did i screw over a co-worker?
so tonight, i offered a co-worker a ride home at the start of our shift. i gave her a ride home before once, and offered again because i figured she'd need it since she's made it clear some nights that she could really use a ride bc she couldn't afford a cab. i also asked her if she would cover a shift for me, so it wouldn't be awkward for her, like she was accepting charity from me. she seemed more than happy to accept, and i picked up that she would cover this shift for because she wanted to, rather than as a personal favor to me.
the night goes on, and we both do well; i see her in the champagne room. so i know she will be okay for the cab ride. the manager also tells us that sunday;s shift is short on girls, so if anyone wants, they can pick it up. i had a good night, so i figure i'll work sunday to keep up my lucky streak (i just had a boob job). i also get drunk and get in trouble with the manager for trying to underplay my earnings for the night so i could tip out less 0:-)))
when it's time to go home, i tell this co-worker that i'm drunk and want to go home ASAP. i am upfront and nicely tell her that i saw her in champagne so i know she will be okay, and if she truly needs a ride, i'm happy to give her one. i leave.
did i screw her over? my boyfriend (who is my ride) said i should have just kept my word. but i was drunk, she had enough $$$, and i don't see a need to keep a promise like that when clearly, the girl is okay to get a cab home, and i am tired and just want to leave ASAP.
what are your thoughts on this? :-)
Re: did i screw over a co-worker?
^^^These are my thoughts too.
Don't feel bad we're not shaming. Just next time keep your word. ;)
I think it's great that you asked because now you know.
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So she paid your house fee but then you didn't give her a ride? How much is that? I think you owed her the ride. Why couldn't your boyfriend just take her home?
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Eh I don't think its that bad. Unless the girl is like really poor or something, shouldn't be a big deal. Like ya maybe she wants to save on cab fare, but we all understand girls get drunk, shit happens. I wouldn't like worry about it, but I would maybe say sorry to her.
Only prob is even though she was doing a CR, she might have gotten paid in funny money and still have no cash. But I think she would have mentioned that to you when you told her. She seemed fine with it then right? I mean she wasn't ready to go home at the same time as you was she? I think its totally fine to just leave, esp after getting in trouble. After telling her of course, which you did.
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Nope, she didn;t pay my house fee... I just was drunk and didn't feel like driving someone else home, all I wanted to do was get in the car, talk to my boyfriend, and speed home!
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If you were the one driving home, I could understand because you were drunk and it's bad enough to put yourself at risk by drinking and driving.
Your boyfriend was driving though.
I think you should've still given her a ride.
Just my opinion. :D
xoxo
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Even if she did do well, that is money she could of saved. You would want to save that cab fare too if you were in her position.
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You didnt just leave. You told her and if she really needed you she could have said something then.
I'd say something next time you see her...like "sorry if you still needed a ride, but since you didnt say anything I thought you were ok. I was drunk though, so maybe I dont remember clearly(even if you do) so I apologize if you still needed me. I can give you a ride tonight if you need one...I promise not to get drunk!"
That way your ass is covered, you seem genuinely concerned (which you do seem to be) about leaving her and you've offered to make up for it. If I was her..I'd be more then happy with that.
Of course if she DOES say that yes she needs a ride that night...keep your promise and dont get drunk and dont leave without her. Or at the VERY least, check in with her a cpl hrs before you go to make sure she still needs you if you want to get drunk. Not a great idea to get drunk at work a lot though...esp since you have just gotten in trouble for trying to undercut your earnings and not tip people correctly. So prob a good idea to not get drunk for awhile anyway.
Personally...I never 100% counted on another dancer for anything unless they were real good friends of mine. Still...better to eat a tiny bite of crow then possibly have drama with her at work.
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Personally...I never 100% counted on another dancer for anything unless they were real good friends of mine.
I know it doesn't particularly apply to serenity's question, or this situation, but I think this is a great point. I try my best not to count on other dancers if I don't have to, and never without a solid backup.
Sorry... </threadjack>
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I always remember that even if I see a girl do VIP, that I don't know what other bills she might have to pay. Also, in a wya she did pay your house fee, by picking up that shift of yours. I don't think it is a huge deal, but I would apologize and just leave it at that.
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From now on, only offer rides when you're about to leave and she is too. I never count on people.. esp dancers so She and you shouldnt worry about it. The thingn is, you did say it before the night started, but you did let her know you were drunk and leaving.. I guess she had an option of asking you if she could get a ride with your bf or deciding to take a cab.
Next time you see her, say sorry but you were really drunk, and dont offer rides, unless she asks or its when you're both leaving. Honestly - you're not her baby sitter.. shes a grown woman she'll find a way