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"You could do so much better than this"
Argh, I hate those customers that come in and start telling me I could do so much better than working in a club!! They're so full of their own self importance!! And then when they say "You don't enjoy your job, I can tell" ... No, I don't enjoy customers like you!
How do you deal with these people? I had one man last night who just wouldn't leave me alone, he kept following me around and begging me to quit my job for his sake hahahahahahaha argghhhh!!>:(
When we have nice customers I do genuinely enjoy what I do, I just hate hate hate customers like this!
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usually thats like their ego boosting way of turning girls down for a dance hoping it wont destroy her confidence such as saying they prefer the other girl, youre boobs too small etc
i hate it too. i hate the 'youre too beautiful/sexy/good for me, i dont want to take advantage of you' etc.
bah. im holding back a rant here.
you can ignore them, tell them youre not interested or get security. you will hardly ever get a dance. they want to save you and take you out to dinner and make you their live-in whore
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I usually say "I love my job because when I get really annoying customers I can do this" then I get up and walk away and ignore them for the rest of the night :)
Or once I asked the guy what he did for a living and when he said he was a lorry driver I just looked at him and said "oh but you could do so much better!" in my most patronizing voice. That shut him up.
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^^^^^^^^^^That was delicious.
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I used to get that type of thing all the time, I don't anymore though. I'm pretty open about my life. Once they realize I have multiple college degrees & I tell them "it took me X # of years to figure out I didn't need to keep my 9-5 job while dancing" they pretty much get the picture that I'm not meant for other types of work. I think when you are open about why you LOVE your job, then they realize that they would sound stupid if they tried convincing you otherwise.
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my mom says she's "sad for me". I'm not! I've finally found something where I can be independent, have my own hours, be my own boss, speak freely to people and make as much money as I let myself.
Haters can hate. Some of us have found something that we genuinely like and that we're genuinely good at. I don't understand how that isn't enough.
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Yeah, I hate that if you went into a bank or a cafe or anywhere else and got served by someone who wasn't smiling or being overly enthusiastic you just assume they've had a bad day and leave it at that, but when it's a stripper guys automatically assume it's because we hate ourselves and our job and have been forced into doing it.
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Originally Posted by Kylea2
I used to get that type of thing all the time, I don't anymore though. I'm pretty open about my life. Once they realize I have multiple college degrees & I tell them "it took me X # of years to figure out I didn't need to keep my 9-5 job while dancing" they pretty much get the picture that I'm not meant for other types of work. I think when you are open about why you LOVE your job, then they realize that they would sound stupid if they tried convincing you otherwise.
Same, when I was new and nervous I got it all the time, now I have more confidence I hardly ever hear it and if I think it's gonna come up I explain that I make 5 times more than I could in a 'normal' job, travel pretty much anywhere in the world and have a job that night - even if I'm only there for a week and if I ever feel uncomfortable I can just walk away from the situation. But I find the best way to avoid hearing it is to act all bubbley and ditsy with a big smile on your face whenever you're on the floor.
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I don't really try to explain myself to these guys any more. They are set in a certain mindset and no matter how happy and sucessful I am they will not change thier views on strippers/stripping.
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When they say I'm too pretty for this, I tell them I'm much too pretty to be flipping burgers.
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Surprise
When they say I'm too pretty for this, I tell them I'm much too pretty to be flipping burgers.
Yep. When I was dancing I remember these guys coming in telling me I was too good to dance. They then mentioned that some store or fast food restaurant was hiring. I asked them why would I want to take a job making less money than I was, and their comment was its "less demeaning". Yeah being yelled at, cleaning toilets, etc is far less demeaning ::)
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^^^ LOL That sounds like an Athena response!
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When someone uses this line I go alone with it completely... I say, your right I don't but I have to be here because I need to pay "xyz". Do you think you can help me get out of this (all of this in an ever-so-sweet voice). They usually don't have a good response so I say can I get your phone number so I can rely on you for support mentally and financially, just for awhile until I get on my feet, right (doe eyes)? It's just a fun game to play if you want to waste the time. They are used to hearing us defend this job so every once in awhile fuck with them back. :) They know why we are there and if they were girls they'd be our co-workers!
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This may sound extreme to some, but when I have a customer who will not leave me alone and will not respond to me clearly telling him to do so, I call for security. I consider it harassment at that point.
So my answer would be to roll my eyes, walk away, tell him to leave me alone if he follows me, then call for security if he doesn't.
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SamanthaLasVegas
When someone uses this line I go alone with it completely... I say, your right I don't but I have to be here because I need to pay "xyz". Do you think you can help me get out of this (all of this in an ever-so-sweet voice). They usually don't have a good response so I say can I get your phone number so I can rely on you for support mentally and financially, just for awhile until I get on my feet, right (doe eyes)? It's just a fun game to play if you want to waste the time. They are used to hearing us defend this job so every once in awhile fuck with them back. :) They know why we are there and if they were girls they'd be our co-workers!
hahahaha!!! I'm just picturing this look : :scared: on their faces after that...LOL
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Lol, guys used to tell me all the time, "You're too pretty to work here."
I was always like, what does that even mean? How can you be too pretty to be a stripper? I'd think it would be the other way around, "Wow, you're way too butt-ugly to be taking your clothes off for a living."
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Kylea2
I used to get that type of thing all the time, I don't anymore though. I'm pretty open about my life. Once they realize I have multiple college degrees & I tell them "it took me X # of years to figure out I didn't need to keep my 9-5 job while dancing" they pretty much get the picture that I'm not meant for other types of work. I think when you are open about why you LOVE your job, then they realize that they would sound stupid if they tried convincing you otherwise.
I understand this but I don't think a stripclub customer needs to be privy to my personal choices about why I dance. It angers me that people make assumptions but I have stopped feeling the need to explain anything to anyone. I know who I am and don't feel the need to justify that to any Joe Shmoe waving a 20$ bill around because chances are he's decided in his mind that I am selling myself short in life and there is nothing I can say to change his mind and in the end it really doesn't matter anyway.
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SamanthaLasVegas
When someone uses this line I go alone with it completely... I say, your right I don't but I have to be here because I need to pay "xyz". Do you think you can help me get out of this (all of this in an ever-so-sweet voice). They usually don't have a good response so I say can I get your phone number so I can rely on you for support mentally and financially, just for awhile until I get on my feet, right (doe eyes)? It's just a fun game to play if you want to waste the time. They are used to hearing us defend this job so every once in awhile fuck with them back. :) They know why we are there and if they were girls they'd be our co-workers!
omg. why haven't i done this yet? i hope i remember it next time some guy bs's me. except i'll give him my ex's number and his wife's name. because why not kill 2 birds with 1 stone?
usually these days, i just assume that guys who pull this shit are brat subs who want to piss me off to get me to yell at them and hit them. but i don't believe in freebies. they need to pay up the way normal fetishists do.
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Pure
I understand this but I don't think a stripclub customer needs to be privy to my personal choices about why I dance. It angers me that people make assumptions but I have stopped feeling the need to explain anything to anyone. I know who I am and don't feel the need to justify that to any Joe Shmoe waving a 20$ bill around because chances are he's decided in his mind that I am selling myself short in life and there is nothing I can say to change his mind and in the end it really doesn't matter anyway.
Do what works for you. Again, I don't have people make such comments to me often, so I don't mind spending the few seconds it takes to explain it. When they hear what I say though it puts things in perspective for them that I want to be dancing & I hate the traditional work world even though I was successful with it. If people are making such comments to you all the time, many times a night, then I think you need to examine what you are exuding.
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Honestly... no matter what you're doing... you could always being doing something better.
There's always some job that's less demanding, or easier, or pays more, or where you could make more of a difference/help more people... ect.
Because of that... hearing it never bothered me.
Of course I could be doing something better... we all could. But we have to make our own decisions in life.
Next time you hear this... just smile and say "I can do better than this... but no one could do better than me... come get a dance and I'll show you."
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The "you could do better" thing usually translates to "I don't have any money but here's lots of unsolicited advice." Frustrating waste of time interacting with this type.
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girlfromipanema
The "you could do better" thing usually translates to "I don't have any money but here's lots of unsolicited advice." Frustrating waste of time interacting with this type.
you forgot "and you should leave with me now and fuck me for free"
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Kellydancer
Yep. When I was dancing I remember these guys coming in telling me I was too good to dance. They then mentioned that some store or fast food restaurant was hiring. I asked them why would I want to take a job making less money than I was, and their comment was its "less demeaning". Yeah being yelled at, cleaning toilets, etc is far less demeaning ::)
Speaking from experience.....waiting tables is FAR more demeaning/degrading than stripping. When people ask "Don't you think this job is degrading?" I tell them the 10 years I spent in corporate hell serving food was degrading, not this. Being called a "fucking cunt" by a customer cause I didn't bring him and his family napkins fast enough (true story) and winding up being in the wrong and having to apologize....as opposed to being able to walk away and call the nearest boucer over to have that person who verbally abuses me thrown out? No comparison.
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When I get it, I simply respond "Actually, I love my job. What other career lets me do X, Y, and Z?" If they persist, I wrap it up with a, "And the best part is, I can walk away from a customer whenever I want," and I proceed to do so.
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I hate it when men tell you you could do better than 'this'. I just respond by telling them that I can do better than them. There are some REALLY great responses in this thread though....I like the one about playing the guy.
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Kylea2
Do what works for you. Again, I don't have people make such comments to me often, so I don't mind spending the few seconds it takes to explain it. When they hear what I say though it puts things in perspective for them that I want to be dancing & I hate the traditional work world even though I was successful with it. If people are making such comments to you all the time, many times a night, then I think you need to examine what you are exuding.
No ma'am, I don't get these comments all the time but they annoy me just the same.I understand why some may feel the need to give a customer a certain perspective but for me it's just not worth the hassle. I work in a busy, high hustle environment so I just feel that time could be better spent making money instead of taking a few minutes to explain why I do what I do to a customer,unless of course he is paying me well to hear my innermost thoughts and life story. In that case, I have no problem explaining my reasoning.