What do you talk about with customers?
Ugh. I'm having a serious slump! The recession has made it so that there is more chatting involved, which is hard for me because I'm a total nerd. I have NO idea what to say to these guys when they ask me questions about myself! What do you guys say?
Thanks!!
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The key here, at least to me, goes back to my sales training.
When you're chatting with a customer, what you're doing is gathering information. You want to find things out about him that will help you tailor your sales pitch and gain you a sale.
When a customer asks me a bunch of personal questions, I do everything I can to politely answer the question in as few words as possible, and follow with an open-ended question he has to answer to keep the conversation going. (FYI - an open-ended question is a question that doesn't have a simple yes or no answer.)
Example
Customer asks: "Where are you from?"
You say: "I was born in California, but we did a lot of traveling when I was a kid so I sorta got brought up all over the place. What places have you gone?"
"What places have you gone?" is open-ended. He has to say either where he's been, or that he hasn't traveled. This opens more dialogue. What was his favorite place? Why? Or, why hasn't he traveled? What were his favorite things? - You'll find out if he travels for business, and be able to gauge what kind of money he makes. If he's into food, or camping, or hunting, or photography. You'll be able to find common interests to make yourself more appealing to him.
Saying something like, "Have you ever traveled?" Allows him to say "Yeah" or "No." and follow it with another question to YOU. The key thing is to keep HIM talking. Don't talk his ear off until you know what to talk about. If he's into photography and traveling to Paris, the last thing you want to do is talk about politics and video games. He'll lose interest in you.
Here are some of my favorite things to find out about a customer, and how I basically do it.
What kind of job he has: Asking about travel is a good idea. If he's traveled all over the place, ask if it was business related and what he does. If it wasn't, you'll at least find out one of his interests that you may know something about.
What kind of girls he likes: I'll comment nicely about the girl on-stage. Mention what a great ass she has. If he responses positively, you have an ass-man on your hands and you know what to do. Dropping a napkin and bending over to show him a flash of your awesome ass will get his mind in the right place. If you find out he's a boob guy, sitting with your tits pushed together will help.
General interests and hobbies: Comment on his fashion sense - men often work pretty hard to look well-put together. Does he have a manicure? Maybe he plays guitar or works in a setting where he doesn't use his hands much. Tattoos? I know I love explaining why I got my tattoo.
Once you have this information, start talking a little. Tailor yourself to meet HIS interests. If he REALLY loves sports, and you don't know SHIT about football - ask him to tell you the basics and REALLY LOOK LIKE YOU CARE. He's traveled a lot and you've never been out of your city? Ask about his experiences. This works really well with most men. Older guys feel like they're being heard and teaching the younger generation, younger guys just like to chat themselves up. This is the step of the sale known as presentation. You're presenting yourself as someone who cares about what he has to say, and has things in common with him that will make him want to spend time with you.
From there, ask for dances! If he keeps chatting football, ask if he'd like to go sit in back for a while and talk more while you get a little more comfortable.
After a while, this entire process can be completed in less than about 20 minutes, and it gets you pretty far. Some guys won't spend much - keep an eye on your time. Let them know if they get too chatty that you need to make money, and would they mind buying you a drink and tipping a bit for you time? Etc. My favorite line for this is: "Honey, I'm have a TON of fun chatting with you, but my managers get upset if I spend too much time with a guy without getting a dance or at least getting tipped a little. Would you mind helping me out a bit so I don't get in trouble? I really don't want to stop talking yet..."
...that got long. I could go on about this for hours. Hope I helped a little!
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^^ That was insanely helpful!! I get stuck with asking for tips sometimes, like after a dance, i'll try the "tips are always appreciated hun :) " - do you have any tips on asking for tips haha, for asking for tips are regular dances? And in VIP, usually I do the 'had a great time, tips are greatly appreciated, etc' afterwards, is it better to say at the beginning, better the tip, better the dance? You girls rock!
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^^ That was insanely helpful!! I get stuck with asking for tips sometimes, like after a dance, i'll try the "tips are always appreciated hun :) " - do you have any tips on asking for tips haha, for asking for tips are regular dances? And in VIP, usually I do the 'had a great time, tips are greatly appreciated, etc' afterwards, is it better to say at the beginning, better the tip, better the dance? You girls rock!
Glad to be of help! Tips are a little tougher for me. I usually go the route of mentioning it before, and straight up asking afterwards.
Before the dance, I say basically that tips are always appreciated. After the dance, if he doesn't reach for a little something extra, I'll pout all cute-like and say something like, "Didn't you have a good time? I worked extra hard for you...do you have a little something extra for me?"
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Wow thats perfect, how do you come up with these lol or does it just take experience dancing for a while? I'm not naturally aggressive, so asking for tips is just awkward for me, but I could totally picture myself saying that!! <3!
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I try to keep the conversation on the guy. I ask them a little about their work. What do they do, do they like it? This tells me a few things: what type of income he has to be spending, and if he might enjoy talking about his job. If he says he doesn't like his work I move onto asking him about hobbies.
Generally though the stripper etiquette for conversation is: don't complain, don't talk about his work/home life, don't discuss politics or religion. I know it seems like WTH am I supposed to talk about? If you can discuss hobbies, traveling, food, music, current events etc then you should be fine. Besides, if you flirt insanely and sell a dance/vip room fast then you will be dancing a lot and not have to worry so much about talking.
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just so you know, being smart/nerdy is totally fine as long as you act flirty/silly/horny/ditzy too.
obviously not all guys go for it, but that's true of any approach.
it's been working pretty damn well for me lately. i make way better/easier money now that the fast hustle doesn't work as well.
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I think sexy nerds do the best.
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Wow thats perfect, how do you come up with these lol or does it just take experience dancing for a while? I'm not naturally aggressive, so asking for tips is just awkward for me, but I could totally picture myself saying that!! <3!
At the club I work at, it's very common for girls to collect their tips by pulling their g-string (or garter), a few inches, out to the side, at the hip, to provide an obvious location to deposit some $. Usually customers get that right away in will slide some $ into my undies. Suggestive body language and a big smile is all normally all that's needed. The customers, where I work, are somewhat used to this system, so that helps me, of course. If I tried using some non-verbal ques and the guy's still a little slow about coughing up, I'll say something like, "Thank you for enjoying my dance." Or, for the super dense, "Did you enjoy my dance???" I'll still be pulling on my g-string until there's finally money for it to snap up. Might not be the classiest way to collect tips, or most effective way, but it's worth a try! : )
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Great advice MissMynxx!
I'd agree with all of that. The best thing I've learned about conversation is this kind of a model
Think of your conversation as consisting of tree branches. Every answer you get out of him opens up potential conversation in every aspect of the tree. Just one branch contains hundreds of twigs.
So you can feel free to start general. If he looks like he just came from work, start with that (since it's easy). Be sure not to linger too long on a subject like this, especially if he looks like the last thing he wants to do is talk about work. But the conversation could go like this:
Wow, you look nice today. Did you just come from work?
Yes.
Ah, thought so. What do you do?
I'm a _____.
Interesting!
...After this short interaction, you can go any number of ways with the conversation. You can ask him how he got into his line of work, where he went to school, if he likes what he does, if he travels a lot for work, where has he traveled, where was his favorite place and why, etc. etc. Usually he will give you clues as to his interests, where his priorities lie, and what he feels like talking about. If you're paying attention, you can extract a lot of helpful information from a very short period of time!
Work as a topic is probably a bad example since it's not a "fun" topic, but you get the point.
Every time he gives you an answer to a question, that gives you an opportunity to ask more questions and feel him out for what kind of things he's interested in.
Probably the biggest deal in making conversation is appearing confident. Awkward conversation is soooo bad for everyone involved. So even if you accidentally start in a stupid place conversationally, stay calm and guide it back where you want it. Don't sit there like a corpse if you run out of things to say and then awkwardly skitter off to a dark corner when you blank out on what to talk about next. If your mind goes blank, just comment on the club. Stick to positive comments.
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^^ Love it! So going to try that tomorrow :D
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^ And if one of the twigs turns out to be a dead end, then you can always go back to the branch that started that part of the conversation. I don't know--that helps me structure conversation. It sounds stilted in theory, but it really comes naturally once you get it down.
One of my biggest issues with conversation used to be that panicked feeling. Like...holy shit...he's looking at me...he's expecting me to say something exciting...what the hell do people talk about?...what should I say?....no, I can't say that, it'll sound stupid...oh god...now I'm a failure.
I'd talk myself down the whole way.
So just calm down, exude confidence, and talk about whatever you want to talk about. Whatever comes to mind. What's he drinking? Has he been to your club before? No? Then is he from out of town? On business or pleasure? Where do you work?.
Just take whatever you start with and run with it. Intersperse his comments with humorous comments of your own ("You haven't been here before? Oh, so you aren't addicted yet.") And make sure you put out your own fishing lines so that he can reciprocate conversation if he wants. ("What'd you major in? Ah, yeah...I thought about majoring in that, but I heard you can't do anything with it. I guess I was wrong!"-->at which point he can now ask about your schooling, or can ignore it)
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just so you know, being smart/nerdy is totally fine as long as you act flirty/silly/horny/ditzy too.
obviously not all guys go for it, but that's true of any approach.
it's been working pretty damn well for me lately. i make way better/easier money now that the fast hustle doesn't work as well.
Ditto. My income shot up drastically once I stopped trying to hide my intelligence. I just make sure to throw in a healthy dose of ditz and flirt like crazy, too. What I realized is that guys in the club really do appreciate an intelligent woman as long as she presents herself in a non-threatening fashion. Especially guys with money. And my brain is often the factor that gets guys to come and see me again, and gets me healthy tips.
Younger guys don't always like a smart girl, but I almost always quick hustle them anyway unless they are clearly not the typical college douche so it really isn't so much of a factor.