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Advice Please - Dancer Gave Me Her #
I'm a novice when it comes to strip clubs. Went to my first SC last month and met a cute Russian stripper. She's 23 and we had great chemistry and have a lot in common (I'll take what she says with a grain of salt). Sorry, I'm just not that trusting and feel that a lot of the girls in there are just telling guys what they want to hear). Maybe only spent $60 the entire night (Friday) and the includes the dances I got and the drinks I consumed. She hung out with me all night and complimented me numerous times about my appearance and numerous other things (again, taken with a grain of salt). I am however confident in my appearance (25 years old 6'0 190lbs and workout 5 days a week) and in myself in general. She put my hands on every inch of her body (the SC I was at allowed no contact). At the end of the night she gave me her number and told me she want's to hang out next time I'm in town or after she get's off of work and that's she's extremely attracted to me. Took her number and told her I was just going to head home (it was around 2 am) and didn't think anything of it.
Two weekends ago I was in town again and decided to go over to the SC since I had a rough week at work. Never ended up calling her after getting her number last time I was in. Walked in the door and sat down at the bar. After being there for maybe 5 minutes I felt someone hug me from behind and it was her. Surprisingly she remembered my name and everything about me. That made me happy considering I had a great time with her last time and hoped if I ran into her again she would remember me. She told me how excited she was to see me but she was sad that I never called her and she felt like I blew her off. Anyways, something she mentioned was that I didn't need to spend money to hang out which I found to be somewhat weird. I thought dancers wanted money and that's mainly what they were after when there in the club. But as you can see, I didn't really spend much on her and I don't really give off a big spender vibe (Just finished my Master's Degree and have only been employed for 6 months, I told her that, which is all true).
She invited me to her house the first time I met her which was somewhat odd in my opinion. However, she called me a few days ago to see how I was doing and to ask me If I wanted to go to the beach with her the weekend I'm back in town (which I agreed too). I'm new to the whole SC experience and don't really know what to expect. I'm pretty good at reading women in normal settings but I'm new to the whole SC game. She seems really into me but I'm worried that she's just playing with me and looking for money. Can someone with more experience with the whole SC scene give me some advice?
Also, how normal is it for strippers to give out their number to customers?
And do you girls usually hang out with people you've met in the club outside of work?
Sorry for all the stupid questions...
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Consider yourself a rare lucky one, but I wouldn't let my guard down yet. Take it slow.
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Perhaps she wants you for something besides money. Or perhaps she is with the FSB.
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my wizard sense is tingling, I think I feel troll
with that being said
not normal, against the rules in most clubs and against the law in some areas
but who know she might just think your cute
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Women from that part of the world can be quite different to other types of Europeans.
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Originally Posted by
teleron
my wizard sense is tingling, I think I feel troll
with that being said
not normal, against the rules in most clubs and against the law in some areas
but who know she might just think your cute
If they are at the beach or her house, they are not in the club.
Yeah, troll... lol.
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Definitely keeping my guard up in this situation, I was somewhat hesitant in agreeing to go to the beach with her in a couple weeks, but figured it would be fun. Also sort of figured this was not the norm.
And why do new people always have to be a troll?
I figured I would come straight to the source and ask the girls that work in SC's...
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I've only had one Russian dancer dance for me and everything that happened to you is like a carbon copy of what happened to me. I totally ignored her suggestions because I knew she was just trying to reel me in as a customer or was trying to set up a sex for money deal.
You're probably the 30th guy this week that she's trying to reel in.
I had a lot of fun with her, though. Her thick Russian accent and her SS had me LMAO inside. It was hilarious! She said in a thick Russian accent: "My, my, you are very handsome American, I could fall for a guy like you. You come to my apartment tonight, we drink vodka." :laughing:
You're just another mark to her, or should I say, John.
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Originally Posted by
SteveSmith
I've only had one Russian dancer dance for me and everything that happened to you is like a carbon copy of what happened to me. I totally ignored her suggestions because I knew she was just trying to real me in as a customer or was trying to set up a sex for money deal.
You're probably the 30th guy this week that she's trying to real in.
I had a lot of fun with her, though. Her thick Russian accent and her SS had me LMAO inside. It was hilarious. She said in a thick Russian accent: "My, my, you are very handsome American, I could fall for a guy like you. You come to my apartment tonight, we drink vodka."
You're just another mark to her, or should I say, John.
This is exactly what I was thinking. And :laughing: at the vodka comment. That was similar to the comment she made but she wanted to drink Patron. "You come to my house, we drink Patron." I just went to the SC to check it out since I had never gone and just got out of a 4 year relationship. It's just weird because I really didn't spend any money on her the two times I've been to the SC and didn't wear anything expensive or give off that vibe.
But whatever, I was going to go to the beach anyways (usually go everytime) so why not see what she's all about. I'm definitely not interested in paying for her time or sex if that's what she's looking for.
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Originally Posted by
lost4308
But whatever, I was going to go to the beach anyways (usually go everytime) so why not see what she's all about. I'm definitely not interested in paying for her time or sex if that's what she's looking for.
Let her know that and see where it goes. What else do you know about her?
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Well having the phone number is nice but for all you know she could be married or a lesbian. You could also find out she's an escort. Make sure it's not a 900 number.
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Right now you have a phone number and a promise of encounters outside of the club. Pretty standard sales technique for some girls. Until something OTC actually materializes you are just another customer and you may well be getting played.
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Originally Posted by
yoda57us
Right now you have a phone number and a promise of encounters outside of the club. Pretty standard sales technique for some girls. Until something OTC actually materializes you are just another customer and you may well be getting played.
Exactly. For whatever it is, if you like the girl and she likes you, then something will happen. Otherwise, ignore it and move on, unless which I sense is, you're into her?
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UPDATE:
She's been calling me everday and we talk about 2 hours on the phone each time. Seems like we really have a good connection and enjoy talking to eachother. She want's to come visit me (I live 6 hours away) and said she doesn't want to wait 2 more weeks when I come down. I told her it's cool if she want's to come up and see me and I honestly don't feel that she would be pursuing me the way she is if she was looking for money (As I said earlier, I informed her that I'm a recent college grad in a low paying job).
She's coming up to hang out to with me on 4th of July weekend. This should be a lot of fun :)
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Well, let's see:
Ask to see her green card; she could be looking to marry a citizen, or maybe "you marry to sister so she come to USA" then you could all drink Patron together. Then you could help her pay off what she owes to the Russian mafia.
or
She has no intention of seeing you out of the club and some emergency will come up which requires you to "help" her by sending money via Western Union.
or
She might offer a "play for pay" scenario
or
She could actually like you because you are not the usual forty something slob that she sees on a nightly basis.
I'm kind of pessimistic though. ;)
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^^^ Were you serious about the greencard? Because I have to say, if she really is interested in him, that very well might ruin it.
Anyway, to the OP- I'm pretty torn on this one. She might really be genuinely interested in you. It does happen sometimes. Or she might just be looking for a sugar daddy.
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who sits with a guy all night for less than 60 bux? Sounds like you got more out of it than she did... maybe she does genuinely like you... hahahahahah...NOT
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U know what people i m Turkish AND we have lots of illegal or legal russian girls in my country. U cant believe your eyes what they can do for money or attention. I know lots of ugly nasty guys in my country had those pretty barbies on their arm...These girls are tastelless and hungry as well. They are very poor in their country and well educated sometimes they have 2 deegress but there is no job there. If they have a chance they would prefer American or german man but it is hard to reach them cause Russia located pretty far and guys are not as hungry as Turkish GUYS. Also their guys are alcoholic, beat females really hard , refuse to work,make females work and they cant satisfy females cause mostly passed out somewhere. They need money and attention which they cant find both in their country.My neighbour was russian and she used to work in Turkey AS a fitness trainer... Also i know lots of russian girls married or got tourist visa and work in Turkey for legal and illegal ways.All of them complained about how bad their guys and no job over there...They can even get married easily with fat, bold old guys or sleep for 50 bucks...
A lady from Russia can be very desperate and try to safe herself ...In Russia u cant c ugly girl or fat easily. Girls look amazin and competite for each other for finding guy cause its very hard. This girl probably know how she needs money and atteintion. Probably she is makin money if she is workin at SC. I think she is missin attension or love... Give a shot to her . Russian girls are weirdo like that. U cant even believe them how they can love some ugly loser guys even though sometimes they do!!!
Plus++++ be careful about Russian mafia this is the another scenerio... I had many Russian friends and i know sounds so crazy what i wrote ... Their behavors can be so extreme for American community but they are comin from really tough place. Life conditions are so hard.
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A foreign stripper gave me her number and told me to call at a certain time. I called and she didn't answer. Next time I saw her, she claimed her mom stole her phone, and gave me a new time to call. I called again and again no answer. She just started pretty much ignoring me after that. Oh yeah, she also said she would have my baby while I was still fertile. The whole thing was weird, she wasn't working me hard for money, she just wanted to shit on me, for whatever reason. Or maybe some sort of long con and I just didn't take the bait.
Not the same as your situation, I'm old enough to be her dad, and have not aged well. Just keep both eyes open.
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Originally Posted by
missplayful
U know what people i m Turkish AND we have lots of illegal or legal russian girls in my country. U cant believe your eyes what they can do for money or attention. I know lots of ugly nasty guys in my country had those pretty barbies on their arm...These girls are tastelless and hungry as well. They are very poor in their country and well educated sometimes they have 2 deegress but there is no job there.
Ok Im sorry but I am laughing right now. So hard its going to kill me. I am Russian I lived there and North America 50/50 of my life.. and this is a joke, right? I would never ever do anything desperate for money within russia nor north america. Most russian ads, sites, dates whatever are fake scams, and most people I've known lived well off and better than average. Most russian girls are happy with what they have, most russians want to stay with their family, if she ever wanted to go to north america bad enough, she wouldnt marry into it..
If they have a chance they would prefer American or german man but it is hard to reach them cause Russia located pretty far and guys are not as hungry as Turkish GUYS. Also their guys are alcoholic, beat females really hard , refuse to work,make females work and they cant satisfy females cause mostly passed out somewhere. They need money and attention which they cant find both in their country.
Mhmm we're all alcoholics.. I drink 24/7 lmao. Thats right and men beat us there, cause its so bad there no one works either haha. There is money and attention there, dont worry about your turkish men.. I would not even speak to them with their nasty behaviours towards russians.
My neighbour was russian and she used to work in Turkey AS a fitness trainer... Also i know lots of russian girls married or got tourist visa and work in Turkey for legal and illegal ways.All of them complained about how bad their guys and no job over there...They can even get married easily with fat, bold old guys or sleep for 50 bucks...
Just wow..
A lady from Russia can be very desperate and try to safe herself ...In Russia u cant c ugly girl or fat easily. Girls look amazin and competite for each other for finding guy cause its very hard.
Before writing this, did you ever go to Russia? Your knowlegde is shit. We have beautiful, decent, unattractive, ugly, overweight, skinny girls. Cause were all "super models trying to fight each other for a man" haha.
This girl probably know how she needs money and atteintion. Probably she is makin money if she is workin at SC. I think she is missin attension or love... Give a shot to her . Russian girls are weirdo like that. U cant even believe them how they can love some ugly loser guys even though sometimes they do!!!
Plus++++ be careful about Russian mafia this is the another scenerio...
Hah oh hunny I feel so sorry for you. You probably never meet or even been close to them nor do you know how bad of people they are - they really need that american/russian stripper for their control haha.
I had many Russian friends and i know sounds so crazy what i wrote ... Their behavors can be so extreme for American community but they are comin from really tough place. Life conditions are so hard.
My country is so diffcult to live in, that we all have to share a room with our neghiour. We live off left over food, and drink ourselves till we pass out.. damn life is hard when you know it lmao.!
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PLS BEFoRE JUDGE ME search the prostitution files in my country..Why i am gonna tell lie?? i had maybe over 30 Russian friends and some of them were my neighbours. I didnt make up these things, this is how they describe your country and guys. For me Russian guys are cute and i dont know are they alcololics or not? Russian race is most common foreigner community in my country and all of them are female! I ever met more than 30 Russian girls in my country. Some of them were my neighbours. Couple ot them were fitness trainer, SOME of them ballet teacher and rest of were prostetide we used to go same gym. Maybe Turkey is so close just 2 hours it can be reason why they wanna be there. ANd I THINK they try to find excuse why they wanna stay in Turkey. I m shocked trust me when i see the girls doin prostitution very cheap . We dont have any strip clubs so this is the only job they can do ... Still i m tellin u same think i didnt make up these things on my own. They told me the reason why they wanna be in Turkey. money, there is no job in Russia and guys are asshole or mafia... I m sorry not my fault but these is how they describe their lifes and guys over there.
This girl thread's subject maybe just came in USA and maybe still she can be feel alone and need attention. She didnt search for money. But girls in my country they needed money i m not talkin about Russian girls who works and go school in USA probably they are in better situation. Still i m thinkin Russian girls love too much attention maybe this one can explain why lots of guy describe their behavors very awkward.
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I worked with a few Russian girls and I later found out they were sex slaves. I suspect this girl is either looking for a john, a husband to marry to stay in the US, or possibly a guy to scam. It's possible she likes you, but in the scenario, not likely.
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Originally Posted by
bambiblue
who sits with a guy all night for less than 60 bux? Sounds like you got more out of it than she did... maybe she does genuinely like you... hahahahahah...NOT
Normally I would say your comment would be correct, but in this case, it couldn't be further from correct.
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Like a mentioned in my last post in this thread, we talk a lot on the phone usually two or so hours a day when time permits. As I mentioned above, she wanted to come up and hang out with me (I live six hours away) for 4th of July weekend. Figured she was joking about wanting to come up for the 4th but the more we talked last week I realized she was serious and gave her my address. She drove up Friday stayed in a hotel close by to my house. Took her out to eat Friday night, hung out at my place for awhile and the took her back to her hotel. Saturday I borrowed one of my friend's boats and took her wakeboarding (I had mentioned that I wakeboard almost every weekend, and she wanted to try it). Cooked her dinner at my house and she ended up staying at my place that night. Next day I took her to my friend's 4th of July party and had a ton of fun. She ended up staying at my place again Sunday the 4th and left Monday after going out to lunch with me.
We had a lot of fun last weekend. We really do have a lot of common interests, goals, and get a long great. She got a long great with all my friends which was a big plus (my ex was the biggest downer and bitch when it came to hanging out with my friends) and overall is just a fun person to be around. I totally didn't expect to meet a potential g/f when I went to the SC the first time but I guess things like this happen when and where we least expect it.
I'm going to be down in her area in a week and half so we've made plans to hang out for the weekend again.
Thanks everyone for the responses. Thought I would update everyone on whats going on.
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Originally Posted by
Kellydancer
I worked with a few Russian girls and I later found out they were sex slaves. I suspect this girl is either looking for a john, a husband to marry to stay in the US, or possibly a guy to scam. It's possible she likes you, but in the scenario, not likely.
Please elaborate. Because if I were a sex slave working at a strip club I would do anything I could to escape that hell-hole, including deportation.
NOT saying you're making this up, I'm asking because I'm seriously intrigued by human trafficking. I'm considering getting my psychology degree and specializing in sexual abuse/sex workers/human trafficking.