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3 months quit, major withdrawals
Does it ever go away? That need to be seen, be flirty and sexual? I think the only way I wouldn't miss stripping is if I had gone on to something more profitable, more fulfilling. It's been 3 months now that I've been dating a guy who supports me. He doesn't even want me talking to girls I used to dance with. I'm not cut out to be a homemaker just yet I guess, I just really really want to let loose and dance again. I've never been more bored in my life. There were times dancing that I cried and hated life but at least it was my decision I was living with.
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Re: 3 months quit, major withdrawals
Girl I TOTALLY hear you. When I danced I got sicker than a dog because of all the cigarette smoke and mold in the walls and air. I had to quit because of it and I'm going back tomorrow for the summer. I miss it so much and I can't wait to go back.
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Re: 3 months quit, major withdrawals
Once a dancer, always a dancer.
It reminded me of a dancer I used to know who became a bartender. Well in GA you are either one or the other, the licensing won't allow you to do both. One night after shift I came upstairs and saw her in her heels on stage just for fun. It was kinda heartwarming. She was also a mega pole queen, so it was awesome just to see her dance again.
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I can say from personal experience and also I have been told by some pretty experienced people in the biz that no, it never really goes away.
A good friend of mine has been dancing for 10+ years and she told me one time "You'll always go back" Even if it's not to work again you'll always be tempted to at least go to a strip club as a customer or even pull a shift here or there just to satisfy your craving.
When I quit my last club and got my "normal" job, I was very happy to be out of it and swore I'd never go back, that my stripping career was totally done. It took about.....well.....3 months, for my mind to start wandering.
It started as me just being curious what and who was going on at the clubs, and I just wanted to pop in as a customer. Once I did that then I started thinking, well, maybe I'd like to pull a shift here or there. Then that full on turned into OK, I'M DYING TO GO BACK! I got laid off from my job and was actually HAPPY about it, even though I never admitted that to anyone.
So now here I am full time stripper again and this time around I am happier than I've ever been. New club, new attitude, and pretty much just going to be doing this as long as I can. I am gonna get Strip and Grow Rich soon so I can really learn how to be a "career" stripper, invest my money wisely, etc.
There are so many things about "normal" jobs that I realized I hate. Besides that, I am only qualified to do two things....wait tables or strip. I'd be damned if I'd EVER go back to slaving over tables again for 1/3 of the pay, shitty hours (working every holiday, weekend), and the overall poor quality of life that ensues from doing that miserable job. Stripping has it's bad nights but I get over it quick and remind myself that I could still be at Applebee's ;)
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OMG, I know how you feel too! I feel like sometimes I want to go bananas in pajamas. Do you try to replicate the experience at home at all? I've been doing this... They need a title for this syndrome though... the Dancer Withdrawal Syndrome?..... The job does come with some downsides, but there's a lot of good feelings from it too. Have you ever studied cymatics and how the frequencies can affect certain substances, causing them to vibrate and form complex patterns. I feel like that's what happens in our bodies and just one of the reasons why dancing is so important to us. Primarily, it is income, but it is more than that... so I hear ya! Do you have a pole at home?
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I'm guessing since he won't let you talk to your work friends ( or prefers you don't ) , he wouldn't be ok with popping in once a week ? I know when I quit I missed feeling productive / busy / the excercise. I'm back and I still like those elements. I wonder if you could use those words and explain what you miss to him ( leave out the feeling sexy stuff ) .
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Guess I didn't clarify, going back to dancing means leaving this guy. No ifs ands or butts. I really only got with him because I was charmed to meet a young guy who could support me, spoil me, etc. Yet it just isn't worth it. I may be a lifer. Just trying to figure out how to make a clean break now bcuz he's going to be super mad :/
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It sounds like making a clean break may be for the best..do you really want someone who can't accept all of you?
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Anyone who tries to control me gets the insta-dump treatment.
If he isn't trying to keep you away from dancing for safety reasons, then...yeah. Insta-dump.
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Yeah I totally agree with insta-dumping. There are a hundred other guys out there who would probably bow at your feet to give you all the freedom you could ask for.
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charlie61
Anyone who tries to control me gets the insta-dump treatment.
If he isn't trying to keep you away from dancing for safety reasons, then...yeah. Insta-dump.
Hehe, this cracked me up for some reason ;D There really needs to be an invention for this, kind of like the ejector seat.
Happiness and serenity >>>> smothering boyfriends
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Re: 3 months quit, major withdrawals
It never went away for me. Honestly, if I knew then what I know now... I'd never give up dancing for another person.
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Ditto. In my younger days I had some really great modeling opportunities come up that I didn't take because of some jealous assclown... man to be 18 again and know what I know now.
I'm glad my current one doesn't hold me back. I thought he did because of our finances, but he really doesn't. He is zero jealous and totally supportive... we just happen to be struggling financially.
Don't put your life on hold for someone. If I had stayed with modeling and started dancing when I was younger, I know I'd have more to show for it. I'm trying to break back into an unforgiving business at an inopportune time. I should be a college graduate by now, or a feature, or have my own web site up and running smoothly. But I not only put things on hold, but turned my back on an entire career for someone who was NOT worth it.
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Christany
Hehe, this cracked me up for some reason ;D There really needs to be an invention for this, kind of like the ejector seat.
Happiness and serenity >>>> smothering boyfriends
Lol I just read this. Maybe they should spontaneously combust. ;D
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Harleigh HellKat
Lol I just read this. Maybe they should spontaneously combust. ;D
Lmao! ;D I freaking love you. You're the smurfiest.
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Re: 3 months quit, major withdrawals
hahahahah, insta-dump. loveeee it. And totally agree- anyone (especially any boyfriend/girlfriend or SO) trying to hold you back or control you..dump em. But I think it really doesn't ever go away..I haven't been dancing long, and don't dislike dancing, but a major portion of the people I deal with..but tonight when I was at a regular club for my best friends bachelorette party, there were 'regular dancers' on various mini stages that just danced to the music, no stripping or anything, and I just felt like "man, i should be up there.." and while I had to leave early to come home and go to bed for work in the morning (boo, day shifts) I sort of can't wait to go on stage..now dealing with assholes? no thanks. But stage? I love it.
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^This is why I'm go-go dancing soon. I love being on stage but it's disheartening in a strip club cause people don't pay attention and are so jaded. I feel like I might as well not even be in front of a crowd sometimes!
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^Oh, i know, me too..but right now, I need the $, even though its slow as HELL everywhere..stage time is sort of my deal-with-assholes-stress-relieve time, sort of thankfully we have to go on every hour lol, though it does take a lottttt of chances and $ away from us since there's barely any time to sell dances, but, thats how most of NJ is lol.
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I average like 3 times a night but go on side stage when it's slow to practice. I wish stripping was more stage money. :(
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^meee toooo girl. I'd be up there all night no problem!!
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Oh yeah me too. Not that I hate lap dances or anything, I just love the stage.