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I had the same situation, except I had put on about 45 pounds! Some girls made kind of rude remarks about me being "thicker", but I just ignored it. I would say the best thing to do is act super confident about your new curves and you should do just fine :) I'm sure the weight will melt right off after a few months of dancing.
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I agree, after dancing a few weeks you'll start to lose weight.
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I will be watching this thread. I'm going through the same issues except all the girls at my club are cut-throat haters and my skin isn't too thick... metaphorically speaking LOL
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You probably notice it more than anyone else will. Go ahead and go in if you're ready mentally. If not, just take a couple weeks to workout and diet and get your head in the game. Build your self esteem back up and get in there and make that money!
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don't worry about what the other girls think. The most important question is if management will take you back. Good luck, I know how much it sucks because getting back into dancing is the best to help you shape up again quickly.
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I have gained about the same amount of weight since I stopped dancing. I'm not dancing now, but if I were to go back anytime soon with a few extra pounds, I would make an effort to change the style of dancer clothing I would wear, I would invest in some really nice short dresses, or tube-style dresses (maybe) and stay away from the stuff that may be too small for me at this time. I think you'll be fine, I've seen many girls go through this you are not alone in this.
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do you have ANY money to spare? i am having great success with barry's bootcamp. It cost me about $45 on amazon. worth every penny.
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Hey, I'm having the same problem- but I've only been gone from the club for 6 days! In that time I've had a total meltdown (from the stress of having a day job+stripping at night+no sleep+money and work-related issues) and I've:
-Gained around 10 (!) pounds from binge eating for 3 days. I had hoped half of that would be water-weight that would come off after I got my eating under control, but alas, my weight is still up. It sucks to go from 108 to 117 in 3 days time.
-Bloated my body by purging so frequently during my binge episodes. My face and gut are very puffy. Unfortunately for me, I would go back to eat more even after throwing everything up...so I did digest a LOT of calories.
-Have broken out all over my face and back because I ate sugar during my binges. Normally, I NEVER eat sugar b/c in my case it's what caused my acne for years. So now my skin looks fucking terrible- I even got bangs cut the other day so I can hide my forehead (it's that bad).
I just feel super icky in my skin right now. I don't want to leave the house to go out with friends (but I have anyway), let alone get naked and dance right now. It's especially painful weighing more and having a bloated tummy b/c guys at the club normally love how I don't have a gut like the rest of the girls working. As mean as that sounds, it's actually been a major selling point for me.
So, long story short, I feel your pain. I guess we both have to suck it up and go back though. Good luck!
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thanks for all your help guys - i think ill just suck it up and go back to lose the extra weight. its just annoying because its been such a gradual weight gain i feel like it will take that long to lose it again (i have a very slow metabolism). i never even noticed i was putting on the weight! i actually went yesterday to get a few belly button piercings in the hopes that it will distract people from looking at the extra weight ive put on - i hope it works!
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Seventeen pounds really isn't too bad, even in this industry. I've put on about fifteen in a year due to drinking too much and going through a really bad spell when my dad was in the hospital, then my brother almost died, and then my boyfriend fell off a roof. I've slowly been losing it but you'd be surprised how little people notice, unless you are very short and small. Being thin is obviously a good thing in this industry but having an average build isn't the end of the world, especially since you're taking steps to improve it. Just keep your gorgeous head up high and suck it in!
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smile! Literally. All the time. If you are looking happy and cute, no one will notice. The average weight/thicker girls in my club who smile a lot all make money, while the grumpy ones don't and get called fat. Just keep your chin up girl. You'll do great.