Bourbon Street in Phoenix - Changed my opinion on strippers
(This happened last week on the 29th, been so damn busy just now having a chance to write about it. Sorry for the long post & not naming any dancers names as I am new to all of this and not sure what the etiquette is on that)
A buddy of mine finally got me to agree to go to a strip club with him after literally years of asking me every few months. I never cared to before as the clubs I have been to before (nearly 10 years ago now) didn't do anything for me. The lap dances were all robotic and just seemed fake. Shallow of me to pass judgment on a entire industry just from that experience but I did it anyway.
Now some 10 years later, being my birthday, and being stressed out beyond belief because of a new business start up, I decided what the hell and off we went to Bourbon Street in Phoenix.
We got in just past 10 and grabbed a few seats and drinks in the packed club. It was very dark except for the stages which I thought was perfect. The previous club I had been to was lit up like a department store and that bugged the crap out of me. There was entire spectrum of people at Bourbon & I noticed quite a few couples with most were in their late 20's to early 30's. The club had a very positive vibe and ALL of the dancers were HOT.
Even though all of the women were very attractive and had knock-out bodies, after sitting for over an hour I had not seen one yet that really did anything for me. I don't know what it was, but it just wasn't working on me. I thought to myself "well its confirmed, strip clubs are not for me". I kept this to myself as by friend is a strip club junkie and this would have ruined the night for him.
Not long after my revelation did a absolute knock-out sit down next to me and began talking a bit. It took me off guard as I didn't see her coming and being that the last time a woman that good looking talked to me was years ago, I was a bit shy & tongue-tied. She didn't waste to much time and popped the question if I would like a dance. Now this girl was EXACTLY my type: Brunette, very curvy with amazing hips, butt, legs, & natural boobs that matched her gorgeous face. Perhaps that is why I was so intimidated by her at first and told her I don't want a dance right now but I would like to buy one for my friend. She actually seemed a little bummed by that which I felt bad about but off she went with my buddy who then quickly took her back to VIP he liked the lap dance from her so much.
While they were gone a dancer took the stage who changed everything I thought about the clubs. She was not typically my type as she was a dirty blond with a very petite chest but it absolutely worked for her and I was instantly drawn in. She was just drop-dead-gorgeous and her body, while thin, was unbelievably toned and normally when girls get to that low of a body fat they lose their butt & hips but she somehow keep them and looked incredible. Her small chest was perfect for her frame too and I thought to myself I was glad she didn't get a boob job as it would have looked out of proportion with the rest of her body.
Then I noticed how she moved. Either she was giving a performance worthy of an Oscar, or this was one of the few girls who truly loved stripping, & being on stage. Watching her dance and touch herself on stage, I began to understand how this is much more of a performance art then "just some nekkid chick shaking it" Each movement was a expression of seduction that pulled me in with the type of tunnel vision that could have had a grenade go off next to me and I would not have noticed.
After she was done on the stage, a couple in front of me had her do a few lap dances for them. I couldn't take my eyes of her and she noticed, coming over to me shortly after. And I thought I was tripping on my tongue before!... After a brief chat I instantly asked for a dance.
This dance could not have been more different then my previous experience. Everything she did: The way she moved her body, always making eye contact, undoing a button or two on my shirt, a brief but oh-so-sexy kiss on the side, was completely saturated with a sensuality that can not be placed into words. I had her dance for me again as I needed a repeat performance.
I couldn't help but gently run my fingers up and down the side of her thighs, hips, & waist while she was dancing and gently kissed the side of her stomach which she instantly returned with a kiss on the side of my neck. This woman radiated sexuality and a act or not, I was eating it up.
Before I knew it the song was over and she asked if I wanted to go to VIP. I turned her down as I really wanted to cool off and collect my thoughts for a bit. I was a complicated mess of disturbed/euphoria over how turned on I was and how easily she seduced me. I asked her to come by again in 20min or so. She gave me a quick smile and nodded ok.
For a brief period I truly believed that she was just as into me as I was to her. I knew better though and quickly brought my ego back to down to earth. This was cemented by the fact that she left the club right after. That didn't change the fact that this girl really had a gift for this. For the few moments together, I truly felt like the most important man in her life, time had stopped around us, and there was only her & me in existence.
Shortly after that My friend and the first stripper that had sat down with us came back from VIP. My buddy purchased a VIP dance for me from her too. And while she did not radiate the pure sexual energy that other dancer did, she had a sensuality and softness to her that was all her own. I could read that she was a bit insecure about herself though which confused how anyone that good looking could ever be insecure.
After that experience I truly started to understand why so many men become strip club junkies. As long as you can keep the fantasy in check, strip clubs are an amazing way to feel a connection to someone. Yes it may all be an illusion but what the fuck isn't in this life?
I also started to think about what these girls must go through, always having to keep an extreme eye on their bodies and what they eat. Working their asses off in the gym, having to put up with grabby-kissing customers (sorry, I was kinda one of those), drama from other dancers/management, crazy hours, rude customers, etc. I also realized that no matter what mood they are in or what they think of a customer, they have to put on a smile and become this sexual being that appears is truly interested what you have to say and finds you attractive. The willpower it must take to do this, day after day, no matter how good the money is, must be staggering.
With all of that being said, I wont be going back for some time to a club. For one thing, with the new level of respect I have for these ladies, I don't want to ever step into a club being as broke as I was before. If can't comfortably spend 200-300+ dollars and pay these girls what they are worth then I am not going in. Second, I have somewhat let myself go over the years, it really bothered me that these women are in such perfect shape and I am joe average with some extra padding around the middle. I know these women deal with it all day but for my own enjoyment, I want to be back in excellent shape so when I have a dancer doing her thing, it will be a change from the norm and IMHO if a dancer finds you attractive it will only make her dances for you that much better.
Here it is, a full week later and my thoughts still drift to that experience throughout the day. Even though it will be months before I go back, I am sooo looking forward to it ;)
Re: Bourbon Street in Phoenix - Changed my opinion on strippers
Glad you had a great time!!
I danced for almost a decade so I know better than most that its all an illusion... but the really good ones can make me believe for just a minute. There was a dancer in Milano last month who made the fantasy come alive for just a minute. That's the fun of it. A lot of people go in with some other goal in mind, and I just don't understand that. But you seem to have good perspective which means you can have a lot of fun in the future, and I hope you do :)
Re: Bourbon Street in Phoenix - Changed my opinion on strippers
You nailed it on the head, I've only been to Christie's in Tempe, and had similar experiences. You're in for a treat if both you and the girl can keep it real. The ones fishing for drama (both sides...) are the ones that give the SC experience a bad name.