It kills me! lol... Domina rant
So I'm reading through the backpage Domina ads and I'm laughing my ass off at the rates they are charging and the things they are doing!
One woman says: Games I DO NOT play: Any type of act that is considered illegal (I do not exchange sex, or sexual favors for money)
She then goes on to list strap on play and 'controlled release' as some of her services. Ummm hello?? Does LE just ignore Dommes in the adult world, or are these women just dumb? Maybe I'm just a chicken, and maybe I know too many escorts... but WHY would you list stuff like this? Isn't it a red flag?
There was also the girl who does a 15 minute appointment. Really. I think that's pretty tasteless. If I'm going to take the time to book an appointment, I'm going to session for at least one hour.
And another little gem where she linked to her website and it was a bunch of stolen pictures. I could tell because the pictures of 'her' all looked different!
Oh haha and one offers 'prostate therapy!!!
So far I've found:
amateur pics
LOW rates... as low as $50
Blatant advertising of scat play, needle play, strap on, release, etc.
Escorts posing as Dommes... and blatantly advertising the other services...in other words they go into explicit detail.
Much older women... not very many young women at all
overweight/obese Dommes
DIY/free websites that look sooo tacky/cluttered/unfinished
15 minute 'in and out' appointments
Anyway... I'm just ranting with how the local 'domination' scene is so out of touch with any actual BDSM scene, or is actually probably more of a scam than anything. I mean, sites with stolen pictures just scream not kosher to me.
Re: It kills me! lol... Domina rant
thats how it is and it messes it up for real professional dommes that know and live the lifestyle..they now have to surf through the do u do ass play/strap on play/insert sexual act here emails all the time...
and the cheap escorts have figured it out vice is too interested in the adult areas or whatever to look into the domination side cus they may feel its to freaky or those guys are crazy and arent' doing anything sexual so the escorts mask domination for shit like sensual domination where its just a cover up for a quick bj,hj ect
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Haha yeah maybe I'm just paranoid, but I just think it would be common sense NOT to advertise this stuff! If I were an escort I wouldn't advertise sexual services, so why would I as a Domme? There are one or two LEGIT Dommes that advertise on CL and Backpage, but besides that... it's a circus lol!
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Ok first of all, holy crap stupid women!! That's all they get from me they don't deserve any more attention. Secondly though, the bit about old overweight Dommes. The great thing about being a good Domme is that it's NOT about looking like a supermodel. The single most badass bitch Domme I know is 40 and a BBW. She has AGES of experience,she is like a Domme guru, you just don't mess with this woman. She also has a heart of gold, I adore her. Being a Domme is the only place where a woman doesn't have to worry about aging out at 30 or being over a size 6, so let's not bring those shitty retarted standards to the table shall we?
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True about not worrying about weight/age. I was just stating that very few of the Dommes here actually are young. But it is great that being a Domina doesn't mean looking like a supermodel all of the time!
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*sigh* My advice Harleigh, is Just do you.
Run your business how you want and ignore the fools. I don't even check out low end escorts anymore because I know I'm on another level. So just do you and you'll be just fine. You don't need to offer what THEY'RE offering and do things the way They're doing to get business trust me. at the end of the day, You're winning and they're losing. That's just the way it is.
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Yup! I can't wait to get everything set up to be able to take appointments. I want to do things the right way and leave everyone else in the dust!! :D
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lol! I love how us as women look @ detail! :-) But most men however only look at the big picture! 'Bust A Nut' lol I actually think those girls just simply attract a certain clientele for instance the one who advertise 15 min is targeting the quickies who cum in 3-15 mins and just want to get off and keepit moving lol.Although I totally understand how that ad may come off as comical and maybe irritating to those who focus more on the quality of the whole experience! In my Primary Business World (my everyday life aside SW) I m soooo irritated by fly by night get a quick buck establishments however I also make more money from their dissappointed clients who realizes quality is priceless! ;-) You get what you pay for!!
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Harleigh HellKat
Yup! I can't wait to get everything set up to be able to take appointments. I want to do things the right way and leave everyone else in the dust!! :D
Yes girl don't let what others do bother you. Think big and fuck all that other shit because at the end of the day they're only shorting themselves and you're banking off of it. If I've learned anything in being in the adult industry men want what they CANNOT have. If they REALLY want you they'll spend their last dime to see you and and respect you and YOUR boundaries (from personal experience) Always set yourself above all the others. Don't compare yourself to anyone because they're not on your level. This is what I do and well..I can't complain :)
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carmenssecret
lol! I love how us as women look @ detail! :-) But most men however only look at the big picture! 'Bust A Nut' lol I actually think those girls just simply attract a certain clientele for instance the one who advertise 15 min is targeting the quickies who cum in 3-15 mins and just want to get off and keepit moving lol.Although I totally understand how that ad may come off as comical and maybe irritating to those who focus more on the quality of the whole experience! In my Primary Business World (my everyday life aside SW) I m soooo irritated by fly by night get a quick buck establishments however I also make more money from their dissappointed clients who realizes quality is priceless! ;-) You get what you pay for!!
This is why as an escort I set my rates above all others in my area. The men that see me don't see me just because they want to "bust a nut" they see me because they've read my blogs, my tweets , my interviews and actually want to get to know me... then fuck me.. well of course. LOL!
This is the same with anyone charging high end rates in whatever you do. Charge higher rates and men will treat you better. They'll treat you like a Porche or Bugatti not a toyota. I wish more women would realize this.. but then again I'm glad they don't. ha!
Oh Harleigh I see lots of money coming your way!
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Thank you dahhhhling! I see it coming my way as well. I am talking to a male submissive who has a clips4sale store and we are collaborating... his store is already very successful and he loves my look. Can you have more than one store on there? I'd like to do several different themes. He is of course into ball busting etc but I also want a solo store that's 100% my own with financial Domination, smoking, feet etc. :D
Oh wow, I think I'm threadjacking my own thread lol!
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@ Harleigh HellKat there's no limit to the amount of stores you can have on c4s. I currently have 3 and I plan on creating 3 more soon. I like creating theme based stores as well lol.
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Yayyyy!! The one I'm creating with this guy will probably be all ball busting, but I have sooo much fun with other fetishes that I just wanna have a space for them all. :D