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I don't know, girl. It sounds like you may be compromising yourself a bit much to do this. I understand it's your only option though.
Hopefully some girls who dance nude or have in the past will be of more help.
I work in a nude club and I don't shake my naked self in front of guys, and I almost always keep my thong on during lap dances. Most guys don't seem to mind at all.
Is it being nude that bothers you or the idea of a guy getting up close and personal with your vag? Because you control the second one :)
Meh, to me it's really not a big deal. We've all seen vaginas before.....it's just another body part. If you try it a bit longer you might find yourself not being bothered by it anymore.
Hello-kitty, I just have to laugh at the irony of you name and your situation. lol
Quite honestly though, it kind of freaks me out too. But then again, I'm not pressed with that option really.
Anyway. If you want to dance there, do it. Just don't be like the other girls. If you keep a sense of mystery about your kitty and very few ever see it, except for big spenders, then what's the problem? Besides if you keep your coochie mostly hidden most of the time, customers might actually be lining up to see it...But, like Lexi said, you control how close your vag is to their face. So maybe don't worry about it until you get there? Right now I'd worry about making the audition first.
Also, if it really, really freaks you out, you could always try working at the topless and bikini clubs, and if it gets REALLY bad there, you could always switch after learning the stripping basics...Just a thought.
After lurking on SW for some time, I feel compelled to post because I was recently in your situation and maybe I can be of help to you. In January, I moved to a city that is pretty much all nude after having only danced topless. I put off finding a club for months because I didn't think I would be comfortable dancing nude. My first night working, I was terrified watching the other girl's spread their legs at the edge of the stage like they were preparing for a gynecological exam.
My first time up, I was on stage with another girl. I just sort of swayed by the pole and collected tips in my garter while she did the exact same moves you described for a few dollars. After we got off, amazingly, I had two guys ask me for private dances. Since then, I haven't even bothered to take off my thong onstage (the club I work at doesn't enforce this) and I've found that I consistently sell more dances than the girls who "work harder" on stage.
Like other posters have said, you control what you do when you're on stage. Remember that the bulk of your money isn't going to come from the stage so don't stress to much over it. Just because everyone else is dancing a certain way doesn't mean you're obligated to do the same. You might even find that not giving it all away on stage will help you sell dances later. Just be sexy, confident, make crazy eye contact, smile and you'll be great! It will get easier. I hope that helps.
OMG, I have the exact same problem. I STARTED dancing in a fully nude club in a bad part of town, but never felt totally comfortable, so I went to a topless place downtown (I live in the state capital so the topless place has senators and such who pay well :) ) I LOVE it there. Well, the friend who got me into the first club told me to come back last night cuz everyone missed me, so I said what the heck. BAD IDEA. 3 hours in I started having a panic attack and hid in the tanning both.
I don't know why I just couldn't hold my shit together. I think that it doesn't matter how packed a place is or how many people go/don't go there. You'll bank when you're comfortable.
Most days I make just as much, if not more working topless cuz I feel like I can give a better show when I'm happy, and custies seem to pick up on that.
I would like to eventually work fully nude once I'm comfortable and really know the ropes.That might have something to do with it too.
Good luck to ya! I promise too keep my head held high if you do!
Here is my tip: Do NOT start drinking at work to overcome your fears. Either get comfortable with it or move on. The first two weeks I started dancing I felt like I was going to throw up everyday on the way to work. Then all of a sudden the fear disappeared. Now, I can do anything and I am in control.
In order to get to this place I developed a stage persona. I posted in another thread some tips on how I did this. Check them out and it might help you. PM me if you ever have a specific question.
You can do this if you want- it is all a state of mind.
Go make some money!
xoxo
Girl i am the same way as you. i HATE being nude on stage, especially in clubs that allow full spread on stage... because then the customers really expect it (im not comfortable doing it).
Honestly, if you arent comfortable with it, i dont think you will start being comfortable with it. I spent 3 months in a nude club thinking i would get used to it, and i left feeling worse about it than when i started.
nude lapdances or nude champagne rooms to select customers (one of my old clubs had optional nude upsells) are ok wtih me. but having to show my cooch to a room full of customers who may or may not have already been dicks to me really got to me.
Plus, I think men are just that much more creepy when they have pussy to look at.
maybe some girls dont notice it, but i find the way men look at you when you are nude to be way more primal and sexual and creepy than when the puss is only in their imaginations.
it sucks, but if you arent ok with it, i would try to travel to a topless club. you will probably make a lot more money when you feel comfortable and are happy. i know i do, when i am happy i am a top earner. when i worked at the nude club, despite the fact that there was a lot of money in the club, i was only average because i was so stressed out i couldnt hustle properly.
Just because it's a nude club doesn't mean that you have to show everything. You have the right to not put everything out there. Get nude, which is what's required, but don't necessarily put yourself in a position where you'd be spreading your legs and showing everything off.
I spend my entire night naked because I am making money and I choose to do it. I can handle it. It is business and I don't get all emotional about it and freak out. I'm a machine. I go in and make my money and sleep like a baby afterwards. If you can't handle it, then just leave, but let the naked girls alone. Please show respect.
i didnt do any gynocolegist moves, but even so, i used to always get men just staring at it with this hungry look in their eyes every time i went near them to collect a tip. and then (since i worked at a club where doing a spread was the standard move to get said tip) they would ask me to do the spread, which i would decline... most of them would grudgingly give me their dollar, the whole time with their eyes between my legs. and some would try to tip tease and i would ahve to bully them into giving me the damn dollar.
i just got really tired of it. i didnt like the tip teasers seeing me naked period. In the future i might try a nude club that is lower mileage with more rules, this was in pittsburgh after all. who knows, maybe with a more polite customer base i would be comfortable. but even though i had control to not spread my legs, i was really uncomfortable the entire time i worked there.
^^^ Did I ever tell you about the gynecologist guy that would come see me in San Francisco? The guy looks at kitties all day, but he was there almost every night that I worked - front and center to see mine. Even better, he looked almost EXACTLY like the father from American Pie!
i dunno, are you uncomfortable being naked in general? i feel like dancing nude is just like getting out of the shower, except that other people are around.
but i don't think there's any way of getting over it. perhaps this can be incentive for you to hustle champagne rooms so that you can stay offstage?
I know what you mean. I worked at a nude club an hour outside of Pittsburgh, and guys from the city always messed up my nights when they came in, talking about the mileage they could get in the city clubs, compared to my club. They were very aggressive, very rude, and would usually get put out pretty quickly.
Anyway, I remember we had this LOADED guy who'd come in a few times a month, wouldn't buy dances or anything, but would just want to see everyone's vag just once. And he'd tip everyone between $100 and $200, depending on how cool you were. I generally kept my panties on, except for private dances, but I clearly had no problem dropping them for him, lol
I'd actually been thinking about auditioning at Blush because it's closer than my current club, but the review you wrote and the mandatory stage nudity have completely put me off. It seems so militant! I'm sorry you had such a terrible experience there. So far, my worst customers have been from Pittsburgh, too -they're pretty much the only guys that do the "That's all I get?" shtick. Go figure.
doing shots before a shift always helps.
try some shots of cabo or something strong and soon youll feel a little less inhibited.
That bad? You said you're currently at one of the bikini or topless dives, right? Have you read some of the threads in hustle hut? I really think you should try changing your game plan at the dive-y places first, before you force yourself to try nude dancing...