing a customer to me is gross and unnecessary. If I can manipulate and charm my way into a lapdance without it, why do it? Blech.
there's another thread exactly like this one with tips, read that one if you haven't already.
I know this sounds strange, but do you avoid dancing for guys that you find "icky?" I know I meet a lot of guys IRL, that I think "Ew. Would not do a lapdance for them. Nope." How do you guys deal with that?
^^ Good visualisation techniques quite honestly.
I prefer the fat slobbery ones- don't have to get close and they have no self esteem so I can get them all star struck more easily.
^^ Exactly. The uglier the guy, the more likely he will spend.
you also need to learn the special breathing technique when dancing for the smelly ones. :D
^hahaha yup!
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I don't judge-the best guy I had so far was a really really heavy guy (i wont call them fat) with a hat, tshirt and jeans..he was so respectful, got 2 dances out of him, and didnt try anything. The worst? Older upper class professional..so many ladies are right on here when they say don't judge on appearance..the older upper class guy SEEMED to be so respectful and nice when we chatted..got in the lap dance booth and started dry humping me like no freggin tomorrow, and kept wanting more dances, to which I replied "only if I can take control.." in which I did- and finally got em where I wanted him. I've never worked a weekend night shift before, and tomorrow's my first..kind of nervous, but after that guy totally know how to deal with em now :)
It's true. The ones who look awful are usually the best to dance for since to them it's ridiculous that you would look at them... I know it sounds bad but it's true. Just enjoy the attention. You'll learn how to tune out of everything you're doing. As sad as that sounds...
Buh! My choice is just don't dance for them. We don't have to, we are independent contractors. If you're good at getting over it and make good money off them that's one thing, but I can't, so I just stay away and stick to better-looking customers. Depends on your club too.