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Stripper Persona
I just thought it was interesting to observe the transition from normal person to stripper.. Not like strippers aren't normal people, we just lead a different life from the average Joan who works a 9-5.
I started less than a month ago but already there have been everyday changes in my life, and I say this from my own personal experience, and from what the girls who I work with have told me.
Number one, I have a different outlook on my time (in my personal life). I no longer waste my time with guys who don't treat me right because I know there is someone out there willing to spend money just to have me sit on their lap. Call it conceited. Call it stuck up. Call it selfish. But I call it not putting up with guys bullshit and finally having the balls to stand up for ME. And not to mention, I can set my own standards and not have to settle because I have caught the attention of many more fish in the ocean.
Number two, when people find out a girl is a stripper, they seem to have this glow about them. When I tell guys where I work, they seem to fall in love (either that or try to talk me into quitting because I am "so much better than that" bla bla bla, but that isn't very often). Maybe they think I'm like a sex maniac or they know I'm wanted by other people or something, it just adds this spice that makes me feel a little bigger than before. Doesn't make me a better or worse person than anyone else, it's just interesting how intimidated people get after they find that out.
Number three, people work harder for you. I have heard so many stories at work about the girls who get hooked up everywhere they go because people are happy to just know a stripper. I know it sounds strange but I have noticed that personally, when I meet people and I tell them what I do, they work harder to be my friend. Like it's this cool thing to know a stripper. Like I'm gonna teach them some sexy moves or I'm this huge baller who lives this lavish lifestyle. Even though that is not true at all.
Bottom line is that stripping is taboo. Maybe people are interested in people who do it maybe because it is a rare occupation. People always want what they can't have, and maybe that's it. Maybe they are curious about the lifestyle. Maybe they want to use me for money (which I don't have much so good luck haha). I just wanted to write a little about my experiences and I think if I keep working at Deja vu, I might write my senior project on working at a strip club. I'm a communications major and I find it fascinating how differently people treat me just because of what I do, and I am interested in doing a research project and putting my own experiences into it.
The funny thing is that I enjoy people trying to talk me out of my job, and I appreciate listening to the reasons they give me. It makes me more secure with myself and my beliefs. And it's very interesting to find out the mentality of what society has programmed people to believe. You know a long time ago, it was considered rude and disgusting to speak against the church or government and it was so horrid in fact that you could lose your life for it. It's all in the way you think. If strip clubs were ok with everyone, we wouldn't make as much money. So thank you haters and stripper bashers, you make my job worth way more money.
Sorry, I know this post is all over the place and it got a little off-topic, I'm super tired, I just wanted to let out some thoughts. Please add anything you feel relevant, or irrelevant to the stripper persona. :)
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Re: Stripper Persona
cool, thanks for the insight.
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Re: Stripper Persona
I've never noticed number two OR number three happening. Mostly people express a little interest-to hide shock, maybe? and then move the subject on. Occasionally people get downright rude.
The way I did notice your number two and three is with men, and then only because they want to get in my pants.
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Re: Stripper Persona
The one thing I've noticed is that guys in general have certain views. Many have tried to "save" me from the "life". Others didn't want to date me because of it or they thought I was a slut. For instance the guy I like was a regular, and he told me he never told his mother how we met because she would think I was a slut. Lately I wonder if we have kids, will we tell them the true story of how we met or the story we tell everyone (that we met when he came into a restaurant I was waitressing in). He never tried to talk me out of dancing (though at the time we were strictly platonic friends, though with a strong chemistry even then).
Strangely, stripping has been a topic in other jobs. At my last job, one of my coworker friends came up to me and asked if I was a stripper. I told her no (though I think I could have trusted her) but thought it was an interesting comment. Apparently either a comment I made or the way I walked made her think that. If one was to see me, they'd never think I had been a stripper.
I never had most of that happen to me, and I suspect it's because I rarely told anyone what I did. If anything, I told people I was a model.