This never fails to happen to me
backtrack a few months: I met this guy who was not my type in many ways, but he was amazing.I'd go see him once a month; we'd have an amazing time together, everything was going great, i'd get along with his roommates, ect.
fastforward to yesterday: I noticed he had been acting odd, but thought nothing of it. We talked on the phone and he confesses that he's been seeing/hanging out with another girl, whom he considers gf material. OH! But here's the kicker: he still wants to see me again, see's me as potential gf material, still likes me, and wants to keep me around. I know how this went the 1st time: he stopped speaking to her. But yet he and I talk on a regular basis (almost every night).
It made me reflect back on every relationship. The man who broke my heart by setting me up with his best friend who sexually assaulted. Yes, I have guy issues, because this situation is all too familiar to me. But this guy, is one of my best friends and we have a FWB situation that I guess we both want to keep going.
I know distance has alot to do with it; i'm in Texas for next year, he's in Boston, which is where i'll be going to school. I want to keep him as an option for the future since I know he won't desert me due to some gf. Fuck, he even admitted the sex was better with me than her!
How do I handle this situation? Anyone else been in this type of situation before? I hope i'm not alone on this....
Re: This never fails to happen to me
Sounds like grounds for both of you being interested in having a non-exclusive relationship and leaving it at that for the time being.
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for the time being, yes, due to the distance
Re: This never fails to happen to me
I would say go for an open relationship! Being exclusive and a million miles apart never works, but why give up a good thing due to geography? Can you be happy with him even if you guys are allowed to see other people? If you decide you can, I suggest you figure out exactly how you want things to avoid hurt feelings/misunderstandings, like do you want to know every detail if he's seeing another girl? Or do you just want to know if things get more serious?
Hope everything works out for you!
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I don't know much about this ''other girl'', but I came across a picture of her recently. I actually don't feel all that bad because he did a major DOWNGRADE. Compared to me, she's ugly. I just....don't get it
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UPDATE: he and i are in an open relationship. im staying with him when i go back up to boston next month.
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