Should your sexuality first be experienced naturally before doing it for money?
I have never really danced for a guy (besides party/club), or really expressed my sensuality during sex. Ive only had sex about 10 times with 5 different guys, none of which were of real great importance so I've never felt comfortable enough to express the sexual side of me for fear of being labeled a hoe/slut, etc.
I am set on that I want to strip! I am def. going to try it once I lose 10 pounds (currently 136).
Back to my question... do you feel your sensuality should first be experienced naturally, as in a boyfriend you love or someone whom you trust and feel comfortable with, before doing it for strangers and old men?
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I think you should be in a good mental and emotional state before you try this, and while that doesn't necessarily mean having experience of sensuality, it does mean being comfortable with it.
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I never did any sort of striptease for a boyfriend before doing it professionally... and I'm glad! I have no feelings about how the customer was, and I literally don't even recall the first formal lapdance I ever gave.
Now, I do remember my first sexual partner - and all the tangled emotions and memories along with that. If I had it to do over again... it wouldn't have been with him!
I'm sure you can probably figure out where my opinion falls on this subject matter.
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Kylea2
I never did any sort of striptease for a boyfriend before doing it professionally... and I'm glad! I have no feelings about how the customer was, and I literally don't even recall the first formal lapdance I ever gave.
this. this was my experience exactly. i don't think you really need to be super in touch with your sensuality, but you do need to be confident, and know your boundaries.
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I think you're asking so many questions about stripping, you're really, really overthinking it ;) Just go in and try it out, see if it's for you. After working a few nights, most of your questions will be answered.
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eh. i don't think so.
besides, the dance itself is only a small part of the job, especially since you could just be thinking about your grocery list or cellulite or whatever just the same as you could during boring sex. i'd be more concerned with feeling flirty and confident before starting to strip. so if you haven't been doing THAT, especially with strangers, you need to start. you aren't selling the reality of your sexuality. you're selling the fantasy. and that starts with a connection...or ACTING like there's a connection.
oh, and most genuinely old men are cheap perverts. you'll be surprised how many of the customers you see are cute and young (or at least young looking).
Re: Should your sexuality first be experienced naturally before doing it for money?
Im going to go against the grain here, and say yes it should.
I wouldn't want you to start feeling anti-sexual/sensual because you become jaded on the whole experience. You need to be able to express your sexuality without thinking about $$ or creepy old guys.
It seems quite a few of the girls on this board have issues sexually after stripping for long periods of time (otoh, quite a few don't). I wouldn't want you to start thinking that stripping is what a sexual experience has to be like w/o first experiencing it for love. That does subconsciously as well. BUT, you may not have any issues. I just wouldn't want to take that chance.