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MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
I ask because I hate when men I have given NO encouragement to keep trying and trying to go out with me. I don't want to have to be a bitch because they're men that I have to see again but it seems like they can't take a hint. So I'm curious, what actually lets you know that a girl just plain isn't feeling you?
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
Subscribing to this thread. I get this problem a lot more than I would like and my body language (at least in my opinion) very clearly say I don't want to fuck you. But for some reason they don't pick up on it until I verbally tell them to git.
So good topic.
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
I really only give attention to women that give it back...I think if they continue the only thing you can do is say something to them...I would love to hear what kind of reaction you get when you do though..lol
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
You don't wanna know lol.
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
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Zinaida
You don't wanna know lol.
I'm sure....us guys turn into little boys when a insecurity is raised...it is funny to watch a 2 year old when its not yours..lol
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
Well, I try not to play on their insecurities when I turn them down/off(lol). ?
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
It's a gut feeling that arises from a number of clues like her body language, level of enthusiasm, whether she says or does anything encouraging, or likewise discouraging.
And, of course, if you ask her out and she says "oh, hell no!"...that's a dead giveaway too.
:D
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
Im interested in this too.. Im pretty much forward (sort of).. and they still do not get it. 2 guys kept on bothering me for 2 weeks.. while everytime I told them "Im busy, I cant" not maybe later... or another time.. or how about next week.. But for 2 weeks straight same answer each time and nothing more and they keep on bothering me and I dont reply to 80% of their comments.
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
Answer is ........ depends.
Do you mean at first meeting like clubs or the park; or do you mean after yu have seen each other a few times?
In both, I guess a common denominator would be body language, and the you are too busy.
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
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Kisca
...for 2 weeks straight same answer each time and nothing more and they keep on bothering me and I dont reply to 80% of their comments.
^^^There's a whole texting culture that I'm entirely unfamiliar with as well...I don't carry a cellphone. I imagine it has it's own unique set of rules.
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
If she keeps talking about her birth control and I'm not getting any. If all I get are friendship hugs. If the first time I see her out of the club she says "You're never gonna fuck me". ;)
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
That's a hard question to answer. It comes down to how sensitive a man is to social nuance. Some people are very thick in this department and you'd basically have to use a firehose on them to get them to go away. It's kind of like when you have people over at your house and it's getting late and you're dropping hints that it's time for them to go. Some pick up on it right away and leave and some will just ask what else you have in the fridge.
I always figure that if the girl is dropping friend only vibes I'll just move on pretty quick, but some guys you will probably have to write the message on a piece of paper, staple it to their forehead, and they still won't get it because they can't read it backwards in the mirror.
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
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hockeybobby
It's a gut feeling that arises from a number of clues like her body language, level of enthusiasm, whether she says or does anything encouraging, or likewise discouraging.
And, of course, if you ask her out and she says "oh, hell no!"...that's a dead giveaway too.
:D
This is pretty close to my answer as well, but some guys just don't get it until you tell them to fuck off. I roomed with a guy in college that was like this...he either didn't get when girls weren't interested, or he didn't care to get it. One time we were out at a bar and he was hitting on this girl that was VERY obviously not into him...gave short, one word answers to his questions, was looking away from him all the time he was talking to her, etc...finally, she looked him in the eye and said "Do I have to tell you fuck off?"
So...some guys just either don't get the signals, or intentionally ignore them.
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
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Mr Hyde
This is pretty close to my answer as well, but some guys just don't get it until you tell them to fuck off. I roomed with a guy in college that was like this...he either didn't get when girls weren't interested, or he didn't care to get it. One time we were out at a bar and he was hitting on this girl that was VERY obviously not into him...gave short, one word answers to his questions, was looking away from him all the time he was talking to her, etc...finally, she looked him in the eye and said "Do I have to tell you fuck off?"
So...some guys just either don't get the signals, or intentionally ignore them.
Thats awesome. Sadly some guys still dont understand that.. and go "seriously? no really? c mon"
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
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Originally Posted by
Mr Hyde
This is pretty close to my answer as well, but some guys just don't get it until you tell them to fuck off. I roomed with a guy in college that was like this...he either didn't get when girls weren't interested, or he didn't care to get it. One time we were out at a bar and he was hitting on this girl that was VERY obviously not into him...gave short, one word answers to his questions, was looking away from him all the time he was talking to her, etc...finally, she looked him in the eye and said "Do I have to tell you fuck off?"
So...some guys just either don't get the signals, or intentionally ignore them.
ive done that a lot. i seriously dont get it. you are just sitting at the bar, and you are so obviously annoyed, do they think your one word answers are suddenly gonna be replaced by "please LETS GO HAVE SEX NOW?"
i dont get it
but when you say 'he didnt care to get it' you might be onto something.
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
im curious about this as well. as far as my experiences go, unless i simply refuse to speak or look at them, they take any comment or look as encouragement. very frustrating.
and this is coming from someone who is not exactly known for my flirty-ness, lol.
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
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AngelKing
It comes down to how sensitive a man is to social nuance.
Ja very very true.
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
If someone's not enjoying my company, I'm not enjoying theirs, so I'll move on.
Guys harp on women because with maybe 5-10%, it works. But that seems a rather poor excuse to annoy the living shit out of the other 90-95% .
Maybe Princessjas can use her knowledge of Biochemistry to develop a pill that will produce an apocalyptically bad fart within 15 seconds of taking it. The colatoral damage might be unacceptable though.
Maybe you should try "could you please stop talking to me, my boyfriend could come in any second. The judge said he'd do really hard time if he put anybody else in the hospital". With some guys, this may have to be followed with "do bullets bounce off of you?".
Or you could get a permit to carry and do the "say hello to my little friend" thing.
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
Don't have a permit to carry but I did try the latter in my own special way... :/
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
As Sarge said, lack of eye contact, lack of body mirroring and lack of verbose response will generally send me in another direction.
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
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Originally Posted by
Zinaida
I ask because I hate when men I have given NO encouragement to keep trying and trying to go out with me. I don't want to have to be a bitch because they're men that I have to see again but it seems like they can't take a hint.
Then stop hinting and state your interest.
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Zinaida
So I'm curious, what actually lets you know that a girl just plain isn't feeling you?
When she says "would you like to have dinner some time? Here's my number." That works. GFs in the past have mentioned a gal has to pretty much trip over something and fall on top of me to figure out she's interested, but that's OK with me. Don't care much for hints, or being turned down because my mind reading hat was on the fritz, etc.
It's 2010, equality is here, be clear of your interests. ;)
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
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ilbbaicnl
Or you could get a permit to carry and do the "say hello to my little friend" thing.
An awesome way to end up in jail. :O
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
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Will
An awesome way to end up in jail. :O
You're right. She should just stick her hand in her purse and say, "I'd pull out my gun and shoot you I could do it without going to prison." This may help him to realize things are unlikely to work out between them.
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
i think it depends a lot on the guy. some are just clueless (and probably lose out by not realizing when girls do like them too). other guys believe the old "no means yes" shit...the only thing i've found that works on them is telling them you'll call the police, or calling the police if telling them fails.
i've got a problem with guys assuming i want them. i think a lot of guys must assume every woman wants them. it's pretty fucked up. but i guess if they were honest with themselves, they probably wouldn't be able to get out of bed. with those guys, the best bet seems to be coming on strong. talk about weddings and babies. or anything serious that involves plans for the future, you don't even need to mention wanting to spend it with him. he'll just assume you do.
if that doesn't work, start talking about your ex and how much you miss him, how he was the only one and you'll never love again. etc. and if that doesn't work, get bitter and start sounding like you'd cut his dick off because men are scum. you can even talk about the scum manifesto and that music video andygirl posted. lol.
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Re: MEN: How can you tell when a girl isn't interested in you?
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Casual Observer
As Sarge said, lack of eye contact, lack of body mirroring and lack of verbose response will generally send me in another direction.
Exactly CO,
Body turned away, feet pointed toward the door, eyes searching the crowd, both feet on the floor, deepened voice and one word answers, turning away, loud frustrated exhale, compressed lips, two hands on her drink or purse, hands clasped on her lap or under the table. That would be some non-verbal cues.
I hate men, I like women, I'm a lesbian, I'm with a friend, I have to go, I'm leaving in a few minutes, no thanks bye, I'd rather die, fuck off. These could be some verbal cues.
How does a Man get a date? First, He gathers 99 rejections.
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