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ok. i want a detailed answer.
what are the stereotypes/beliefs guys have about certain races/ethnic groups that make guys want to fuck chicks? date chicks? marry chicks? what beliefs do they have that make them want to avoid women from those backgrounds? (like a pro/con type list maybe)
i'm aware of the stereotypes about asians, but that's the only one i'm really familar with. there's the shy, reserved girl who is sexually submissive and always ready to do whatever her man wants. then there's the insatiable dragon lady who gets her kicks seducing and destroying men with her sexuality. both are total bs, but a lot of guys seem to believe this shit. probably because many of the asian women non-asian men have had intimate contact with, historically, have been prostitutes or trying to find someone to give her a better life than what she had come from, something women of all races are often inclined to try.
but i've been doing research on all this stuff lately, so the more opinions i can find, the better.
and i know guys talk about that stuff.
personally, i actually probably fit the docile asian stereotype, right down to have an eastern-style philosophy on life. and i always end up finding out that the white guys i like only like asian girls. and it's like dood, i'm not asian, but i'll be glad to love you long time. open your mind a little. but they won't. sad. well, sometimes the guys i like like latinas. and again, no compromising. bummer.
so does "self help book, prescription drug" refer to modern silliness? or did you mean something different when you were talking about silliness? i think it's funny you'd mention that, because i'm southern. nice southern families don't believe in psychiatry. they believe in whisky. i briefly saw a shrink when i was younger and going through some stuff, found him worthless and decided not to return when he tried to write me a prescription. mostly because he thought i was depressed, and i wasn't. if anything i've got ADD, and i get bummed by how much it impairs my life. i figured he assumed depression because he was depressed himself...for some reason crazy people like to work in the mental health profession. imagine going to a doctor for a sore throat and it turned out the dude treating you was a leper. lol.
my stepmom is italian-american (well, former stepmom. dad finally came to his senses 20 years in). her family was very italian. very two-faced. as i was only a young child when i first was around them, i got to hear all their shittalk about outsiders. and believe me, she was insane. and i'd rather someone read self-help books and go to a shrink than yell all the time about how everyone is trying to bring them down, but they have angels protecting them. for 20 years, she threatened to divorce my dad anytime he wasn't kissing her ass, and when he finally said 'ok' she accused him of leaving her for another woman and began stalking a female friend of his.
oh, and while i appreciate your input, i meant more like the stereotypes guys in general have. not what you personally like. i know guys talk about that kind of stuff. i've heard them say it around me, and i ignored it because i thought it was stupid. but now i'm interested in knowing. like the "guys think latinas are...", "guys think asians are..." like everyone has his tastes, but they usually involve the same stereotypes. some guys, like you, like the stereotype of latinas and italians. others don't, but for the same reasons that you like them. you know what i mean?
i guess for a white girl, i'm a pretty stereotypical latina. and i get mistaken a lot for latina, or sometimes italian. guys will be really into me, into my appearance and personality, and the sex, and everything. then they'll start trying to practice spanish on me, or asking me about my culture, and i'll realize that they think i'm latina. and i'll tell them i'm just a white girl with a dark complexion and curves. and they lose interest. so it's something that attracts them beside just the look or personality or sex or any of it. and that's why i want to know about the stereotypes, to try to figure out why it is that a guy can be turned off by a girl he was just into when he discovers that her ethnicity is less exotic than he thought. i didn't change. his perception of me changed. and if his perception changed, how much of it was accurate in the first place.
like if i get feisty as a white girl, i'm a bitch. but if i get feisty as a latina, i'm passionate. if i'm freaky as a white girl, i must've been molested or something, or i'm trying to trick them into marrying me or buying me stuff. but if i'm freaky as a latina, i'm just sensual, because latinas all love sex. apparently. etc.
oh, and irish guys love me. which is great, cos i like skinny pale guys with freckles. but it can also suck, cos then the guy i was so attracted to loses interest if he's hung up on stereotypes.
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Somethings are just better left unsaid.
So like a pic of my nooni with a dildo in it or something? LOL At risk of sounding stupid. This is one area I really have no experience in.
Really? guess its just me then. Thats why I wouldnt know what to send back. For me I'd like a pic of a girls boobs, ass or a guys abs, but I dont need to see cocks or vajayjay's. :D
youknowme... sorry, i'm not feeling you on the stereotypes thing. like i said, they like what they see, then they lose interest when they realize they are wrong. i've noticed that in general people like it when they're assumptions are reinforced. people want to hear what they want to hear, and if you tell it to them, they'll like you more. i've learned this the hard way, so try to trust me when i say it.
but i totally agree with you on cocky guys and on texting. extremely. i like nice guys, exclusively. i hate cocky guys. occasionally cocky guys have managed to fool me into thinking they were nice, but that's the only way they ever get a chance. there are plenty of A+ quality men out there who are actually humble about it. and that's hot as hell. plus, cocky guys usually have a lot less to offer, they were just coddled by their mommies growing up. mostly, you really can't do anything to get to them. they're too self-involved and undeservedly confident. they don't have the empathy to give a fuck. i've gotten a couple straight up pissed by turning them down, usually by laughing right at them. some get attitudes. some think i'm playing, then get attitudes when they realize i just don't want them. but it's not me they care about. it's just the insult to their egos. they get over it pretty fast, and just write me off as the bitch. they never once consider they might have deserved rejection. they're worthless.
jessie...i think by masturbation, having your finger on your clit would be sufficient. hell, playing with your tits is pretty satisfactory too. hell, have a popsicle in your mouth and a naughty smile, if you don't mind naughty face pics of you out there.
and i totally don't understand dick pics. especially on guys with eh dicks. this one guy kept sending me pics of his cock, which was average at best. meanwhile, his body was hot as hell, and his face was gorgeous, and he got the sexiest of sexy looks on his faces. why not send me a pic of that? that's what will get me horny, that's what i'll show up for. dicks are dicks are dicks. plus, he had erection issues cos he partied a lot. send a pic illustrating your strengths. like if i sent a pic, i'd do a pick of me putting something in my mouth. that's my strength. lol. but i don't send pics.
Sorry - I misunderstood what you were looking for. I don't really think that there are universal stereotypes for each group.
For example, if you posted a "what do you think about Asian girls" question on here you would get a variety of answers. Same with Latinas IMO.
I think perceptions vary based upon each guy's particular experiences.
Haven't heard from miracleDJ since Fri. I think he's been overwhelmed. I know I would be !!!
Fun thread, though. Now worries about hijacking when the thread is by definition about WHATEVER.
Yeah, you showed him. He fucked a hot girl while a bunch of other hot naked girls were running around the apartment. ;)
If you really want to fuck him up, give him affection for a week or so, tell him how much he means to you and how safe you feel with him, sprinkle in a lot of tease, a little INTIMATE and "emotional" sex (once only), then ignore him for a few days. Then rinse and repeat, but without the sex. That will fuck him up pretty badly if it goes on for a few weeks. He will be living on that one encounter for weeks, hoping to get close to you again emotionally AND physically.
Though I honestly don't know why I am telling you how to fuck a guy up except I have had too much Jack. I understand why you wouldn't like club guys, but why would you want to treat a potentially good guy you meet outside a club like shit?
This!!
I used to have all sorts of rules for dating and such, like not sleeping with them until a certain point, etc. Now I just avoid guys that make that sorta thing necessary....but still wait a while to give it up, not because I'm playing with them, but because I now don't want to sleep with em until I know them very well.
My apologies for ignoring this thread the past couple of days. I sprang a water leak from underneath my shower and it caused me a big fiasco. Nothing like home repairs FTMFL!
Edit: just out of curiosity... anyone know why this thread was moved and/or my post count says 2?
hmmmm, well the idea of marriage scares me shitless tbh, but my brother is married and I have a couple of married friends. The common theme they've all told me is the pressure they felt to plan the perfect proposal and also save for the engagement ring of their fiancee's dreams.
So I think the worst thing you could do is add more pressure to an already stressful situation. I also don't think its something you can "make" happen. Obviously, the more you develop your relationship the better the chances are he will want to expedite his proposal.
I could be a little off base here, but I think the best approach would be a little nudge now and again. Any time it comes up in conversation a quick mention, something to the effect of "I sometimes think about being married", and then let it go. Of course a heart to heart is an option too, but I might save that card to play later if things really start to drag out.
But the best advice I can give is just try and remember its just as stressful for him. In fact, maybe you might want to mention when the topic comes up in conversation. I don't need the perfect proposal or the biggest ring, I just need the person I'm meant to be with for the rest of my life. If you feel that way, saying something like that could ease his stress.
Well there's no doubt dirty = nude. So that is what he is asking for. As for why he might ask for a dirty pic. He just wants to see if you'll do it, kind of like a freak-o-meter. I know I've been around girls who talk alot of shit b4 and I've asked some of them for pics just to see how prude they are.
Warning: it probably goes without saying, but nowadays you need to really trust the person your sending any pic of yourself to, unless you don't mind the rest of the world seeing it too.