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Everyone reacts to death differently. Maybe his grandmother wasn't very nice to him or abused him in some way. Or maybe he just doesn't fully understand. Or maybe he feels he has to act happy and superficial in public to keep from crying.
When my grandmother died, I was bawling and in tears, but when my other grandmother died all I felt was relief because she had been so ill for so long that it was nice to know she wasn't suffering any more.
I haven't seen any of my family in over 5 years now and I know what you mean about wanting to see them before they go, but sometimes life isn't that convenient.
When my grandma dies, we're having a party. You don't know what his grandma was like to him.
Trust me, folks can feel this way. It depends on the relationship they had with the person. I know a friend who is in a situation like that and will be very happy when their grandmother passes away. I won't give a damn when my father passes, and I didn't care at all when my grandfather passed.
he also might be inheriting something really big from her.
I'm sure he knows his grand mother a lot better than you do, having children who then go on to have more children doesn't automatically make someone a good person.
^ This. Any old asshole can have kids.
I can sort of relate. Back in 1999 (wthin three months) I lost both of my paternal grandparents. I was devastated when Nana (my dad's mom) died, but my grandfather? I didn't feel much. Sounds cruel, but his father made everyone's life hell from an early age. He made it known he loved my cousin's from my aunt better than me, my brother and my uncle's kids. He was very cruel to everyone from an early age. One example is lending his car. My cousin has several DUI's, speeding tickets, etc. I have none of that and have gotten perfect driver citations from the state. Yet he wouldn't lend me his car but lent it to my cousin. When asked, he called me names. This was a pattern with him. Plus, he'd drop everything to help the neighbors, but help my Nana? Never (he was abusive to her). One time she wanted to fix up her kitchen because she had English friends coming to visit (she was a war bride). He took the money and gave it to my aunt so she could go on a vacation! He then hit her. When he died I tried to feel something but couldn't.
So yeah I can relate to your boyfriend. He probably had the same situation.
I wasn't sad when my grandmother died but she was an evil woman who spent her entire life trying to control the family with her money and she beat my father so severely throughout his childhood that he has lifetime disabilities due to the many times she broke his bones and then locked him in a room until he healed to hide the evidence.
Unfortunately, sick sadistic asshats are capable of breeding and eventually becoming grandmothers just as much as nice women.
Yes, its completely normal for a sociopath.
I've read other posts you've written, and they suggest the same thing in regard to that individual.
Sociopaths are like one person wrecking crews, assuring misery for all those foolish enough to interact with them or intertwine their lives with them
It's also completely normal if his grandma was an asshole.
I am pretty sure I don't come from a family of sociopaths but we're literally having a party when the old bitch goes.
Put down that copy of Psychology for Dummies, WestCoast, it's not helping.
Just because someone is happy over someone else's death doesn't mean that person was bad. It's possible she was, but it's also possible her grandson is a selfish person who is only concerned about his inheritance.
The OP herself is saying she is "shocked" by his behavior.
She has many deletes in her other posts in regard to her BF, and its probably in one of those I clearly remember her referring to the fact her B/F was incredibly self-centered and treated everyone like shit..
Yes, "not feeling sad" claiming its the 'best day of" his life, and actually feeling joy about the deaths of one's grandmother - would be normal for a sociopath, not for anyone else
sociopaths have their enablers and it appears to be the case, here, and there has been no claim the grandmother was a bitch.
its very very abnormal what she has described
Some people don't know how to react to death. I've dealt with it a lot in my life, both of my parents at different times in childhood, so I don't get freaked or upset about it at all. I'm also buddhist so that helps in accepting death too. But not everyone thinks that ending our life in this body is such a terrible thing we should cry about.