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To Dildo or Not to Dildo *POLL*
My girl just told me that a guy she recently started sleeping with asked her if he could use a dildo on her. When she asked were he got it, he said it belonged to his ex. When she questioned him why he would want to use a dildo his ex used, on her, his response was " I washed it with alcohol". What do you think she did after he said that? And what would you have done in this situation?
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Guys are pretty stupid.. they wouldnt see how how revolting that is besides not really sanitary especially if the dildo is some sort of rubber. Besides even mentioning the emotional implications. I dont think he's meaning to be a douche hes probably just cheap and dumb. I'd direct him to my favourite toy website and demand 3 new toys to make up for his error.
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wow. i think i would be really mad. i'm not sure i could even fathom that situation. did she burn it??
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Some guys are totally clueless about what is acceptable & what isn't. I would guess he wasn't thinking clearly. While I wouldn't use someone else's used toy - I'd tell him he could buy a new one.
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Yeah I agree where the posters who said, the guy cleary did not think of what he was saying..
In his mind he just wants to see the girl play with the toy... but in a girls view we think of the ex, the toy itself was used by another person and risks etc etc. So my answer would be.. No I wouldnt use it.. I do not share toys!!
Plus if I became to be single and had toys with that certain person, I would take them! Deff not leave them to the ex.
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Yeah I agree Kisca--and I'd throw the toys away when she left, if she left them. Toys are cheap, and it's a lot more fun to go buy new ones with the new girl.
The guy in the OP was an idiot.
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Originally Posted by
Kisca
In his mind he just wants to see the girl play with the toy... but in a girls view we think of the ex, the toy itself was used by another person and risks etc etc. So my answer would be.. No I wouldnt use it.. I do not share toys!!
... I'd be feeling the same way about his capital-T Toy, too, at that point.
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gross.. just gross. The chick that stays with this kind of guy is really the loser.
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Well I would of hoped that she laughed at his ass and said umm laters buddy.
Wow... maybe I'm overreacting but I would dump his ass. Seriously him asking me something that stupid would piss me off and I would feel a little disrespected. I wouldn't dump him for being a dumb ass, I would dump him because he obviously doesn't know anything about cleanliness. I would be paranoid of whether he took the necessary actions before sex like washing his f'in ass lol. I seriously think I would be grossed out by him.
For some reason it rubs me the wrong way that he's already introducing toys when they've just recently started sleeping together. I wouldn't mind my bf using toys on me but it def wouldn't have popped off within the first 3-5mths of us being together. Plus his ass better take me to the sex store so that we could agree on toys to use... wtf did he pull the toy from the dresser draw or something.
Now that I think about it he could of had a fetish for forced bi or cross dressing/sissification and been using that shyt on himself..... ummmm ummm nah man that situation would of ended so fast.. resulting with his ass being out the door. I would of made sure to tell him to loose my name and number in the process lol.
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He should take her toy shopping-duh. What kind of cheap guy keeps old toy just floatin' around ?
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I've used a toy that belonged to the ex, but I was also sleeping with the ex at the time so I'm not sure that it counts. Odd threesome....
If someone I was in an actual relationship with still had a toy from their ex and asked me to use it, I'd be squicked out.
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Is there any sane woman out there who would say, "Sure, honey? sounds hot!"????
I would've laughed and walked out. Men are ridiculous sometimes...I agree though, he probably really though she'd be into it.
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I would have declined the offer, but I wouldn't have gotten upset over it or walked out. It's actually pretty darn funny to me. I guess I take certain things at face value and wouldn't think about any of the "ex's" issues or anything like that. Guess I just see things differently.
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This is pretty gross. Those things have lots of germs, ewww. Ok, maybe I live a boring life, but I've never had a guy wanting to use a dildo on me. A few wanted me to use it on them in the ass, but never me (and strangely none were serious boyfriends).
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So to update:
She got pissed and dumped his ass. She would have forgiven him as him being completely thoughtless if he was a young guy. But the guy is 53 YEARS OLD. And the dildo belonged to his EXWIFE. You know he's been down this road a few times. This guy clearly had no respect for my girl. So glad he's bit the dust now.
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How old is she? 53 is too old for me, let alone when I was younger. No wonder that's his exwife.
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theory #2
He didn't want to admit he went out and bought a dildo.
Some guys are pretty funny about buying a plastic dick. I couldn't do it myself when I was younger. Now I just laugh and get the outrageous hit.
Guys reading this HINT. Vibrators are awesome. The really small thin ones. When held between her pubic bone and yours, pressed against her clit while you kiss and grind in the missionary posish. She will like it.
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kikiwiki
So to update:
She got pissed and dumped his ass. She would have forgiven him as him being completely thoughtless if he was a young guy. But the guy is 53 YEARS OLD. And the dildo belonged to his EXWIFE. You know he's been down this road a few times. This guy clearly had no respect for my girl. So glad he's bit the dust now.
I gotta say, I think this is a really ridiculous reason to break up with someone. I don't think it's fair to assume that he "had no respect for her." Sometimes guys aren't as sensitive about hygiene issues as women. She could have just corrected him and moved on.
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Elvia
I gotta say, I think this is a really ridiculous reason to break up with someone. I don't think it's fair to assume that he "had no respect for her." Sometimes guys aren't as sensitive about hygiene issues as women. She could have just corrected him and moved on.
I see her point in breaking up with him because it was early in the relationship, no feelings and time invested. It's best to get out now when he's already displaying signs of immaturity, especially when he's 53, he has no excuse to be immature. If she let this slide and he did another stupid thing in the long run, she's gonna kick herself for staying in the first place when the signs of immaturity are there from the beginning. There are too many men out there to be forgiving someone for shit like this, especially so early on in the relationship. If this was a long term relationship, she should definitely forgive him and work on him but since he's just a new fling, best to drop him and go for the next one.
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Honestly if it was a glass dildo, I wouldn't care unless he started saying things like, yeah, my ex liked it like this. Haha I would def decline if it was anything incapable of being completely cleaned and sterilized though. I'm kinda freaky about keeping my lady parts all clean and healthy. lol
I will admit to throwing a mild fit a while back over my guy wanting me to wear a training collar his ex wore though. So, well, I do get where you girls are coming from.
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:ill: NO. WAY. That's out! How gross!
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Pink dildo, black dildo, glass dildo or semi realistic dildo whatever.... It is gross! I would have looked at him like he was crazy for trying me like that. Thank goodness the girl had enough sense to break up with him. Some silly little girl would have thought that was "cute". Everyone should respect themselves and not let a man disrespect them like that. So what if he is not the sensitive type? anyone with brains should know better.
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You took the words right out of my mouth malaya.
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I don't think this guy is a jerk, just stupid and disgusting. It's like buying used stained underwear at a thrift store or something... yuck.
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Hygienically, I'm still thinking I would have immediately moved to wondering where he's stuck his Big Toy, and what STDs I might get from it. 'Cause let's face it, it's probably a more likely source of infection than the dildo. Not that that makes the dildo any less gross!
If it were a glass dildo, and I gave it a good bleach soak and a good boil in a presto cooker, I wouldn't be worried about STDs any more - but I'd still find it in really bad taste.
Fear of STDs really turns me off big-time. I'd probably be a slut otherwise. But even without that, I still don't like this scenario. To me, it's be like he's thinking of the ex, or something... which I don't mind - except in bed. "My ex used to do it this way, can you try it too?" would get "I don't do that with exes!" as a comment, as I run-don't-walk out. (Though in other contexts, I'm quite happy to learn the ex's favourite recipe, etc.)
Anyway... this guy is a douchebag if there ever was one!