As a dancer, would you ever discuss being single and available with a customer?
I know a dancer who I see infrequently (once a month), and she's been saying stuff like this the last couple times we've talked.
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As a dancer, would you ever discuss being single and available with a customer?
I know a dancer who I see infrequently (once a month), and she's been saying stuff like this the last couple times we've talked.
Every dancer I've met is "single."
Most likely - she realizes you'd be a good regular, so she's making you think you have a shot at something more. If she wants you to ask her out, she'll be much more direct about it.
^^^ I typically don't tell customers what my status is at all. I don't want them asking to see me OTC or losing interest. If a guy acts like he's only interested in dating within the first minute of talking I excuse myself from the conversation.
Admittedly though, there's a good chance she's playing you... otherwise she'd give you legitimate contact information.
Dancers don't hint if they're for real.
Ask her out and you'll find out soon enough.
Start mentioning dinner and stuff. Give her your number and see what happens.
no she just wants your money.
Seriously, why the junior high "does she like me, too" BS. If you're interested, step us and see what happens.
If she remembers you, and she's making you feel special, and desirable, and your giving her attention (and money) in return - She's a very good exotic dancer!! The business is strictly about entertainment. Nothing more.
"Does she like me...is it real?" I suppose only the shadow knows but most of us have a pretty good idea. We originally had a sticky on subjects of this type but took it down. In the meantime here is a thread which talks about your subject matter.
http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=73221
You are likely a goober but what the hell it is a fun reminder even for the veterans ;D
FBR
Ask her and find out first hand. If a stripper tries to string you along by flirting you are entitled to ask her out. How can she object? It shouldn't surprise her. The worst that can happen is that you will be disappointed and possibly feel stupid or embarrassed for believing she was for real (though you shouldn't necessarily).
Not sure what you mean by "flirt" and "string along" but it's not necessary for a stripper to do either of these. All she has to do is be sexy, ask customers if they want LDs with them and dance and strip. Many strippers I have met have not even make-believe flirted with me, they were just congenial - and I still had LDs from some of them.
If you mean by "flirt" and "string along" make the customer think she will go on a date with him, then what I said still applies - if she is leading him to think that (and she is good at it, i.e. convincing) then it is understandable that he would ask her out. That's not being good at her job because if he does call her out on it he will find out she was misleading him and that will alienate him as a customer. If you mean just act flirtatiously as part of the show, that is not stringing him along.
However, there is a middle-ground where the stripper is not overtly leading him to believe she wants to date him, but acting flirtatious enough to make him think she might really like him and that is also (whether intended or not) putting ideas into the customer's head.
Bringing up her single status isn't necessarily flirting. It depends how she did it - the OP didn't go into detail. But I expect it's the sort of thing a stripper would want to avoid saying to a customer in case he thinks she is dropping hints.
BTW I realise that a lot of what is considered flirting IRL is not necessarily real flirting in an SC. Girls IRL don't strip in front of every guy they see and offer to dance on his lap and that would be way beyond just flirting in an IRL situation.
Personally I don't like strippers who lay too much flirting on me even if it is just part of their act. I don't need the confusion it causes. IRL when a hot girl flirts with me, usually it means just that. In a SC I don't know what it means but I am tempted to think that it is real. I'm not there to think about picking up girls, I'm there to see girls strip. If a stripper made it known to me she would like to date me I wouldn't say "no" but I don't want to deal with confused signals.
Honey, if she wanted you to take her out, she would have given you her number and asked you to take her out. Ask her out and you will see.
There's only been one time I was really interested in a customer and I let him know (though in hindsight I wish I had been more direct). I had left the club and asked my roommate (who still worked there) to invite him over. Otherwise I usually said that so they'd keep spending money.
Dumb, to me it's obvious that she likes you. The challenge you have, however, is that these girls see a lot of bad stuff. They have naturally hardened shells and you will need to go the extra mile to let her know that your affections are real.
Here are a few things that you might do to let her know that your interest is real:
1. Send flowers and jewelry to the club when you cannot be in town.
2. Have her house fees automatically debited from your card. This will keep you in her mind every time she ends a shift and doesn't have to pony up to the club.
3. Set up automatic bank checks for her. I like a monthly approach but some feel that weekly is more manageable for them.
4. Keep in touch often. If she doesn't answer her phone, leave her nice voicemails. I like to draw lines from Lord Byron but opinions vary on this.
5. Buy her a car or make her car payments. You will always be in her thoughts when she gets into the car to go somewhere.
Now if these things still do not work and you want to really want to prove your worth, you can also try these approaches:
6. Find out where she lives and have gifts sent to her house. This shows that you are a man who is truly interested and one that takes initiative.
7. Leave sweet notes of support and encouragement on her windshield or under the door to her house/apartment/trailer. IMHO, this shows that you are both determined AND thoughtful.
8. Find out who her landlord is and pay her rent directly.
9. Find out where her kids go to school and make direct payments to their school lunch accounts. Nothing touches a mother's heart like a nice guy taking an interest in her children.
Now some girls, particularly when they don't yet understand that a guy is worthy of her affection, do knee-jerk things like obtain restraining orders when good guys like you first start truly showing their worth. Don't be deterred! If a silly piece of paper stops you from showing her that you are worthy of her affection, then she was right in the first place.
Good luck and keep us posted! :)
she only wants you for your money.....lol
and whats funnier is that RICK must have fell for the stripper BS to...
send her flowers?....lol
okay. you will see.
Im gonna pray for you guys. dont be so gullible.. =)
wait... RICK, your BSing arent you?...lmao
Hahahahahahahahhahahahaha @ Rick! Woah that made me laugh so hard! Too funny!
PPG, You're deadon
Rick, I think I am gonna print that out and hand it to the guys!
If you have lots of money,... ALL women will want you just for your money. (It's like having a big penis, except that it gets smaller and smaller with every gold-digger you fuck.) So, don't let this discourage you from dating a hot dancer.
Date (but please don't marry) the hotest gold-digger you find (whether or not she is a dancer). Let her see the size of your wallet, but be very tight with it, because she'll leave when its empty, and no one else will want you. (This is like starting out with a 9-inch penis and having just a 3-inch penis when she leaves.)
The OP doesn't have to go as far as Rick says. All he has to do is ask for the girl's number. If you've seen her a number of times you are already through her "shell" by now, if you are ever going to be.