Originally Posted by
SuperFlyGuy
And now for the male perspective, lol! Granted, I'm single and not looking to manipulate the situation for straight-up sex, unlike many guys on those sites. But I do enjoy younger woman and have had many very nice relationships, yes relationships, w/people I've met on a few of the SD sites.
Took me awhile to realize this, but not everyone is looking for the same thing. Some guys and girls do want sex for $$$. Others want arm candy/companionship as the OP said. As in real life, everyone is different and everything is negotiable. So when starting a dialogue w/someone new, one of the first questions I'll ask is whether they're just looking for an "arrangement" or if they want something real.
After that, like anything else, it's just a matter of meeting up and testing the chemistry in person. Hooked up with several of these girls on the first date, in fact, leading to some nice relationships lasting for months. Becoming friends and lovers, neither of us had to ask for anything. Everything was based on genuine feelings for each other.
Seldom was $$$ ever exchanged because to me, that would make it feel too much like a business transaction. So instead, we'd travel together, go to shows, nice restaurants, and shopping trips. But there were many nights spent at home too, just playing pool, watching movies and making love. We'd even do local stuff sometimes like mini golf, festivals, the zoo, etc. All told, I wasn't spending major $$$, but we shared some very nice times together.
Again, what I'm saying is that it all depends on the people involved. And surprisingly, this is how it goes, even on the SD sites. Just today, I spoke w/three young ladies from two of the sites. I'll be meeting the college student this weekend, and based on our discussion, we seem to have a lot in common, and she's looking for a relationship. The single mom is looking for the same as she's in an uncomfortable living situation w/her ex. And the girl in UT is looking to connect w/someone from the site and then relocate.
So all of the guys out there aren't the same...and neither are the ladies. Hope that helps, and good luck in finding what you're looking for!!!