Dancing for women custies.
I've read a few threads on here about women not being approached by dancers when they go out to the SC even though they have money to spend. So, it's been my recent goal to approach every single woman/couple in my club which, on Saturday nights is A LOT. I know they have money and they usually love me . I work the whole, sweet, happy, sexy, blonde, girl next door type look.
This is my issue: Every couple I approached last night (probably about 6 or 7) bought a dance for the lady... I know I could have charmed them into multiple dances but, I wasn't 100% confident on how I danced for them. I need an alternate technique.
Lets face it, men are easy and I know what gets their attention, keeps it and how to empty their wallets.. Most of this is because I know how to dance for them. I need to expand and dance for women as well.. does anybody have any helpful dancing tips for dancing for ladies???
I'm not interested in getting raunchy and making them uncomfortable like I've seen many other dancers do.. I just want them to have fun and enjoy me dancing for them!! Please help!
-Jenny
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I don't know if some of my tips are going to be raunchy but here it goes:
*make lots of eye contact
*caress their faces
* I like to put my thigh in between their legs and gently and slowly move it up and down
*breathe heavy on their necks
*I also like to lay back on them with my head on their shoulder and just caress myself, slowly sensually
*maybe make mmmmmmmm sounds in their ear as well..
I think dancing for women is alot like dancing for men... I would like to think that women like the more slow, sensual dances though... If I went to a SC and got a dance I don't know if I would enjoy a vagina in my face, boobs smashed in my face... But thats just me.
Oh and make sure you smile alot too.. I think that would put a woman at ease too... friendly stripper= comfortable lady customer..
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When I dance for couples I always, always, always start dancing for the woman first. Unless she specifically tells me to dance on her man. Most of the time the guy just wants to watch you dance for the girl but sometimes she'll tell me to dance for him to. In that situation I start with her and when I sit down on her and lean back I will take my hand and caress the guy's leg while I'm grinding on her. Then I will switch and do the same thing to her. I like to keep in contact with her while I'm dancing with him, it makes me feel safe and hopefully makes her more comfortable with me. Then I will sit on top of them in the middle and grind on both of their laps at the same time.. Hope this helped!
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Massage neck and back . Play with their hair. Lightly play with their boobs over the shirt. Run hands up and down their thighs.
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if she's wearing makeup, i won't touch her face but the neck is always a good spot to focus on, the knee between the legs, boob/leg touching, forehead-to-forehead touching.
ass-to-torso? if that makes sense. kind of the way you would grind on a fat man's stomach? actually, if you pretty much treat it as dancing for a really fat man (meaning no penis stimulation), it will be a good dance!
women tend to be grabby though so...you know. if you are hinting at something, i find that female customers are more likely to actually try to fuck.
putting her hands on you is also good. i don't know what the contact levels of your club are.
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There's a big difference between how I dance for gay or bi women and how I dance for straight women. Most of the women who come with male dates or with a group on a Saturday night don't want a lap dance so much as they want to pretend to be the sort of person who gets a lap dance. Does that make sense? I work less at turning them on, and more at making them believe that they are so wild, so crazy, so hot, etc. for wanting me naked on them.
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I'm a woman that goes to stripclubs. I am not a dancer nor could I ever be one, I work as an escort and often go with clients. I also go with my partner and friends on weekends occasionally (birthday parties and such). I can definitely relate to the frustration of being a female customer and never being approached, especially when I'm with clients who have a lot of money to spend.
Of the tips listed, I really don't like:
- Having my face touched, my breasts touched, my inner thighs touched.
- Heavy breathing on my neck or into my ears.
- Her touching her pussy suggestively, squeezing her nipples, slapping her ass, or anything similarly forced.
- I don't touch anything unless my hands are placed there and even then its going to be as minimal as possible.
Pretty much anything that invades my personal space too much or seems really fake (last week a girl started moaning in my ear - what?!) makes me kinda uncomfortable.
I really like:
- Seeing a girl who is hotter than me dance slowly.
- Friendly conversation.
- Watching a male partner get a lapdance he's enjoying.
- Feeling like she thought we were "easy" clients that she would dance for again.
- I always go for dancers who seem as though they're having fun.
Women who are out with a group of guys for the most part want to seem like the 'wild, crazy' type who are willing to get a few dances. The 'fat guy' style of dancing sounds like it'd work pretty well.
When I'm working with couples I usually go for the female first and look for her approval before I do anything for him, that probably works in your area of the industry as well.
Hope that helps!
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I just re-read the thread. JenniferH approached 6 or 7 females/couples and got at least a dance out of each approach. That's a 100% sell rate, which is crazy-high for a stripclub. I'm wondering if that's because women and couples get approached so rarely and they're looking for something different?
Its not really a get-your-rocks-off-sweatpants-boner type scenario I think women are looking for: its much more of a slow airdance that becomes PG-13 touching (you and her) eventually, but also just time with a beautiful and friendly woman.
I wouldn't try to be sexy with women so much as friendly. It sounds like it makes sense, money-wise.
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azaleanola
There's a big difference between how I dance for gay or bi women and how I dance for straight women. Most of the women who come with male dates or with a group on a Saturday night don't want a lap dance so much as they want to pretend to be the sort of person who gets a lap dance. Does that make sense? I work less at turning them on, and more at making them believe that they are so wild, so crazy, so hot, etc. for wanting me naked on them.
this is sooooooo true. i've danced for a lot of girls, and there are a lot of girls who are only doing it for the lulz. dance clean for them. smile and giggle a lot. give them naughty grins.
if you aren't sure what a girl's limits are, start slow with her, touch her knee or arm or something to gauge her comfort level.
you'll also find that some girls are handsier than guys. cut them off at one song and ask for a tip.
a lot of girls only want one dance. if you want to try to get more, use the same method you could use on a guy "you're so fun to dance for, i want to keep going. ok?"
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I always go up to couples and girls in the strip club. They will almost always buy dances and are usually having a good time. When I'm dancing with a couple, I always dance for her first. In this case, my movements are slow. I may take her hands and touch my hips and tummy up just below my boobies (:) ) Sometimes, if I can tell she needs to feel more comfortable, I'll give a little space in the dance, let her relax and go back into a contact dance. I do use my ass to grind her pussy a little here, a little there. If the couple are not touching each other, I make sure to place their hands on me together. Her hand touching me and his on top of hers and mine on both of theirs. (LOL!) When I'm dancing for the man, I'm always still touching her. Letting her know she is included is important and vica versa (making him feel included too). Couples are the the funnest to me. So once you get it down you'll love them too!!!
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teaze, the only reason i made that comparison is because...you know how fat men...you kind of end up sitting on their tummy rolls? so it's like that.
when i get dances, i do not like my face being touched, so i don't do this to female customers.
and i am constantly getting into trouble for letting female customers do inappropriate things. i think lady custies would make me really uncomfortable if i was not gay. but i am young and single so ;)
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teaze
beckatron are you bi, lesbian, or straight? So from what you said it's best to give an air dance for females, including the female couple?
Straight-ish? Women are supersexy and I can get turned on with one, but when we get our clothes off I (eventually) lose interest. I love FFM threesomes, I'd say 70% straight 30% gay :)
No, start with an air dance and gauge from there. I was just trying to say that women have varying levels of comfort and they want something different than what most men want (?) - slow and sensual versus grinding and slapping. I think you'd make the most money adding minimal contact at the end of the first song, increasing it again at the end of the second, etc. Hook 'em in sorta deal.
I'd dance for the guy second and look over at her, smile, etc., to keep the female partner engaged. Some women get weird/territorial/jealous :( SamanthaLasVegas' hands idea is genius, that'd work for me.
Is that more clear?
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My experience, I haven't done too well with the ladies.
I usually get glares and if I try to be friendly I (more than a few times) get laughed at because I feel people assume I am being fake.
I am taking some notes with this thread though, it's giving me some good ideas!
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azaleanola
There's a big difference between how I dance for gay or bi women and how I dance for straight women.
Absolutely!
As a bi (leaning more gay) female clubber, I can tell you that if a dancer 's first dance is an airdance, I will not buy another one. I like and expect a good amount of contact (mutually agreed upon, of course), and a previous posters list of her "dislikes" are all things that I look for and want in a lapdance. Viva la difference.
Dancers are good people-readers, right? I'd say that any pre-dance conversation with the lady should give you an indication as to her comfort level in a dance. When I chat with a dancer before our dances I definitely let her know how I like my dances. But I'm a pretty straightforward person, and your average lady custormer might not be so open.
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sclvr5005
Absolutely!
As a bi (leaning more gay) female clubber, I can tell you that if a dancer 's first dance is an airdance, I will not buy another one. I like and expect a good amount of contact (mutually agreed upon, of course), and a previous posters list of her "dislikes" are all things that I look for and want in a lapdance. Viva la difference.
Isn't it interesting to meet so many different types of people! Viva la difference seconded.
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OP PM me for more tips. Not only am I really good with couples and prefer them, I am a collared submissive poly, happily married and bi-sexual so I can give you insight into the alternative communites as well.
One helpful tip is to determine who the aggressor is in the relationship and go from there.
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kaiarose
I don't know if some of my tips are going to be raunchy but here it goes:
*make lots of eye contact
*caress their faces
* I like to put my thigh in between their legs and gently and slowly move it up and down
*breathe heavy on their necks
*I also like to lay back on them with my head on their shoulder and just caress myself, slowly sensually
*maybe make mmmmmmmm sounds in their ear as well..
I think dancing for women is alot like dancing for men... I would like to think that women like the more slow, sensual dances though... If I went to a SC and got a dance I don't know if I would enjoy a vagina in my face, boobs smashed in my face... But thats just me.
Oh and make sure you smile alot too.. I think that would put a woman at ease too... friendly stripper= comfortable lady customer..
I agree with everything you have said here, except for caressing our faces. I'm not a fan with anyone touching my face with their hands.
I don't mind their face or breasts touching my face, but hands is a big no-no for me.
I also like it when they touch my breasts, neck, thighs, hips and around the waist.
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I haven't started dancing yet, but I think a lot of women including myself like to experiment. Also some women might want to learn so they can give their man a dance at home ;)
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JenniferH
I've read a few threads on here about women not being approached by dancers when they go out to the SC even though they have money to spend. So, it's been my recent goal to approach every single woman/couple in my club which, on Saturday nights is A LOT. I know they have money and they usually love me . I work the whole, sweet, happy, sexy, blonde, girl next door type look.
This is my issue: Every couple I approached last night (probably about 6 or 7) bought a dance for the lady... I know I could have charmed them into multiple dances but, I wasn't 100% confident on how I danced for them. I need an alternate technique.
Lets face it, men are easy and I know what gets their attention, keeps it and how to empty their wallets.. Most of this is because I know how to dance for them. I need to expand and dance for women as well.. does anybody have any helpful dancing tips for dancing for ladies???
I'm not interested in getting raunchy and making them uncomfortable like I've seen many other dancers do.. I just want them to have fun and enjoy me dancing for them!! Please help!
-Jenny
I'm gay so I LOVE dancing for women. Women in my club don't really get dances :(
-* Be gentle with her. I like to make the woman feel comfortable. They are usually curious but shy. I slightly stick my ass out and slowly gyrate in the air moving down into their lap.
-* Then I take her hands and softly put it on my stomach, slowly moving it up and down. I work at a contact club so I gently encourage her to rub my thighs or beneath my breasts.
-* This whole time I'm still grinding on her, by this time she is gaining confidence to get into it. As she touches a new area, I moan and smile shyly, looking back over my shoulder at her.
-*This is getting towards the end of the song, I reach back and stroke her face, grinding some more and then slowly flip around. So now I'm facing her and she is still shy but now more open than she started. I bring her hands around if she let them drop and I put them on my hips and rub on her arms and her face. I moan and make her feel like she's the best lover I've met.
-*The song ends. Her man wants to keep going and she is aroused. For the next song I stay in this position. The next I have my hands on the floor and my butt is on her lap, my knees are at her side. We have our bottoms on so I encourage her to touch my thighs and my butt as I grind on her this way.
-* "That feels so good" "Mmmm" "Wow, your hands are so soft" Hustle, hustle, hustle just as strong but wrapped up in silk
-*As you continue, you can flip into a lot of positions and end up emptying these wallets as well ;)
Hope this helped! :)